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hey everyone, i’ve noticed that recently i’ve been feeling a little more down than usual. i’m still doing the best i can to stay positive, but i guess i just need some more encouragement. i stopped talking to my friends and the ones close to me about loa because most of them find it to be dumb and don’t believe that it will work. it’s kind of frustrating because i’m trying the best i can to keep my vibration high and instead of supporting me, they tell me it’s bs. i don’t let it get to me though, but that’s why i’m posting on here.
i’ve been trying to attract back my love for a few months now and it’s his birthday tomorrow. i want to send him a text saying happy birthday but of course i’m not going to LOL. after we split, i started to get really close with his sister. he knows that we hang out and he told his sister that i’m probably just hanging around her so that there’s a bigger chance of us getting back together and this is so not true. i actually consider her one of my closest friends.
me and him haven’t said a word to each other or contacted each other at all, besides like a week ago when he asked me for his sweaters back. (i gave them to his sister to give to him)
the thing that i feel like i’m struggling with is acting as if. i don’t always act like i already have him, it’s mainly just me saying to myself that somehow, some way we’ll get back together. at first, i would tell people that we were still together, and he found out i was telling people that so i stopped.
i try to visualize and do RS everyday, but probably not as much as i should. i’ve also been doing self love affirmations. contrary thoughts will come in from time to time, but i’m doing my best to focus on the end result.
i really hope i’m on the right track and would love some encouragement!! 💗
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Hi.
I think we're in the same boat. I don't always act as if too. There's time when I feel like me and my love are back together already, there's also sometimes when I'm in a state of 'knowing' that we can and we will be back together. Also, there's a time when I'm feeling like "manifesting" him back, or the state of hoping. I wonder if it's all depends on our state of alignment.
I also tell people that we're still together. 😂
The only person I told that we're not (yet) officially together anymore is his best friend, because he had told him first about our relationship, so... 😂
Maybe when we feel confused, doubt, or anything not alignment, it's time to focus to ourselves more?
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Hi shyxaxnne, I don't know if I have the best advice but it's coming from someone who's been there or going through it as well I suggest that when you start feeling down try to replace your thoughts with a positive affirmation or thought, otherwise it starts consuming you. I don't tell anyone about LOA and some of the things I'm into either because I don't need skeptics to burst my bubble. Me and my ex were in no contact for 5 months until I manifested contact from him, he showed up and was texting me for a few days like we were friends and it's been a month of silence again since and he moved out of state last week so he no longer lives near me. I go from days where I think that maybe it's time for me to move on and I know that I can find someone better and ok with it to days that I feel the need to do RS and visualize happy times with him again. We all get confused or down but the key is to accept whatever you are going through, love yourself regardless and be open to all possibilities. Hope this helps a little :-)
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sillyromantic wrote:
Hi shyxaxnne, I don't know if I have the best advice but it's coming from someone who's been there or going through it as well I suggest that when you start feeling down try to replace your thoughts with a positive affirmation or thought, otherwise it starts consuming you. I don't tell anyone about LOA and some of the things I'm into either because I don't need skeptics to burst my bubble. Me and my ex were in no contact for 5 months until I manifested contact from him, he showed up and was texting me for a few days like we were friends and it's been a month of silence again since and he moved out of state last week so he no longer lives near me. I go from days where I think that maybe it's time for me to move on and I know that I can find someone better and ok with it to days that I feel the need to do RS and visualize happy times with him again. We all get confused or down but the key is to accept whatever you are going through, love yourself regardless and be open to all possibilities. Hope this helps a little :-)
Out of interest, once you had manifested contact with your ex, did you stop doing whatever you were doing because you were back in contact? I think it's important to continue on with whatever you're doing until you get to the ideal end result or change your mind about wanting that person back. I listen to Neville a lot, and I'm always banging on about him because he was such a master at doing this and teaching it to other people, and I do what he says, which is to live in the end result of the wish fulfilled in my imagination. I don't personally bother with trying to manifest a phone call or some other contact with my love, I focus on the ultimate ideal end result I want to have with him because anything else has to fall into place before that happens, i.e. he has to contact me before anything else can happen. I don't have any way to contact him any more. It's easy to get discouraged when results take longer than one would hope. I get discouraged sometimes, but I'm a very persistent person, I know he's the one I want, so I just keep on going back to what I've been doing. Sometimes I need to take a bit of a break away from it if I start to feel a bit negative. I've been working on it for six months now, and for part of that time I was feeling resentment and anger toward him for doing it to me again that I had to get rid of, but I look at it as it takes as long as it takes. I haven't actually heard from him since December, but for the first few months I was so upset and angry that he would cut me off again that I didn't even try to manifest him back. I have since realised that I was partially responsible for this. In the past, he cut me off for 4 years and 4 months due to something that had nothing to do with me, so six months doesn't seem like that long. He's not only my soulmate, he's my twin flame. I too don't talk about LOA or anything like it to anybody I know because they are very negative naysayers who could bring me down if I let them.
