You start with loving yourself and then from that place you can get practically anything. You see it's because you are in such a high vibe people become attracted to you. Bt it all starts with loving you. My guy was in a relationship that seemed perfect and once I thought he was done with me for good. But he wasn't once I started working on me and was truly happy he came back. It seems like magic but really all you are doing is becoming a bette version of yourself and people are attracted to things like that. You also have an easier time letting go because you are happy now therefore the universe feels your vibration and can bring good things to you. You attract what you are. So yes it kinda is magic but really it's you and your vibration that brings you what you want but you must love you seriouslh

AnythingIsPossible wrote:

Thanks for the response Selfloveiskey! I went back and read a lot of your posts. You preach self love and that really seems to be the "magic". When you have self love letting go and everything else comes naturally. I'm going to start by challenging myself to one week of 100% commitment to self love and no negativity. I know this will need to become a lifestyle, but I have to challenge myself or else I'll fall back into the same negative thought patterns. Thanks again

You got this all it is is consistent practice. Treat yourself with the love you treat others. Everyone has different hobbies and passions do them and remind yourself that the everything starts within. Relying on other people for it doesn't work and that puts way too much pressure on them. Now we aren't perfect we are human just keep at it even if you have a down moment it's not that moment that defines you it's how you learn and pick yourself up. Loving yourself isn't being selfish in fact it's the opposite you can't show love to others really if you don't know how to love yourself. Love yourself and radiate that same love to others. It's really simple😊

AnythingIsPossible wrote:

I actually have one more question for you.. how did you get over not thinking about your guy and the other girl? I tend to go deep into negativity thinking about them together. Like while I'm over here he's over there making memories with her: talking on the phone, facetiming, and it's almost Christmas so they're buying each other gifts, spending time together etc. It's hard because I want to be doing those things with him and they're growing closer together which is going to make it harder for him to come back to me

It didn't happen over night but I was consistent because I was tired of feeling terrible and I got tired of relying on other people for my happiness sure they can contribute but they shouldn't be the sole keeper of it. So I started with the book love yourself like your life depends on it. I literally told myself for a week straight all day I love myself . Anytime they came in I would say several things
1) if i love myself would I put that thought in my head? Obviously not sooooo let's change the thought too I love myself
2) the universe knows what I want just let go and let it fall into place
3) what can I do right now to make myself happy?

Now at first it feels like it makes no difference but like with everything it takes consistency. After awhile those thoughts become more dominant and even more positive self talk comes in. There are other things I did through out the day such as a five minute meditation saying I love myself and the mirror technique looking in there mirror at myself in the eye saying that I love myself and I am worthy of my desires. It helped a lot and slowly I got to a place where I can tell myself it doesn't matter wha he does. I put the intention out there the universe knows. I now just focus on feeling peaceful and maintaining this positive self talk because to me it's more important. Things flow when you do that but the feeling that you have when you do this there is no price on peace

I haven't read all the posts before, but I would strongly recommend that you dive deeper into the deeper teachings like Neville or Bentinho. Some people just have a talent for this, apply it intuitively and it works for them. But most people have to work on this. If they choose not to work on it and apply whatever they hear from others without having a clue what they do, they suffer unncessarily. We see that all around the forum. A bunch of people who hold on to their exes, keep being hurt even though they could already have healed much more and are stuck in that state for months or even for years. I explained yesterday that you have to change your consciousness in order to get your desire. But before you are able to do that, you have to confront the way you go about things and get rid of bad habits. Just because everybody does something, it doesn't mean it's healthy. You are thinking about stuff you don't need to think about. You are even speaking about it? Why? I assume you think that you will feel better afterwards, but it won't help you in the long run. Or you think that others can only help when they know your story and that's not true. Nobody needs to know your story. There is only one answer. What you have to do for every desire is always the same. There is nothing that can hold you back, if you do it right. There are no impossible circumstances. In fact, I start to don't feel differences between "big" and "small" anymore. God created the whole world. You probably would see that as impossible, wouldn't you? You have to really study that stuff. You have to grasp that this is not about the manifestation. The manifestation is just a side product.