Ask Sanshi nicely and she will come and throw some Neville quotes at you to shed some light on where u are going wrong. 😂😂

Long story short - you are spending to much time observing your current reality and not focusing and aligning with your end desire.

Sanshi wrote:

Oasiscalm wrote:

Ask Sanshi nicely and she will come and throw some Neville quotes at you to shed some light on where u are going wrong. 😂😂.

Lol..I am afraid I have to disappoint you. I am not that good at quoting Neville. It's just because I reread some of his books right now and sometimes I stumble over something that makes it very clear. But I will do my best to use my own words for it.

Cottoncandy wrote:

Hi everyone, so I had been trying to manifest my love back into my life. I did the 25 days challenge and even went on holiday to just enjoy myself and let my desire manifest. Things were great and my love even texted me and asked me to meet. But when that happened I was still on holiday. When I got back, I contacted him but he told me he had gone back to his home country because his mother’s health suddenly deteriorated. he told me that he’d be back soon after new year because he has work here. I didn’t have any negative thoughts during our time away as we were on good terms already. But he didn’t contact me at all during his time away not even merry Christmas or happy new year. I tried to be understanding because obviously he was stressed with his mother’s condition. I did text him happy new year and he just read my text. I thought it was very weird so I tried calling him. I was so surprised when he told me that he can’t come back as he had been fired. I cried on the phone and he was just telling not to get too emotional because he’s a jobless man now. I don’t understand we’re finally on good terms again. Why there are so many obstacles? Now we can’t even be in the same country. I don’t know what I did wrong. During my time away I saw his name everywhere, I saw number 11 and 22 a alot. I read that those are angel’s number. But why this happened? Thank you so much for taking the time to read this, any advice is appreciated.

Basically what Oasiscalm already said.

Think about where you are coming from in relationship to your desire. I don't have to guess here, because you made it very clear in your post. You are right now the girl who tries to be in a relationship with a guy, but it doesn't work out as you would like it to. That's what you are identified with right now and that's where you are going wrong. Who were you were you already in the relationship? How would you feel about your guy? what would your thought processes be like? You probably would agree with me that they were very different. But it's not about just thinking different thoughts. It's about becoming the person that would think those thoughts naturally. That's your job - move in consciousness to that version of you. You can savely ignore whatever has happened in the past, be it a year ago or a day ago. It has no meaning, because the only cause for it is who you were and you keep it alive by being who you are. So don't worry about what is, but change the cause. You are the cause, so nothing to change but self and everything will fall into place in the most perfect way unless you don't go back to your former consciousness and start to observe "reality".

Sorry if I sound dumb, so are you saying that I should ignore whatever is going on and acting as if things are okay and as if I am already in a relationship with this guy regardless of our current situation. I should act as if I am already in a relationship but with no contact? Does it mean that I should stop visualising him saying the stuff that I want him to say? Thank you
 

Cottoncandy wrote:

Sorry if I sound dumb, so are you saying that I should ignore whatever is going on and acting as if things are okay and as if I am already in a relationship with this guy regardless of our current situation. I should act as if I am already in a relationship but with no contact? Does it mean that I should stop visualising him saying the stuff that I want him to say? Thank you
 

You don't sound dumb. The concept is very far from everything we have learned before.

No, it's not about ignoring or acting as if. In fact, it's not at all about the reflection. What you assume as true is that the past influences the present. So, in order for xy to happen ab has to happen first. And that's not the case. Well, in a sense it is, because you always (or at least mostly) see a logical development from point A to point B and then you think it would have happened anyway. But the truth is that point A is a state of consciousness and point B is a state of consciousness. The only thing you have to do is to shift from consciousness A to consciousness B. This shift is reflected in your reality through a bridge of incidences like he messaged you, he wanted to see you, he told you he wants you back..boom. But that events doesn't matter, because they are only the result of your shift of consciousness.

Knowing that reality is just a reflection of consciousness, we don't need to give it any attention anymore. Think about a mirror. You look into it maybe a few times a day to check if everything is all right. Then you know that you have to adjust in real life. You don't think about the reflection all the time. It's just an indicator. When you don't look at it, you wouldn't say that you ignore it. It's just that you extracted all the information you needed from it and it isn't useful aynmore in that moment. When you think about "ignoring reality", you give it some power like "it is there, but I will give it no attention..even though it is there. Did I mention that it's there? But I will give my best to ignore it". That's very forced, doesn't work and isn't at all what you want to do. It's more like my example with the mirror. You realise that this reflection has no power over you because it's just a reflection. How can a reflection have power? The power lies within the refleced and that's you.

What you are used to do is to base your state of consciousness on "reality". You see something and that makes you sad. You hear someone say something nice and that makes you happy. That's what we have learned, that's what we see all around us. Because of that bad habit we feel that our state of consciousness depends on what we see or hear. But (and that's really important and what makes you miss the point I made before): Our state of consciousness is completely independent from reality! You see that in children. When they play family they don't say "hm..but I am way too young to have children. How can I be your father?". They simply BECOME the father. They don't play the father, not really. They are the father in that moment. They pour their heart and soul into being the father. They forget that they are the little James and become the father. And that's exactly what you need to learn again. You were able to do it as a child, you just need to go back to back then. A good exercise btw. You could feel yourself to be your kindergarten self again for example.

