Is the text message what you want? Or would you be okay with a call or him coming over? If you answer this question with yes, you are not going for what you want. You think that you have to micromanage things. But you don't. Just go to what you want and I bet it's not really a text message.

Another thing...why did you get scared?
 

Sanshi wrote:

Is the text message what you want? Or would you be okay with a call or him coming over? If you answer this question with yes, you are not going for what you want. You think that you have to micromanage things. But you don't. Just go to what you want and I bet it's not really a text message.

Another thing...why did you get scared?
 

What do you mean by micromanage things?

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

What do you mean by micromanage things?

Worrying about the mini steps, texts, communicating etc rather than the end result - which is what? Relationship? Marriage? Babies? Growing old together? Or just a fun relationship?

The end result. How do I manifest that?

Sanshi wrote:

Jnc1207 wrote:

Sanshi wrote:

Is the text message what you want? Or would you be okay with a call or him coming over? If you answer this question with yes, you are not going for what you want. You think that you have to micromanage things. But you don't. Just go to what you want and I bet it's not really a text message.

Another thing...why did you get scared?
 

It is a text message that I want because that’s our usual form of communication. We never talked on the phone before and he has never been over at my house. I got scared because I thought he wouldn’t answer me when I asked him what time he wanted to hang out

I don't know what it is you want, but it's surely not the text. The "smallest" desire I see here is wanting to hang out, but probably a relationship. So go for that instead of attracting texts. If you were in a happy relationship, you wouldn't wish for a text, right? It would come naturally. That's what I mean by micromanaging. You don't have to work out every single step on the way. You just assume that what you want to be is already true and everything else will fall into place - maybe not the way you thought it would (could be a call instead of a text), but it's not really important how you get to your end goal.

So you thought that he wouldn't reply and he didn't? See, you are already perfect with this. Now just do the same in your favor. The reason why I asked why you were scared is this: We always give meaning to things, words, actions or even words that weren't spoken. You gave meaning to him not replying. Maybe you saw that he read it, but didn't reply and gave meaning to that ("oh no, he usually always replies immediately when he read my messages, that has to mean that he won't reply"). Maybe you panicked even earlier before he saw your message, because you assumed that this was a possibility. Whichever it is, the reason why he didn't reply is your adding meaning or assuming something about the situation. Watch those reactions carefully. They tell you where you are coming from and what will come next.

How do I manifest us hanging out then? I never texted him what time I wanted to hang out with him. I wanted to but I got really scared and wanted to play “hard-to-get”.

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Sanshi wrote:

Feel that you had an amazing day together.

How would I do that?