The words, “it’s not over” keeps playing in my mind. Any idea why?

Sanshi wrote:

authenticself wrote:

I can feel that block in our energy when it comes to dating again. I still want to be with him, and I feel like I am not given a fair chance. I was hoping that things would change......but he still won’t give me a chance and it makes me cry because apart of me believes it can be rewritten, but something is still blocking that opportunity. It feels like no matter what I cannot have him.....

It has nothing to do with him. You alone are blocking it and you are telling us very clearly how you block it (the red marked passages). It's especially good that you started the sentences with the word "feel", because that's exactly it. You are feeling this real. When you think that sentence, notice the feeling that comes with it. Not the emotion, but the conviction that it's true. You say that a part of you believes in something else. Does that part feel the same conviction? I doubt it. That's what you have to work on in order to change things.

Honestly, had you not done that I would have not noticed.

I think about him, every day. He left me about 8 months ago, crying on the phone, saying he couldn't see me anymore because he was making me unhappy... while a couple of weeks before he said he would do everything fo our relationship to be better. It wasn't even bad. I am sure he feels unworthy of me and I don't agree. I was devastated, than angry, now more or less ok but my feelings are so strong for him and I have so many doubts that he will not come back while trying too manifest him back. I wish I had a turn off button for my brain, it would be so much simpler. Why love a man who doesn't want you. He told me in so many ways how I was the woman of his dreams, etc. It just doesn't make any sense. I listened to all the videos, did the 25 day challenge. So tired and deceived. I feel hopeful for a day and then the next day is the opposite. Help

Last edited by Christine (1/18/2018 9:04 pm)

Cynthia wrote:

Christine wrote:

I think about him, every day. He left me about 8 months ago, crying on the phone, saying he couldn't see me anymore because he was making me unhappy... while a couple of weeks before he said he would do everything fo our relationship to be better. It wasn't even bad. I am sure he feels unworthy of me and I don't agree. I was devastated, than angry, now more or less ok but my feelings are so strong for him and I have so many doubts that he will not come back while trying too manifest him back. I wish I had a turn off button for my brain, it would be so much simpler. Why love a man who doesn't want you. He told me in so many ways how I was the woman of his dreams, etc. It just doesn't make any sense. I listened to all the videos, did the 25 day challenge. So tired and deceived. I feel hopeful for a day and then the next day is the opposite. Help

 I know it can be difficult, but what you need to do is put all of that negative stuff out of your mind and imagine that things are exactly the way you want them to be already, right now. When those negative thoughts come up, turn your mind away from them to what you do want. I know what it's like. Mine has got some emotional issues from childhood traumas that has been one of the biggest problems. I've gone through much the same thing with wanting the person but sometimes having those negative thoughts pop up and having that battle going on in my mind between the two, that we'll be together, then feeling it's impossible, but I don't really believe it's impossible at all. We've got too much going for us not to be together. Ignore all of that negativity. What goes on in your imagination is what creates reality, so have faith, belief, and persistence, and don't give up unless you decide you want to.

Thank you Cynthia, just what I needed to hear : ) yes he also had childhood trauma, and a week before he left me his family got together to tell him basically that he's a looser : ( in hope that he would get a better job and live life better. But I love him besides his lack of $. He has a wonderful heart.