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Cynthia wrote:
Out of interest, once you had manifested contact with your ex, did you stop doing whatever you were doing because you were back in contact? I think it's important to continue on with whatever you're doing until you get to the ideal end result or change your mind about wanting that person back. I listen to Neville a lot, and I'm always banging on about him because he was such a master at doing this and teaching it to other people, and I do what he says, which is to live in the end result of the wish fulfilled in my imagination. I don't personally bother with trying to manifest a phone call or some other contact with my love, I focus on the ultimate ideal end result I want to have with him because anything else has to fall into place before that happens, i.e. he has to contact me before anything else can happen. I don't have any way to contact him any more. It's easy to get discouraged when results take longer than one would hope. I get discouraged sometimes, but I'm a very persistent person, I know he's the one I want, so I just keep on going back to what I've been doing. Sometimes I need to take a bit of a break away from it if I start to feel a bit negative. I've been working on it for six months now, and for part of that time I was feeling resentment and anger toward him for doing it to me again that I had to get rid of, but I look at it as it takes as long as it takes. In the past, he cut me off for 4 years and 4 months due to something that had nothing to do with me, so six months doesn't seem like that long. He's not only my soulmate, he's my twin flame. I too don't talk about LOA or anything like it to anybody I know because they are very negative naysayers who could bring me down if I let them.
ok, I think after I got back in contact with him I was starting to think that maybe it's my closure and I can finally move on. We had a very positive talk, he seemed happy in his new life so I let it be. Clearly hasn't worked long term because I still think about him often again and his name even comes up in conversation for me every day. When he first called me he made sure to let me know that he is still with that girl he got with when we broke up. Not sure why he had to start a conversation that way but I believe their relationship will not last anyway so didn't care about her. I guess in a way after that I stopped doing most techniques or visualizing less and less the end result as I was thinking that I don't want to block any other possibilities who may be better but I've been visualizing and doing RS again more lately. After I saw him I attracted a bad relationship that was very short lived and lowered my vibration because the new guy was very needy, possessive, insecure and drained me but I shut it down very quickly and went back to my happy ways again. Now I'm going to run into my ex in a conference in a month and still feeling confused between wanting him to see what he lost and flirting and not caring what happens anymore because I deserve someone who will be and stay around for me. I even visualized and joked about seeing him at the airport before the conference since the airport I'm flying out of is in the state he moved to.
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sillyromantic wrote:
Cynthia wrote:
Out of interest, once you had manifested contact with your ex, did you stop doing whatever you were doing because you were back in contact? I think it's important to continue on with whatever you're doing until you get to the ideal end result or change your mind about wanting that person back. I listen to Neville a lot, and I'm always banging on about him because he was such a master at doing this and teaching it to other people, and I do what he says, which is to live in the end result of the wish fulfilled in my imagination. I don't personally bother with trying to manifest a phone call or some other contact with my love, I focus on the ultimate ideal end result I want to have with him because anything else has to fall into place before that happens, i.e. he has to contact me before anything else can happen. I don't have any way to contact him any more. It's easy to get discouraged when results take longer than one would hope. I get discouraged sometimes, but I'm a very persistent person, I know he's the one I want, so I just keep on going back to what I've been doing. Sometimes I need to take a bit of a break away from it if I start to feel a bit negative. I've been working on it for six months now, and for part of that time I was feeling resentment and anger toward him for doing it to me again that I had to get rid of, but I look at it as it takes as long as it takes. In the past, he cut me off for 4 years and 4 months due to something that had nothing to do with me, so six months doesn't seem like that long. He's not only my soulmate, he's my twin flame. I too don't talk about LOA or anything like it to anybody I know because they are very negative naysayers who could bring me down if I let them.
ok, I think after I got back in contact with him I was starting to think that maybe it's my closure and I can finally move on. We had a very positive talk, he seemed happy in his new life so I let it be. Clearly hasn't worked long term because I still think about him often again and his name even comes up in conversation for me every day. When he first called me he made sure to let me know that he is still with that girl he got with when we broke up. Not sure why he had to start a conversation that way but I believe their relationship will not last anyway so didn't care about her. I guess in a way after that I stopped doing most techniques or visualizing less and less the end result as I was thinking that I don't want to block any other possibilities who may be better but I've been visualizing and doing RS again more lately. After I saw him I attracted a bad relationship that was very short lived and lowered my vibration because the new guy was very needy, possessive, insecure and drained me but I shut it down very quickly and went back to my happy ways again. Now I'm going to run into my ex in a conference in a month and still feeling confused between wanting him to see what he lost and flirting and not caring what happens anymore because I deserve someone who will be and stay around for me. I even visualized and joked about seeing him at the airport before the conference since the airport I'm flying out of is in the state he moved to.
