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Hello lovely people. I wanted to share some followup story with you. I recently made a post here titled "seeing my ex". I'm feeling low right now and want to get out of it.
So, my job sent me to a big conference in Tennessee and I manifested my ex going to it too and being on the same flight with me. At first I was excited seeing him after such a long time and we were all having a really good time. I was traveling with a friend from work who he knows because he used to work with us when I met him.
The first night and following day of the conference he ended up spending every minute with us and was following me around like a puppy. We had a good time laughing together, being flirty and happy, going out to dinners, like we used to be back in the day.
When we got back from dinner my friend was tired and went to bed but we decided to hang out just us too a little longer. He wanted to see the city from the top of the hotel so we rode the elevator to the 25th floor and then went down to the lobby and sat on a couch and talked a while. We were catching up talking about the changed in our lives since we've been apart but I was becoming more and more uncomfortable as time went. He was telling me about this amazing place him and his girlfriend moved into recently and I got irritated. I got up and said "this is awkward, I don't want to talk about you and her. One day you were with me and the next day with her. You really hurt me!" I stormed off and went to my room. He then texted me "I'm sorry I upset you, try to get some rest".
I couldn't sleep that night and my mind was racing. Next day of the conference was horrible, I cried so much my eyes were red and puffy all day. Was nervous running into him again or seeing him but he didn't contact me or try to find me. The day went very slow. When it was lunch time me and my friend found a seat at a table with a few other people. It is a huge dining room with thousands of people attending but he ended up sitting at a table right across from us but I avoided any eye contact with him but took a glimpse at him now and then. He seemed quieter than usual and didn't engage the people eating with him a lot. I didnt want him to see me cry and stayed calm during lunch. That was the last I've seen of him that day and we caught our flight back home later that day. I was so exhausted and felt defeated. I know that I need to get myself out of this vibe but this weekend took the wind out of my sails. It felt like such a low blow acting like nothing changed between us but bragging about his "perfect" new life with the girl he replaced me with a day after we ended things.
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Keep the positive vibes up! I definitely understand how you feel! Though the fact that he was hanging out with you and talking etc showed that your positive energy attracted him towards you. I wouldnβt worry about this new girlfriend, there are no obstacles to what you want only the obstacles you create. If you think of this girlfriend as an obstacle she will be one. Remember you are a creator and you can get whatever your want! Just remember you are worth it and like someone told me today βyou deserve what you wantβ. Love yourself, know that you are awesome, know that you have the power to create your future if you just allow yourself to trust and believe in yourself!
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Thank you for your encouragement. I actually don't see her as a big obstacle but was taken a back by the leap they made in their relationship so quickly. A couple of weeks ago he texted me out of the blue to find out if I was attending that conference and ended up texting with me from 9pm to 1am so I assumed that she wasn't around and didn't move with him but guess he was doing that behind her back. I believe that they will not last anyway regardless of what happens and that he is not being truthful to her since he could have spent the day going to different lectures and not with me every minute. I'm also open to meeting someone better, whatever happens I do believe that it will be for the best. This did mess with me a lot and had me down but I'm back to focusing on me again. When we spoke he said that he's amazed at the steps I made and how much I changed for the better and seem so much happier now so he acknowledged that. I'm thinking about starting the 25 day challenge again to make myself feel better regardless.
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I've read your post in the 'success' thread and I'm kind of in the same boat. Just remember that the universe arranged for you two to be in the same place at the same time. You manifested the interaction but then...things happened. I would recommend listening to Neville Goddard's lecture entitled "Our Real Belief." In one of the anecdotes he talks about a particular case of a man trying to elicit certain responses from his boss and basically gets thrown a curve. In my situation I surely got my "curve" and didn't react quite right, but I learned my lesson. Be positive, easy-going, and persist in the state of having achieved your goal. Don't judge by appearances. Also quiet your mind/meditate daily. After meditation you may feel impulses to go certain places/do certain things/etc. It may be the law of attraction, but keep an open mind. You might expect your ex to come to you, but you might be brought to him!
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Thank you for responding, dutch. It's been a long process and 10 months now since we broke up and he got with her. Almost 4 months since that last time I saw or heard from him and I'm to a point now of realizing that I can do much better. Yes, I have days that I feel a little alone but I rather wait for a good, stable person who will value me and stick around than settle on less. I hope that everything works out for you too. I believe that things do work out for the best in mysterious ways. I'm closing that chapter although he does pop into my mind some days and it throws me into a loop of "why now?".