Purpledust07 wrote:

Hi everyone! I have a bit of a problem here, I'm currently on day 15 of the 25 day challenge. Trying to manifest my man back. We already talk to each other. Even meet. But he won't say the one thing I want him to. He won't ask me out again. Our breakup was caused by his sister. She's older than us and thought he was still a kid and threatened him that she'll tell their parents about it. (Some people in India are Orthodox) so he broke up in the month when we were going to complete our 1 year together.. by then I didn't know.about loa. I made a mistake, I begged him and cried. For at least 3 days. Then I stopped. I just ignored him and after less than 15 days he texted me!! Out of the blue! We still meet, we share our kind of intimacy not s*x just some passionate moments but he won't say it. I don't know what to do. Yesterday I was so sick of it. I was like **** this ****. I'm done I want to relax I need my peace. And today he texted me out of the blue again not to meet up just simple message. And I don't know what happened but he asked me to unsave all our old chat on Snapchat. I did some of it. With aheavy heart though. Even though I don't read old messages but I don't know why did he asked this. Can anyone tell me if it's good or bad? Please help

You've got to be patient and give things time to work and to happen and not panic over the least little thing or analyse every little thing that happens. You've got to imagine the relationship you want to have with this person as though it were already true and a fact now and maintain that state of mind with belief and faith until things change without worrying and doubting and obsessing over his sister or snapchat or any of that other similar rubbish. None of that matters. It's what you believe and what is going on in your mind that matters. Listen to Neville Goddard or read his books because he was a master of using his imagination to create his reality and of teaching other people how to do it, and he will never steer you wrong unlike some other people who think they know what to do but don't.
 

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Cynthia wrote:

Purpledust07 wrote:

Hi everyone! I have a bit of a problem here, I'm currently on day 15 of the 25 day challenge. Trying to manifest my man back. We already talk to each other. Even meet. But he won't say the one thing I want him to. He won't ask me out again. Our breakup was caused by his sister. She's older than us and thought he was still a kid and threatened him that she'll tell their parents about it. (Some people in India are Orthodox) so he broke up in the month when we were going to complete our 1 year together.. by then I didn't know.about loa. I made a mistake, I begged him and cried. For at least 3 days. Then I stopped. I just ignored him and after less than 15 days he texted me!! Out of the blue! We still meet, we share our kind of intimacy not s*x just some passionate moments but he won't say it. I don't know what to do. Yesterday I was so sick of it. I was like **** this ****. I'm done I want to relax I need my peace. And today he texted me out of the blue again not to meet up just simple message. And I don't know what happened but he asked me to unsave all our old chat on Snapchat. I did some of it. With aheavy heart though. Even though I don't read old messages but I don't know why did he asked this. Can anyone tell me if it's good or bad? Please help

You've got to be patient and give things time to work and to happen and not panic over the least little thing or analyse every little thing that happens. You've got to imagine the relationship you want to have with this person as though it were already true and a fact now and maintain that state of mind with belief and faith until things change without worrying and doubting and obsessing over his sister or snapchat or any of that other similar rubbish. None of that matters. It's what you believe and what is going on in your mind that matters. Listen to Neville Goddard or read his books because he was a master of using his imagination to create his reality and of teaching other people how to do it, and he will never steer you wrong unlike some other people who think they know what to do but don't.
 

Thank you so much! I will listen to Neville Goddard. Actually, I am patient and I don't just think when is it going to happen. I do live in the wish fulfilled. I have belief. But my problem is that I stick too much to the outcome like when I visualize in the morning I can't leave it there I keep thinking about him. It's like I don't know how to let go or become detached. I was once thinking of how he'll ask me to click pictures with him when we meet and it actually happened when we met. It was easy not to focus on this but I don't know how to let go of it entirely. Do you have any suggestions?

 
Why do you feel like you have to not think about him except when you're visualising in the morning? There's nothing wrong with thinking about him whenever you feel like it. I think about mine whenever I feel like it, and sometimes that's a lot and sometimes I don't think about him for days. I don't know whether he gets them or not, but I send him mental messages whenever I feel like it and send him love and talk to him like he's physically with me sometimes.  I've got other things to do and other things on my mind as well, so I'm not obsessing over him. You don't have to try to block him out of your mind. I don't even think that's a good idea. If you read jensherratt's posts on this forum about getting her man back, she did other things as well, but she spent a lot of time and energy also on attracting back her man by doing a variety of things throughout the day.

Purpledust07 wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

Purpledust07 wrote:

Thank you so much! I will listen to Neville Goddard. Actually, I am patient and I don't just think when is it going to happen. I do live in the wish fulfilled. I have belief. But my problem is that I stick too much to the outcome like when I visualize in the morning I can't leave it there I keep thinking about him. It's like I don't know how to let go or become detached. I was once thinking of how he'll ask me to click pictures with him when we meet and it actually happened when we met. It was easy not to focus on this but I don't know how to let go of it entirely. Do you have any suggestions?

 
Why do you feel like you have to not think about him except when you're visualising in the morning? There's nothing wrong with thinking about him whenever you feel like it. I think about mine whenever I feel like it, and sometimes that's a lot and sometimes I don't think about him for days. I don't know whether he gets them or not, but I send him mental messages whenever I feel like it and send him love and talk to him like he's physically with me sometimes.  I've got other things to do and other things on my mind as well, so I'm not obsessing over him. You don't have to try to block him out of your mind. I don't even think that's a good idea. If you read jensherratt's posts on this forum about getting her man back, she did other things as well, but she spent a lot of time and energy also on attracting back her man by doing a variety of things throughout the day.