I understand what you mean. Maybe running into your ex will help give you clarity on what you really want.
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yeah honestly I think it will be funny more than anything and honestly I believe that their relationship will fail and that he still has feelings for me too but kinda his loss now. His thing is long hair and I just chopped off most of my hair but got compliments from everyone on my haircut. Felt liberating in a way
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Pink Ribbon Ninja wrote:
Hi.
I think we're in the same boat. I don't always act as if too. There's time when I feel like me and my love are back together already, there's also sometimes when I'm in a state of 'knowing' that we can and we will be back together. Also, there's a time when I'm feeling like "manifesting" him back, or the state of hoping. I wonder if it's all depends on our state of alignment.
I also tell people that we're still together. 😂
The only person I told that we're not (yet) officially together anymore is his best friend, because he had told him first about our relationship, so... 😂
Maybe when we feel confused, doubt, or anything not alignment, it's time to focus to ourselves more?
yeah i think you’re right, i’m glad i’m not the only one LOL thank you for replying!!
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sillyromantic wrote:
Hi shyxaxnne, I don't know if I have the best advice but it's coming from someone who's been there or going through it as well I suggest that when you start feeling down try to replace your thoughts with a positive affirmation or thought, otherwise it starts consuming you. I don't tell anyone about LOA and some of the things I'm into either because I don't need skeptics to burst my bubble. Me and my ex were in no contact for 5 months until I manifested contact from him, he showed up and was texting me for a few days like we were friends and it's been a month of silence again since and he moved out of state last week so he no longer lives near me. I go from days where I think that maybe it's time for me to move on and I know that I can find someone better and ok with it to days that I feel the need to do RS and visualize happy times with him again. We all get confused or down but the key is to accept whatever you are going through, love yourself regardless and be open to all possibilities. Hope this helps a little :-)
thank you for this <3
and if you still love him, never give up because he’s already yours
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Cynthia wrote:
sillyromantic wrote:
Hi shyxaxnne, I don't know if I have the best advice but it's coming from someone who's been there or going through it as well I suggest that when you start feeling down try to replace your thoughts with a positive affirmation or thought, otherwise it starts consuming you. I don't tell anyone about LOA and some of the things I'm into either because I don't need skeptics to burst my bubble. Me and my ex were in no contact for 5 months until I manifested contact from him, he showed up and was texting me for a few days like we were friends and it's been a month of silence again since and he moved out of state last week so he no longer lives near me. I go from days where I think that maybe it's time for me to move on and I know that I can find someone better and ok with it to days that I feel the need to do RS and visualize happy times with him again. We all get confused or down but the key is to accept whatever you are going through, love yourself regardless and be open to all possibilities. Hope this helps a little :-)
Out of interest, once you had manifested contact with your ex, did you stop doing whatever you were doing because you were back in contact? I think it's important to continue on with whatever you're doing until you get to the ideal end result or change your mind about wanting that person back. I listen to Neville a lot, and I'm always banging on about him because he was such a master at doing this and teaching it to other people, and I do what he says, which is to live in the end result of the wish fulfilled in my imagination. I don't personally bother with trying to manifest a phone call or some other contact with my love, I focus on the ultimate ideal end result I want to have with him because anything else has to fall into place before that happens, i.e. he has to contact me before anything else can happen. I don't have any way to contact him any more. It's easy to get discouraged when results take longer than one would hope. I get discouraged sometimes, but I'm a very persistent person, I know he's the one I want, so I just keep on going back to what I've been doing. Sometimes I need to take a bit of a break away from it if I start to feel a bit negative. I've been working on it for six months now, and for part of that time I was feeling resentment and anger toward him for doing it to me again that I had to get rid of, but I look at it as it takes as long as it takes. I haven't actually heard from him since December, but for the first few months I was so upset and angry that he would cut me off again that I didn't even try to manifest him back. I have since realised that I was partially responsible for this. In the past, he cut me off for 4 years and 4 months due to something that had nothing to do with me, so six months doesn't seem like that long. He's not only my soulmate, he's my twin flame. I too don't talk about LOA or anything like it to anybody I know because they are very negative naysayers who could bring me down if I let them.
no, i didn’t stop doing what i was doing and i didn’t get discouraged either. but 6 months is a long time girl keep it up!