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Hi... i'm having hard time last few day.. yesterday i was almost in depression, mostly because of the weather here.. but i started to repeat "thank you, i love you" and i got into a vortex. I wasn't thinking about him at all and suddenly i got an idea to write him after almost two months of no contact and ask him to be friends with benefits. I know it sounds crazy but i really felt urge to do it.. I was really excited about it but i let it be. Today i was vibing really high and felt confident. So i wrote him and asked him..Then i started toto feel nervous but not in a wrong sense.. but then he replaid.. he was very unfriendly and said no, so i decided to let him be.. i know he is only reflection of my beliefs and vibrations, but i was deep down really expecting him to agree on in... how could i manifest this kind of response? I feel lost again like i can't do it... it's depressing... i want to know.. are people reflection of my current vibrations or are they kind of slow motion reply to my vibrations from one week ago?
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MiciJones wrote:
suddenly i got an idea to write him after almost two months of no contact and ask him to be friends with benefits. I know it sounds crazy
IT DOES!
No,no, no DON'T do it. It smacks of desperation, to have this guy at all costs, at the cost of your self respect. You've shown him you are happy to accept far less than the best and he has refused even that.
Please don't go there.
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I feel lost again like i can't do it... it's depressing... i want to know.. are people reflection of my current vibrations or are they kind of slow motion reply to my vibrations from one week ago?
They reflect back what you feel real deep down about you, them and the world. Why would you feel nervous, if you expected him to accept your offer? Doesn't make sense. You weren't as confident as you say and I bet your desire isn't being friends with benefits. And if you want to use it as a middle, I would agree with PrettyFlamingo. It sounds pretty desperate. You should get clear on what you want.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
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You're right. I claim to myself things that i can't feel yet. I should work on my confidence.
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Friends with benefits means I don't respect myself or love myself enough to get the full thing. I know this I have done it. Work on selflove!
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Friends with benefits means I don't respect myself or love myself enough to get the full thing. I know this I have done it. Work on selflove!
Friends with benefits means whatever meaning you assign to it.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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Friends with benefits means I don't respect myself or love myself enough to get the full thing. I know this I have done it. Work on selflove!
Friends with benefits means whatever meaning you assign to it.
I assume friends with benefits means sex. Based on what she is saying I can relate you think you are ok with it but you aren't. It's basically a way to hold on to him because you fear losing him. But basically you need to get away from that to get him back.
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Friends with benefits means I don't respect myself or love myself enough to get the full thing. I know this I have done it. Work on selflove!
Friends with benefits means whatever meaning you assign to it.
I assume friends with benefits means sex. Based on what she is saying I can relate you think you are ok with it but you aren't. It's basically a way to hold on to him because you fear losing him. But basically you need to get away from that to get him back.
I don't mean what the verbal expression means. I mean what meaning you assign to the concept. You stated that very clearly. But you don't have to assign that meaning. I understand where you are coming from of course and I assign the same meaning to it. I just was laying besides a handsome, nice, intelligent, naked guy a few days ago and was like "nooo, that's not for me, have a nice evening". It could have been a beautiful experience for both of us, but the meaning I assign to it and what I believe about myself ("I am not that kind of girl") kept me from doing it, because I knew that from that state I wouldn't be able to enjoy it. But you could assign other meaning to it. You could say: "BWHAHAHA, I used that guy!!!" or "We had both a good time, that was worth it". What's important is how you feel about it. I am sure there are people who do respect themselves and have such type of relationship. They add other meaning to it and they surely don't do it, because they are desperate or want a relationship. They do it, because they enjoy it. If you come from such a state, there is nothing bad about it. But I agree with you - if you take it into account with someone you still have feelings for, it's likely that you don't do it just for the experience.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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