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- Cottoncandy
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I think I got everything all wrong. Please help. Should I give up?
Hi everyone so I posted not too long ago about my situation with my guy. Everything seemed to be working well until he told me that he had been fired and thus not able to go back to my country. Anyway today I just found out that there is this girl who texted me more than a week ago on wechat. I rarely open that platform and don’t have any of my close friends there so I never replied her until today.
We met not too long at my guy’s company event. I knew that she was friends with my guy and we got along well. I actually liked her as a person and we even texted a bit after the event. She’s not from my country and one day she told me she wanted to visit me and my guy. I told her I would pick her up from the airport but she never replied back. So that was it. It was around October. I wished her happy new year and also asked her if she had heard from my guy around that time because I saw my guy commented on her posts. She told me she hadn’t. Today I replied her text and she just responded with an emoji. It was odd to me as she has always been very friendly. I tried to small talk her a bit and she didn’t reply me. But just now I saw that all her posts had disappeared. So I decided to send her a text and turns out she had blocked me. Now I have a feeling that my guy might have a thing with her. My question is am I doomed?
This girl is very charming. She’s curvy and has a nice face. She’s very sexual and experienced. I am the total opposite. I think they are more similar. I don’t know if I should give up? I wish I could hate her. But I don’t. Even if she had a thing with my guy from way before. I can’t put the blame entirely on her. After i found out about that. I immediately texted my guy saying that I’m sorry if I made hi or her uncomfortable. I know that was a stupid thing to do. I don’t know what to say anymore. Please anyone help me.
- Oasiscalm
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Re: I think I got everything all wrong. Please help. Should I give up?
This is a story you have constructed to feed your insecurity. Of all the stories you could have constructed you choose one that involved your guy.
Why?
- Cottoncandy
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Re: I think I got everything all wrong. Please help. Should I give up?
Oasiscalm wrote:
This is a story you have constructed to feed your insecurity. Of all the stories you could have constructed you choose one that involved your guy.
Why?
Because this girl is based in China and my guy just told me a few days ago that he was going to China for some job offer. Naturally they would meet up and maybe because she’s annoyed that I’m still talking to my guy she blocked me. I don’t know. I always feel intimidated around her.
Also because one of my closest guy friends (he’s my childhood boyfriend) just told me a few days ago that he thinks I’m not a wife material. He said it in a joking way but for some reason it just affected me because we did date very briefly when we were 13.
What can I do to get rid of the insecurity? Does law of attraction work in a really bad situation like this? I panicked That’s why I messaged him that. Can I fix this?
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Thread Starter- Oasiscalm
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Re: I think I got everything all wrong. Please help. Should I give up?
This is a story you have constructed to feed your insecurity. Of all the stories you could have constructed you choose one that involved your guy.
Why?
Because this girl is based in China and my guy just told me a few days ago that he was going to China for some job offer. Naturally they would meet up and maybe because she’s annoyed that I’m still talking to my guy she blocked me. I don’t know. I always feel intimidated around her.
Also because one of my closest guy friends (he’s my childhood boyfriend) just told me a few days ago that he thinks I’m not a wife material. He said it in a joking way but for some reason it just affected me because we did date very briefly when we were 13.
What can I do to get rid of the insecurity? Does law of attraction work in a really bad situation like this? I panicked That’s why I messaged him that. Can I fix this?
Yet you answer me with further made up reasons why your chosen story is true.
Yes you can fix but first you need to stop catasphorising to feed your fears and doubts.
When you can and believe a story about how you will get back together - as strongly as you have this negative story you will get your love back.
I read a story recently about John Legend and Chrissy Teigan - when they were dating he called her and told her he wanted to break up. She replied "no you don't " and hung up. She was that confident that she would keep her man.
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- Kingbob
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Re: I think I got everything all wrong. Please help. Should I give up?
Hi all.
M new here and to LoA. Here is my story.i need help and guidance.
After 9 yrs of dating,my guy stopped talking to me about a month back saying that he's dating a co worker and their relationship is serious.it is not a rebound relationship as they developed feelings over a period of time last year and told me in December.They have met each other's parents and he told me they will marry soon.He and I were in a long distance relationship. But so is he and his current gf. I begged n pleaded for him to give me a chance.he did not listen to me and has become indifferent towards me. He doesn't bother about me at all.even if I message him, he ignores me. And sometimes he sends me their pic together and he has even changed his look for her. He tells me that he has found his dream girl who is much better than me and for the first time he feels what love is.
All this is killing me from inside and i have blocked him on WhatsApp as i cant deal with him ignoring me.n that urge of messaging and calling him doesn't go away.m I right in blocking him?.I know I have been insecure and possessive and I caused this. Im working on loving myself and being secure.But I want to get back with him in a romantic committed relationship asap. I want to marry him at the earliest. Please help me out here.i need your coaching and help and guidance to help me be with him again. Please help me out.I don't have any other desire or wish as I'm truly blessed in other areas such as family,friends, health etc.
Please help me.get him back at the earliest and get married to him soon. I just want to be his wife. Please help me.
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