MissMe wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

You said you know how to manifest and you've done it before, including this person, so you know you can do it, but now you don't believe you can do it and you are full of doubts and fears and don't want to take the emotional risk of trying again and failing. That doesn't even make sense to have succeeded before but now believe you will fail or may fail.

It's a big contradiction.  What I should have said was it seems like I manifested him back because he did come back before in the way I asked but my mind goes into "what if that was a coincidence?"  Also, he is now dating someone else which makes all this crap way worse.

Cynthia wrote:

 It sounds like you are already torturing yourself over this and in emotional pain anyway...

But it's not on purpose, that's the thing.  Also, if I am in emotional pain, don't I have to get out of it on order to manifest?  According to Veronica I do.  If someone said to me "You can manifest even if you feel like crap emotionally", that would make this so much easier.  I wouldn't be beating myself up and doubting even stronger for feeling like crap on top of already feeling like crap....

Cynthia wrote:

...so what have you got to lose? Everything in life involves risks. Leaving the house could result in getting hit by a car, but most people leave the house anyway because they want and need to live their lives and the risk of getting hit by a car is a possibility but not a probability. It doesn't happen most of the time.

 This is so true.  I was actually just think about this.  I think my fear here is if I do the Veronica method and I start to spiral downward. I might manifest something unwanted (which if there is any truth to LOA, I totally manifested him dating someone else, UGH!)

Cynthia wrote:

 I really think listening to or reading Neville Goddard would help you a lot. He was a master at using his imagination to create reality and made it his life's work to teach it to other people. Neville married his second wife by imagining it as an accomplished fact. They had a long and happy marriage together. Here are three of his lectures that I have found particularly helpful.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=l21MrsmG7v4


https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=bKS_QIPet-k

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=DRZ-kTIGRwY

My favourite book of his is The Law and the Promise because it contains many letters from people telling him their own success stories in many areas of life that they achieved by following his teachings.

I love Neville and his teachings.  I am in a Neville inspired LOA group on Facebook but I will check out these links.  

Thank you so much.  I know this all sounds a bit crazy but this is how it's been for me.  It's just been lousy with doubt and fear and I just can't seem to shake it enough to be in alignment more than I am not.  I'm trying.  

If he came back to you in the way you wanted him to, you did manifest him back. It was not a coincidence. Let this knowledge give you confidence. You've done it before. You can do it again. This is fixable. Apparently listening to Veronica and possibly others about being in a very good emotional place has not been serving you, it has been making you feel even worse. Normally I would not do any of my visualising if I was in a negative frame of mind, but it can sometimes help to come out of that negative frame of mind to do visualising any way. You've got to start somewhere.
Having somebody else in the picture doesn't really mean anything and isn't an obstacle unless you make it one.  When I think about all of the time and energy I wasted worrying about some other woman who was 'helping' my man during the time he was ignoring me, which was a very long time, and that that woman has now been long gone for ages, never to return, I realise that she would probably have been out of the picture long before that if I hadn't been dwelling on her existence so much. I didn't believe they'd ever be a couple, though. She was trying to buy him, and I knew he wouldn't go so far as to end up together as a couple with her.
I hadn't heard from my man for 4 years and 4 months (I wasn't trying to manifest him back all of that time - most of that time I was doing all of the wrong things - worrying, doubting, fearing, all of that stupid negativity that gets you nowhere), but when he came back things were really great to begin with. We both had issues that got in the way, though, and we had a misunderstanding about 11 months ago that I at first was thinking of as a falling out, but I haven't fallen out with him.
At first I was angry and upset that he would do it to me again. The first time he cut me off he told me it had absolutely nothing to do with me, but he was taking out on me what other women had done to him. I wasn't even sure this time whether I wanted him back or not.  I felt a lot of anger and resentment toward him that I successfully got rid of a few months ago by using the h'oponopono prayer. You have to feel it and mean it, but it worked a treat, and it only took a few minutes and those feelings have never come back. All I ever feel for him now is love, and I have got to the point of having absolutely unwavering faith that he will come back when the time is right. I am even very glad that we haven't been in contact for 11 months, because it has given me a chance to address my own issues and fix them.  I've been working on attracting him back for the last 6 months or so, imagining the end result in the way Neville talks about, and I don't even care how long it takes. I've got to the point of being pretty relaxed about it.  It's not the only focus of my life, either. I don't obsessively dwell on this constantly, in fact some days I don't even think about him. I've got other things to do and other concerns that occupy my time and energy, as would be the case if we were actually together in the exernal world right now.
I would recommend listening to Neville as I recommended before, but I would also recommend that you forget everything you've been hearing or reading about being in such a perfect emotional state, do your best to block out all of that negativity and confusion you've been feeling, put all of that stuff behind you, look at this as a fresh start, follow what Neville says to do, and start imagining what you want as if it were already true, otherwise it sounds as though you could be stuck in a place where you are afraid to do anything for fear of creating something horrible for yourself, paralysed with fear to take any action at all.  A positive thought has been scientifically proven by somebody, I don't know who, to be far more powerful than a negative one.
 

