Sanshi wrote:

Cottoncandy wrote:

Sorry if I sound dumb, so are you saying that I should ignore whatever is going on and acting as if things are okay and as if I am already in a relationship with this guy regardless of our current situation. I should act as if I am already in a relationship but with no contact? Does it mean that I should stop visualising him saying the stuff that I want him to say? Thank you
 

You don't sound dumb. The concept is very far from everything we have learned before.

No, it's not about ignoring or acting as if. In fact, it's not at all about the reflection. What you assume as true is that the past influences the present. So, in order for xy to happen ab has to happen first. And that's not the case. Well, in a sense it is, because you always (or at least mostly) see a logical development from point A to point B and then you think it would have happened anyway. But the truth is that point A is a state of consciousness and point B is a state of consciousness. The only thing you have to do is to shift from consciousness A to consciousness B. This shift is reflected in your reality through a bridge of incidences like he messaged you, he wanted to see you, he told you he wants you back..boom. But that events doesn't matter, because they are only the result of your shift of consciousness.

Knowing that reality is just a reflection of consciousness, we don't need to give it any attention anymore. Think about a mirror. You look into it maybe a few times a day to check if everything is all right. Then you know that you have to adjust in real life. You don't think about the reflection all the time. It's just an indicator. When you don't look at it, you wouldn't say that you ignore it. It's just that you extracted all the information you needed from it and it isn't useful aynmore in that moment. When you think about "ignoring reality", you give it some power like "it is there, but I will give it no attention..even though it is there. Did I mention that it's there? But I will give my best to ignore it". That's very forced, doesn't work and isn't at all what you want to do. It's more like my example with the mirror. You realise that this reflection has no power over you because it's just a reflection. How can a reflection have power? The power lies within the refleced and that's you.

What you are used to do is to base your state of consciousness on "reality". You see something and that makes you sad. You hear someone say something nice and that makes you happy. That's what we have learned, that's what we see all around us. Because of that bad habit we feel that our state of consciousness depends on what we see or hear. But (and that's really important and what makes you miss the point I made before): Our state of consciousness is completely independent from reality! You see that in children. When they play family they don't say "hm..but I am way too young to have children. How can I be your father?". They simply BECOME the father. They don't play the father, not really. They are the father in that moment. They pour their heart and soul into being the father. They forget that they are the little James and become the father. And that's exactly what you need to learn again. You were able to do it as a child, you just need to go back to back then. A good exercise btw. You could feel yourself to be your kindergarten self again for example.

So you basically move within consciousness into a new state by feeling that that is already the way it is. The key hear is the feeling that it is real. That is the thing that manifests stuff. When you KNOW that something is, it is. Can't be any other way. So, you don't have to do any strange actions. That would be silly. But when you have moved in consciousness, you will feel it. Your thought processes will change, you will remember things you couldn't remember before and you will stop remembering things you used to remember often before (around the desire, not in general). Also your emotions around the subject will most likely change.

So basically, the only thing you do is change in consciousness. You become the person you want to be (the one who is in a happy relationship with him). You don't have to change him or anything. It's just about the person you are. You don't have to visualise him to say anything. Think about..what would be natural to visualise when you are with him? By visualising I mean your every day imagining..the images you see for a fraction of a second. You probably wouldn't imagine him saying anything. Maybe you would remember him saying something. Remembering is nothing other than imagining, but it's in the past. It feels differently. It feels further away. After you have changed your state of consciousness, you will automatically imagine certain scenes that are natural for the state.

Hi Sanshi,

Thank you for taking the time to write this long and very detailed explanation. Yeah it make sense. I agree that I focused too much on the development from point a to point b.

True remembering feels different, sometimes while visualing things, I naturally remember things. But there are limited real memories that I can remember, does it mean that I have to remember fake memories until they feel real to me? Thank you