So you basically move within consciousness into a new state by feeling that that is already the way it is. The key hear is the feeling that it is real. That is the thing that manifests stuff. When you KNOW that something is, it is. Can't be any other way. So, you don't have to do any strange actions. That would be silly. But when you have moved in consciousness, you will feel it. Your thought processes will change, you will remember things you couldn't remember before and you will stop remembering things you used to remember often before (around the desire, not in general). Also your emotions around the subject will most likely change.

So basically, the only thing you do is change in consciousness. You become the person you want to be (the one who is in a happy relationship with him). You don't have to change him or anything. It's just about the person you are. You don't have to visualise him to say anything. Think about..what would be natural to visualise when you are with him? By visualising I mean your every day imagining..the images you see for a fraction of a second. You probably wouldn't imagine him saying anything. Maybe you would remember him saying something. Remembering is nothing other than imagining, but it's in the past. It feels differently. It feels further away. After you have changed your state of consciousness, you will automatically imagine certain scenes that are natural for the state.

Cottoncandy wrote:

Sorry if I sound dumb, so are you saying that I should ignore whatever is going on and acting as if things are okay and as if I am already in a relationship with this guy regardless of our current situation. I should act as if I am already in a relationship but with no contact? Does it mean that I should stop visualising him saying the stuff that I want him to say? Thank you

" A fixed attitude of mind, a feeling that it is done will make it so. If I would suspend judgement like Peter I would walk on water.
Peter starts walking on water and then begins to look into his own understanding and begins to go down.
The voice said "Look up Peter" Peter looks up and rises again and continues walking on water.
Instead of looking down you simply know that it is already so...."

Ignore ignore ignore - the evidence for what you desire is within you and your mind. Don't seek for it in the current reality until it shows itself to you.

How you bring yourself to ignore things is a personal action and u may have to try different ways until it comes natural. But it's really just about staying true to what you want.

Cottoncandy wrote:

I should act as if I am already in a relationship but with no contact?

Because you have written it like this I would advise to not attempt any acting as if. Start practising getting yourself to the knowing state. You don't have to act as if - you just have to progress to knowing.

Think of an event you have coming up in say a months time. You know it's going to happen. You aren't acting as if - you just know. It's all about knowing - no acting - no role playing - no rituals - just knowing.

Cottoncandy wrote:

Does it mean that I should stop visualising him saying the stuff that I want him to say? Thank you

Anything you do - make sure you know why you are doing it and how to do it. You don't need to stop visualising - just ensure that the practice of visualising is serving you by doing it correctly.

A further small bit of advice is visualise the bigger picture. When you stay in the space of visualising "stuff you want him to say" you continue to vibrate at that level. Go big, go to the end visualise the relationship in its fullness. To have a flourishing relationship implies that he has said all the stuff u wanted but this way takes you to the end goal.

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Oasiscalm wrote:

Cottoncandy wrote:

Sorry if I sound dumb, so are you saying that I should ignore whatever is going on and acting as if things are okay and as if I am already in a relationship with this guy regardless of our current situation. I should act as if I am already in a relationship but with no contact? Does it mean that I should stop visualising him saying the stuff that I want him to say? Thank you

" A fixed attitude of mind, a feeling that it is done will make it so. If I would suspend judgement like Peter I would walk on water.
Peter starts walking on water and then begins to look into his own understanding and begins to go down.
The voice said "Look up Peter" Peter looks up and rises again and continues walking on water.
Instead of looking down you simply know that it is already so...."

Ignore ignore ignore - the evidence for what you desire is within you and your mind. Don't seek for it in the current reality until it shows itself to you.

How you bring yourself to ignore things is a personal action and u may have to try different ways until it comes natural. But it's really just about staying true to what you want.

Cottoncandy wrote:

I should act as if I am already in a relationship but with no contact?

Because you have written it like this I would advise to not attempt any acting as if. Start practising getting yourself to the knowing state. You don't have to act as if - you just have to progress to knowing.

Think of an event you have coming up in say a months time. You know it's going to happen. You aren't acting as if - you just know. It's all about knowing - no acting - no role playing - no rituals - just knowing.

Cottoncandy wrote:

Does it mean that I should stop visualising him saying the stuff that I want him to say? Thank you

Anything you do - make sure you know why you are doing it and how to do it. You don't need to stop visualising - just ensure that the practice of visualising is serving you by doing it correctly.

A further small bit of advice is visualise the bigger picture. When you stay in the space of visualising "stuff you want him to say" you continue to vibrate at that level. Go big, go to the end visualise the relationship in its fullness. To have a flourishing relationship implies that he has said all the stuff u wanted but this way takes you to the end goal.

Thank you Oasiscalm for your reply.

This actually make sense. I’m currently dealing with other problem in my life that doesn’t involve my love and I just realised that I can apply the law of attraction to solve that problem as well.

Yeah true I never dare to visualise the bigger picture because I always thought that the smaller things have to happen first before I can imagine the bigger things.

So, thank you so much for your advice and making me realise that I can use the law of attraction to fix literally everything in my life.