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MissMe wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

  If he came back to you in the way you wanted him to, you did manifest him back. It was not a coincidence. Let this knowledge give you confidence. You've done it before. You can do it again. This is fixable. 

He did.  I even set a time frame and he was back in that time frame.  I can see how my energy/vibration manifested everything I had with him at that time and after.  I was also super focused on him spurning me off for someone else and low and behold, that's happened.  You would think I would just know that I manifested this all and be confident about it but I always go back to "what if it was coincidence?"  Yeah, I know, torturing myself.  I think it's because I want to iron out all of the wrinkles before I try this again and make sure the negative **** doesn't pop up so damn much first.  

Cynthia wrote:

 Apparently listening to Veronica and possibly others about being in a very good emotional place has not been serving you, it has been making you feel even worse.

Yeah, that about sums it up BUT I know there are other ways/methods to attract/manifest but I want to do all I can to bring this to me so I tend to try anything and everything.  That's not exactly allowing the Universe or my inner being to bring this to me.  Also, it really is more about me working through some other stuff first.  Once I do so, it will be a lot easier to use whatever methods people recommend and/or not worry about those that don't resonate.    

Cynthia wrote:

Normally I would not do any of my visualising if I was in a negative frame of mind, but it can sometimes help to come out of that negative frame of mind to do visualising any way. You've got to start somewhere.

Agreed 100%

Cynthia wrote:

Having somebody else in the picture doesn't really mean anything and isn't an obstacle unless you make it one.

Literally everyone I know into LOA says the very same thing.  Thank you for reiterating that, the reminder is really helpful in calming me down.     


Also, thank you so much for sharing your story.  I won't quote it all here but suffice it to say I read it and it was beautiful.  I'm sorry for the split (all though if I want to be positive, I think sometimes those things need to happen so we can re-evaluate and adjust ourselves so we are in a better place for the relationship to work) I am so glad you found that place of peace and calm and are able to send him love unconditionally and not worry about the when and how, and just know.  That is awesome.  

Cynthia wrote:

 I would recommend listening to Neville as I recommended before, but I would also recommend that you forget everything you've been hearing or reading about being in such a perfect emotional state, do your best to block out all of that negativity and confusion you've been feeling, put all of that stuff behind you, look at this as a fresh start, follow what Neville says to do, and start imagining what you want as if it were already true, otherwise it sounds as though you could be stuck in a place where you are afraid to do anything for fear of creating something horrible for yourself, paralysed with fear to take any action at all.  A positive thought has been scientifically proven by somebody, I don't know who, to be far more powerful than a negative one.

Thank you so much for this, it's really kind and helpful.  I am starting to realize that there are some things I need to work through first and that is my issue, it's not the techniques people use or reccommend.  I have stuff I need to work through before I can align fully, it's that simple. 

By the way, I love Neville (I have also done the Ho'oponopono prayer but Neville's revising method worked better for me) so I plan on listening to him more.  Also, once I am in a good place, I will likely try the 25 day challenge again.  When I did it before, it's part of what helped T.J. head down the road of getting back together this last time.  I just have some more kinks I need to work out so I can line up with what I want.  

Thank you again so much for taking the time to respond, I really appreaciate it.  You've been super helpful. 
 

You're very welcome, and thank you for your kind words. I'm so happy that I could help you. I have also used Neville's revision. It sounds like you, like I did, have some issues to sort out and that you're taking some time to do that, which I know will make your future relationship with him better as I know will happen with mine, but be confident that you can manifest him back again and that the other woman is only temporary.