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Overcoming what you feel is a “big” obstacle
Hi everyone,
This may come across as an odd question but I would love to hear pepple’s opinions on he subject.
My ex and I have been apart for some time. He split up with me and went back to the mother of his son. He indicated to me a few years ago that he was in that relationship to be close to his son, because it gives him easier access. This year he has started going back to church and told me he “had to do what was right with God” which I assumes means staying with his son’s mother no matter how he feels (because in his religion marriage is for life). Recently he had gotten a bit cold towards me and doesn’t really talk to me any more... It’s devastating to me. Sometimes I think “well maybe he doesn’t care for me any more” but then I also think “maybe he does but he is trying really hard to follow his religious beliefs so r is distancing himself from me”.
I don't know what to think. I love this man with all my heart and would love to be with him again. Is there a way to overcome all this? Even if it involvws his strong religious beliefs?
I could really use some thoughts and ideas from other people right now go help pick me up out of the sad place I’m in. Thanks.
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Re: Overcoming what you feel is a “big” obstacle
LotsOfLove wrote:
Hi everyone,
This may come across as an odd question but I would love to hear pepple’s opinions on he subject.
My ex and I have been apart for some time. He split up with me and went back to the mother of his son. He indicated to me a few years ago that he was in that relationship to be close to his son, because it gives him easier access. This year he has started going back to church and told me he “had to do what was right with God” which I assumes means staying with his son’s mother no matter how he feels (because in his religion marriage is for life). Recently he had gotten a bit cold towards me and doesn’t really talk to me any more... It’s devastating to me. Sometimes I think “well maybe he doesn’t care for me any more” but then I also think “maybe he does but he is trying really hard to follow his religious beliefs so r is distancing himself from me”.
I don't know what to think. I love this man with all my heart and would love to be with him again. Is there a way to overcome all this? Even if it involvws his strong religious beliefs?
I could really use some thoughts and ideas from other people right now go help pick me up out of the sad place I’m in. Thanks.
How strong are his religious beliefs, really, when he was cheating on his wife with you? Where were his religious beliefs then? He only has them when he wants to. They're convenient excuses for him to have things his way with no consideration for the other people involved or their feelings. The word hypocrite comes to mind. It's okay to cheat on his wife but it's wrong to get a divorce? There's something wrong with that reasoning. Do you really want a cheater? Don't set your sights so low. You deserve better than that.
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He was separated from her at the time we were together...so I wouldn’t exactly call it cheating.
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He was separated from her at the time we were together...so I wouldn’t exactly call it cheating.
If he has no intention of getting a divorce due to his 'religious beliefs', it's cheating.
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At the time he intended to get a divorce but then things fell apart between us and after we split up he said “God worked in his heart” and he felt he should get back together with her.
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Not trying to completely deny what you are saying - but either way it is still possible?
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Not trying to completely deny what you are saying - but either way it is still possible?
I don't know why you'd want to, but if you believe that your imagination creates reality and that imaginal acts harden into facts when persisted in over time, as Neville Goddard proved and taught, in principle it's possible to change just about any. You need to imagine things the way you want them to be as if they were already true and a fact right now and have faith and belief that this will happen in the outer world. You have to have patience and persistence as well and realise that things usually take some time to change and ignore the current reality.
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Thank you for your response. I was just wondering if it would be possible. I also understand your thoughts when you ask why I would want him back...
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Thank you for your response. I was just wondering if it would be possible. I also understand your thoughts when you ask why I would want him back...
I didn't mean to sound judgemental, but I've had a lot of life experience and have seen a lot of misery caused to the women by men like this who won't get a divorce for some reason, not necessarily this reason, and the other woman has been the one who has suffered the most for it. I know - the heart wants what the heart wants. I understand. It is theoretically possible to do almost anything by using the imagination in the right way, but you'd have your work cut out for you. Even though he's not been living by his 'religious beliefs', if he's had them since childhood or for many years, they are very likely deeply ingrained. I'm the last person to tell anybody to give up on their dreams, but just make sure this is what you really want before you put any more of your energy into it. You've already been hurt a lot by this person and his actions. He's treated you very badly. I'm sure there is at least one other man in the world somewhere who would be free of other entanglements and would love and appreciate you, so just think about that possibility. If you still want the person in question, then do what Neville says about living in the end of the wish fulfilled and ignore everything that is contrary to that, but you have to have faith and believe you can have it and be patient and persistent.
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