Alycat1110 wrote:

So the last time I wrote, it was full of low vibration and I was overthinking and scared about what is going to happen. My love and I sat down and had a conversation in which he indicated that we just are two different people and it is an obstacle that he doesn't think he can get over and therefore, he can't see a life with me. 

We are going to continue on in the relationship and reevaluate after the holidays when he is moving back for school. I can tell he did not want to do this, but also he did not want to break up because he said as much. I have no idea what are my next steps. I make it a priority to meditate, be grateful and all of the things that make me feel good but then all of a sudden like a wave, I'm insecure and anxious. Furthermore, he says that there are things that he just can't get over but can't explain them as well as that I just assume things when he is making a statement. He also does not take responsibility for his actions in the relationship either and it makes me really upset because I know his actions are fear based and because of his past, he carries that with him from relationship to relationship. How do I break down the walls that are creating so much distance between us. Im at a loss of what to do I'm scared to even say anything and always question whether he is going to take it differently or not. 

How about we switch to
"He is really open to me and we communicate effectively."

You're activating his script by saying he is guarded and has his walls up because of his past. We all have our insecure and anxious days but what I tell myself is what good does it good if I'm worrying, you know.

Just believe is always working out and see him in a positive light.

Alycat1110 wrote:

thank you for your advice. It is just the same things keep coming up over and over again but at some point how is that still my own story and not his for him to get over. I know we cannot influence anyone with out thoughts but it is so tiring having an amazing relationship for almost a year and then going to rock bottom. it is emotionally draining and exhausting.  BTW so funny that you answered because you have LJ in your profile and my initials with my love are l+j.  

and just as an aside: I had asked him to hang out tonight and he said he was busy, so I said fine another time and then I came on here and read what you had written and said the affirmation in my head and then I guess he changed his mind lol. 

We actually can, we are all connected whatever you see in them, you will get it reflected back you know? And whenever you feel exhausted, take a step back and give yourself some self love my dear.

That is funny! I might be your sign too haha! Just believe it is done and now receive.


The old relationship is dead so you want a new and better relationship with your person. Live in the end result.

Alycat1110 wrote:

IlunaMeisu wrote:

We actually can, we are all connected whatever you see in them, you will get it reflected back you know? And whenever you feel exhausted, take a step back and give yourself some self love my dear.

That is funny! I might be your sign too haha! Just believe it is done and now receive.


The old relationship is dead so you want a new and better relationship with your person. Live in the end result.

I am grateful to say that we are still in a relationship, so I am desiring to make our relationship more like it was previously this year (it was so full of love and happiness) and less about the old fears and things that have followed us for so long and plague the relationship. As of late I have been creating our relationship from a far while we have had minimal interactions; but still good ones. I am falling back in love with LOA and the role that i can be responsible for in our relationship and I know that when I am the best version of myself, it is not long that he comes wanting all of the great things our relationship has to offer.  my vibe is slowly getting higher and higher and i feel better. btw, i'm a Taurus and my love is a Sagittarius. 

I'm so happy things are looking up for you! Send some of that luck my way? Haha! But in all seriousness, in really happy things are looking up for you