Oasiscalm wrote:

I think I said more than that, but if that's what you are hearing.

Then yes don't focus on any of the negative things and keep your focus on your desire.

Alright.....thanks.
 

fizzy wrote:

Oasiscalm wrote:

When you fill yourself up, you wont make statements like " in our past relationship this happened and that happened, so I'm scared etc..." Because firstly you will know that you aren't the same person and secondly you know that what happened was a direct reflection of the state you were in at that time.

Coming back to this, I think responding to this part in particular will help me with what I am looking for. I want to know the mechanics of how things work. That was my intention with the post the whole time. With that being said and with what you said here.....The relationship CAN’T manifest until I get to this point? I’m asking this because again, this is the approach I am coming from. I want to know what is possible more than what is advisable, if that makes sense. If you are speaking of confidence in manifesting ability here, yes I do have that.

I'm unclear on the specific question you want me to address.

Please ask the question with no background of your story so I'm clear. Thanks

fizzy wrote:

Oasiscalm wrote:

I'm unclear on the specific question you want me to address.

Please ask the question with no background of your story so I'm clear. Thanks

Sorry. I'm trying to make it clear! I'll ask with zero background info.

Basically can you feel whatever way about yourself around someone and about other parts of your life, but as long as you feel confident that you can manifest a relationship with someone and believe that this person loves you and accepts you no matter how you feel, then you can manifest a relationship like that with them?

I know that it's advisable to love yourself and not rely on the other person for love and acceptance. I get all that but I'm wondering if the above is really all that's needed for the relationship to manifest because I have read that it's not all about self love. Just trying to understand the workings of it all. 
 

It sounds like you are asking - can you feel not that great about yourself but still manifest a person if you can just believe they want you. And I'm saying to you - in my opinion the two are incompatible.

You want me to stay yes. So YES - just focus all your energy on believing he will accept you as you are and he will return. In principle thats the formula.

I will give you an example - let's say I'm overweight and feel unattractive. And I keep telling myself that my person doesn't want me because I'm overweight and attractive. That belief becomes so strong that, that's what I'm radiating. And that is a recipe to repel him.

Now there are two ways to reverse the situation
1 - Accept and love myself as I am. See that I am desirable and that he or anyone will want me exactly as I am. I can even say I know I need to lose a little weight (for myself) but he loves me for me.

2 - Say I'm overweight and unattractive but I'm going to make myself believe my love loves me exactly as I am.

I'm saying that doing it the second way is so much harder when you don't accept and love yourself first -  before you look to another person to love you as you are. You will struggle and even if you manifest him back those old beliefs will keep haunting you and destroy the relationship until you let them go.

So yes ultimately you just need to belief he wants you - but understand beliefs don't stand on their own they are interlinked to other beliefs - so to make a belief stick you need it to be compatible with your whole self talk.

Good luck - I hope I was being clear.

Read around - I'm just one opinion - someone may come and give you another outlook on your situation.

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