What do you hope to get out of messaging him? And what do you expect to happen when you do? That two questions sound pretty similar, but when you are honest, they may have two very different answers.

It is never the action that matters. It's always the place where the action is coming from that decides the outcome of it.

Nothing is impossible wrote:

Hi, i want him to know that he can talk to me, and that im here for him. Not just to get him back but just to let him know im here if he wants to talk.  I know he is broken, i havent talked to him in long time  but he really loved his little cousin. I met his cousin too before. I can also imagine how hard it is to lose someone.. I actually dont know what to expect. Its a big ???  I am positive. What would u advice me to do?

Well, where should I start? So I see two different desires here. You want that he gets better soon/is happy and you want a relationship with him. I assume you aren't too deep into all that stuff we talk about here (or at least I talk about) yet, so what I say may be confusing to you. I try it anyway.

First, you can never get to a certain point with taking action. You maybe think that talking to someone would make him feel better, but what actually makes him feel better is what he imagines to be true. When he believes that talking would help him, that's his experience. Not not because of the talking, but because of his belief. Same thing with you...if you believe that talking will make him feel better, that's what you will see. But again, it's not the talking. You could skip the talking and just assume that he is already feeling better. See him as the person you want him to see. KNOW that it's already true. That's a) the most effective way to do it, because that's the only way change comes about anyway (by imagining/knowing that it's true) an b) it's probably the best way for you, because chances are that you are still holding on to stuff about him that isn't serving you and if you would contact him, it could backfire.

"not just to get him back"
Well, that shows clearly where you are coming from. Drop thinking that any action could change your situation. "When I am there for him and listen to him, he will feel what he has lost and want me back". No! Not the way it works.

Now that I have told you what it is you are creating with (with your knowing, with what you feel to be real), you maybe want to work on some things like:
" I know he is broken"
" I can also imagine how hard it is to lose someone"

So my advice would be, if you care about his wellbeing, change those assumptions and see him as a happy person. That's the most you can do for him.

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This law isn't about your thinking. I know that most teacher say that, but most people who listen to those teachers aren't very successful. So it's worth to find out what it's really about.
That it can backfire, if you message him isn't really accurate. The messaging does really nothing. Could go in every direction. It depends on what you feel about the messaging. You expect him to react a certain way, you have certain fears what could happen and so on. Everything that you feel true about him and contacting him is what will happen. If you would imagine how happy he would be about your message, how it would lift him up and how it would benefit you both, then you can go for it. But I think you imagine something else, else you wouldn't ask that question. Notice that by imagining I don't mean visualising or anything like that. I mean what comes up naturally, when you think about texting him.

Nothing is impossible wrote:

I do imagine him being happy but i also have some thinking because some people told me it can backfire and the best is to wait. Its because im bussy manifasting a message from him. I dont know if im the one contacting first i backfire what ive been manifasting about. Im new to this thats why. Ive asked for a mesaage from him and now im just waiting to receive. But now with this i felt like i want to be there for him. I will check

What do those people tell you you have to wait for? When you are waiting for something, you are always on the wrong path.

And why do you want to manifest a message? Is that what you want? Or is it what you think it necessary to get what you want? If it's the second - and I assume it is, drop it and go to the end.

Forget ask, believe, receive. It's crap. There is nothing to ask and I already told you something about waiting. It's merely about what you believe to be true. If you can get to believe that you are happily together NOW, that's it. Nothing more to do than that.

Nothing is impossible wrote:

Hi, they say wait for it cause i still need to work on myself. They say its called self love, love yourself soo deep, send him love and then he will nake contact by himself. They also say that when you stay away and have no contactg, the person will start to miss you. I understand what you mean. If i imagine it, in my mind then it will happen. its what i create in my mind.

Let me tell you...working on yourself is great but has nothing to do with manifesting. Self love is great but has nothing to do with manifesting. Sending him love is just new age crap. I stayed away from an ex from 9 years ago and he hadn't make contact, so "what they say" can't be accurate. I would be very critical about "what they say", because most of them don't have what the want and have done "what they say" for months themselves without having success with it. I know - universe has it's time (that's crap too btw).
If by imagining you mean seeing images in your mind then no, that's not the way you create. The way you create is by feeling something to be true.