Alright, so it's totally fine thinking about him whenever I feel like even if it's most of the day?
But then this makes me become attached to the outcome which blocks the manifestation as far as I have read. How do I make myself relax and not become obsessed? How do I do that? Do you have any solution?

 
I only really listen to what Neville and like minded people taught, not other people's theories or opinions, many of which I don't agree with and are wrong or at least unproven, and I know that Neville was right and  taught for the right reasons. A lot of the current 'teachers' are doing it for monetary gain more than anything. All it takes is for one person to say something and many people copy it and spread it all over the place, especially all over the internet, as if it were fact.  I once tried to see how many independent sources there were for one statement I'd read that was being promoted as fact, and there was only one. I kept tracing it back to the same one, yet it had a lot of people going along like sheep believing it without question. Neville said, 'You are the operant power. It doesn't operate itself.' He was talking about using the imagination to create your reality, which means you have to use your mind.  He used his imagination to marry his second wife, and he wanted to marry her from the first second he saw her and set about imagining that. What worked for him was before he went to sleep at night, but that is because that is one of the times when the subconscious mind is at its most receptive. I haven't heard every one of his lectures or read every one of his books, but I've read and heard a lot, and I've never heard him say to do your visualising and to then be careful to not ever think about it at other times because that will make it fail. This getting 'attached to the outcome' so you then can't have what you visualise seems contradictory to me. Neville said to live from the end of the wish fulfilled, to act as if it were already true, already an accomplished fact, and that's good enough for me. It's bound to be on your mind a lot.You've got to visualise the relationship that you want with the person, not only think about the person, but if you think about the person at other times, even if it's a lot, it's not going to undo your visualising unless you believe it will. You can do what you want, but I think you're trying to be too perfect and worrying too much about nothing. I do what I believe to be right and I don't worry about what other people think about it.

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Purpledust07 wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

Purpledust07 wrote:

Alright, so it's totally fine thinking about him whenever I feel like even if it's most of the day?
But then this makes me become attached to the outcome which blocks the manifestation as far as I have read. How do I make myself relax and not become obsessed? How do I do that? Do you have any solution?

 
I only really listen to what Neville and like minded people taught, not other people's theories or opinions, many of which I don't agree with and are wrong or at least unproven, and I know that Neville was right and  taught for the right reasons. A lot of the current 'teachers' are doing it for monetary gain more than anything. All it takes is for one person to say something and many people copy it and spread it all over the place, especially all over the internet, as if it were fact.  I once tried to see how many independent sources there were for one statement I'd read that was being promoted as fact, and there was only one. I kept tracing it back to the same one, yet it had a lot of people going along like sheep believing it without question. Neville said, 'You are the operant power. It doesn't operate itself.' He was talking about using the imagination to create your reality, which means you have to use your mind.  He used his imagination to marry his second wife, and he wanted to marry her from the first second he saw her and set about imagining that. What worked for him was before he went to sleep at night, but that is because that is one of the times when the subconscious mind is at its most receptive. I haven't heard every one of his lectures or read every one of his books, but I've read and heard a lot, and I've never heard him say to do your visualising and to then be careful to not ever think about it at other times because that will make it fail. This getting 'attached to the outcome' so you then can't have what you visualise seems contradictory to me. Neville said to live from the end of the wish fulfilled, to act as if it were already true, already an accomplished fact, and that's good enough for me. It's bound to be on your mind a lot.You've got to visualise the relationship that you want with the person, not only think about the person, but if you think about the person at other times, even if it's a lot, it's not going to undo your visualising unless you believe it will. You can do what you want, but I think you're trying to be too perfect and worrying too much about nothing. I do what I believe to be right and I don't worry about what other people think about it.

This helped me a lot! ❤️ Thank you so much. All this time I was worrying about how to become detached lol only if I'd known it doesn't matter. Thank you so so much , your replies made me positive more than ever❤️❤️❤️

 
You're very welcome. I'm glad you feel more positive now.  I think what is really meant by being detached is to be relaxed about the outcome and when it will happen and to believe and know that it will happen in the outer world and to not worry and doubt and fear in the meantime or be swayed by any current outward conditions or circunstances that may be contrary to that.

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Cynthia wrote:

Purpledust07 wrote:

This helped me a lot! ❤️ Thank you so much. All this time I was worrying about how to become detached lol only if I'd known it doesn't matter. Thank you so so much , your replies made me positive more than ever❤️❤️❤️

 
You're very welcome. I'm glad you feel more positive now.  I think what is really meant by being detached is to be relaxed about the outcome and when it will happen and to believe and know that it will happen in the outer world and to not worry and doubt and fear in the meantime or be swayed by any current outward conditions or circunstances that may be contrary to that.

There's one more thing I need to talk about. From 2 days, when I did my visualization I either slept during it or was on the verge of sleeping. I have read somewhere that it's very for the sub conscious mind to catch when you visualize something when you're in such a state. So the first day, I had a dream that him and I are already back together and just casually spending time together. Like in a very chill laid back type of thing. We are very happy. I remember it exactly. It felt so real. And the next day too I had a dream of him just smiling at me
Is this good? Because it felt very real and I have been more motivated since that dream.

 
The subconscious mind is at its most receptive when you're about to fall asleep or just waking up, in the state between sleeping and waking. I think you've answered your own question. If you've been more motivated and have more belief now I would say that's a very good thing.