Seeker wrote:

We have been texting....the only way that was going to happen was if I broke NC and I don't regret it.  I did NC for over a month and it was good for me...but the communication lines had to be opened somehow.  This is just my experience.  Yesterday he texted me without being prompted.  I am not sort of going back to NC and laying low and refocusing on myself to see how things pan out.  I am opening a business..in the process of losing weight and I am just happier overall.  I am just posting this to give people hope.  I did the 25 day challenge but decided not to do it over again.  Im looking at other LOA videos and teachings now to expand my knowledge .  I bought myself a fake engagement ring and I wear it at night , I just like how it feels on my hand and in my mind me and ex are back together in some wierd way, our souls are reconnected.    

This is awesome 😊

Congrats! I wear a ring on my finger and all the guys asked if I'm married I'd say I feel like I am! Haha!

LearningToDetach wrote:

Seeker wrote:

We have been texting....the only way that was going to happen was if I broke NC and I don't regret it.  I did NC for over a month and it was good for me...but the communication lines had to be opened somehow.  This is just my experience.  Yesterday he texted me without being prompted.  I am not sort of going back to NC and laying low and refocusing on myself to see how things pan out.  I am opening a business..in the process of losing weight and I am just happier overall.  I am just posting this to give people hope.  I did the 25 day challenge but decided not to do it over again.  Im looking at other LOA videos and teachings now to expand my knowledge .  I bought myself a fake engagement ring and I wear it at night , I just like how it feels on my hand and in my mind me and ex are back together in some wierd way, our souls are reconnected.    

Congrats )...
I've been in nc for 4 months now. I might break it soon but i'm so scared he wouldn't reply (even tho there's no reason why he won't). What made you decide to break the NC?

Thank you for sharing!

I just got disgusted one day, like this is so ridiculous.  I put out a little bait to see if he would respond and he did.  Then i went back into NC.  Then I noticed if I texted him he would always respond.  Recently our texts became more involved....yesterday he texted out of nowhere to tell me about tom petty.  So I think we both feel more comfortable about contact because he sees that I'm not being antagonistic.  I mentioned the business and asked him to come see it when it was open and he said he would.  Im a believer in good psychics and I feel that their predictions about us not being over were true.   I texted veronica and i know she isn't a big fan of psychics but I used the prediction as part of my LOA reassurance. if that makes sense. 

Now mind you we are nowhere near getting back together, BUT the lines of communication have been opened and thats a big deal.  
 

Thanks.....it's been a long road....and who knows how things will wind up.

Seeker wrote:

We have been texting....the only way that was going to happen was if I broke NC and I don't regret it.  I did NC for over a month and it was good for me...but the communication lines had to be opened somehow.  This is just my experience.  Yesterday he texted me without being prompted.  I am not sort of going back to NC and laying low and refocusing on myself to see how things pan out.  I am opening a business..in the process of losing weight and I am just happier overall.  I am just posting this to give people hope.  I did the 25 day challenge but decided not to do it over again.  Im looking at other LOA videos and teachings now to expand my knowledge .  I bought myself a fake engagement ring and I wear it at night , I just like how it feels on my hand and in my mind me and ex are back together in some wierd way, our souls are reconnected.    

I agree with you about reopening the lines of communication.  No contact can be good for a while, but I think common sense has to come into it sometimes. Eventually somebody has got to start the communication process if it's ever going to start again..  I wish I could do that, but I don't have the new address or phone number of my POI because he was supposed to give them to me and then didn't because we had a sort of falling out at the time.  The only possible way I've got to contact him is through another person who is of unknown reliability, and that is a person who is not a friend of either of us, and my POI only sees him about once a month. I did send a message to the other person a few weeks ago and asked him to pass it along to my POI, but I don't know if or when my POI will get the message and if he will reply or not, but I at least wanted him to know, if he does get the message, that I feel bad about what happened and wanted to know how he's doing now.  I had given him quite a telling off at the time, and he might think I wanted nothing more to do with him, which wasn't the case, but I did require better treatment and more respect than he had been showing me, and I simply couldn't go on any more in the way it had been going and had to say something, both for myself and for him. I don't regret saying what I did to him and would say it again because it needed saying, but I wish I could have thought of a better way of dealing with that at the time than to possibly alienate him, even though he had invited me to tell him off if he needed it, and he'd really needed it.
 

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