mugginess wrote:

I was inspired to post after reading Selfloves story. In fact I doubted her from the beginning but now I see her success that I would like to hear a fresh perspective on this. When I last posted my story I was probably the same as happyinlove 😜 And many users thought I was hopeless. I sort of gave up manifesting him back even though I always felt like I did want him back. However, I told myself that wanting him back is pathetic and I moved on with my life. I saw this forum transpire into a soap opera and that's when I thought it was useless to even ask for help. But now I see the forum has become such a supportive place. I think we can thank Selfloves for this. Moreover, the user base has changed over the past couple of years so now it's time for a fresh perspective.

I haven't spoken to my ex in more than a year we but I have thought bout him every day. In January it'll be our two year mark from when we've broken up. When we last spoke we parted as friends and he told me to cmtact him again. But he was seeing another girl and talked about how great she was. I contacted a horrible ex back coach who took so much money from me and they advised me to cut contact all together. I learned three months later that the "coach" was taking advantage of people by extending coaching for more money but not getting anywhere. I tried to RS him and make vision boards and do affirmations but I realized that it was all creepy and gave up with that lingering feeling that we were meant to be.

I moved on, dated others, travelled, excelled in my career and even preached self love here. I pretended I've forgotten about my ex but the lingering feeling was there. Overall, I would say that I am detached in the sense that I don't care if he never comes back but there's always the question of "what if". I have tired meeting others but nothing has transpired into anything meaningful. I was in a couple of relationships since my ex but neither worked out. One I ended, the other was ended by the other party on a very friend,y note, in that we still maintain a good friendship.

I guess here is where I stand with the original ex. I had a bad habit of creeping the new girls social media. She's very public so I have learned a lot of her life. I'm actually trying my best to stop and overall, I really do t want to lower my great vibe and the feelings of happiness by checking her page. My gut is telling me that their relationship is coming to an end but I don't know. She's stopped posting g pictures of him and he no longer likes her posts. I know this is silly analysis but it was my gut instinct that there was a new girl when they were doing g these things so I was right. However, I do know that this is a stronger relationship than ours was as they've travelled together, met family friends etc. We never got there. (Even though they moved pretty fast in the beginning indicating it could have been a rebound)

I have contemplated contacting him but I am scared I may not get the response I want and if he is happy with his life, who am I to interrupt him. Moreover, my family and friends would be mad at me after all I complained bout him.

What are your thoughts?

It sounds to me like you're in a confused state of mind. You first have to know what you want. If you really want a relationship with this person, before you do anything else you should be imagining that relationship as if it is happening now in the most ideal way possible and not worry about whether he's had a stronger relationship with anybody else or not or what anybody else thinks. The only thing that matters is what you think and believe.
 

Last edited by Cynthia (10/10/2017 9:34 am)

I think you are too focused on the outside and who cares what others think my family and friends aren't huge fans right now but I know that will change . You have tried to move on and I say if this is still on your mind reach it the worst that can happen is he doesn't respond . But while you do that keep happy with just life do things you enjoy do it and let it go . I'm at work right now but I tried to get a summary of what you are saying lol

Selfloveiskey wrote:

I think you are too focused on the outside and who cares what others think my family and friends aren't huge fans right now but I know that will change . You have tried to move on and I say if this is still on your mind reach it the worst that can happen is he doesn't respond . But while you do that keep happy with just life do things you enjoy do it and let it go . I'm at work right now but I tried to get a summary of what you are saying lol

 
I don't think I'm mentally ready to reach out yet. But I have stated the intention and let it go. When the time is right I'll know. And you make a good point about family and friends as well. You just got to believe and let go. I guess I just wanted a perspective. I was like you lol and seeing your success has inspired me.

mugginess wrote:

Selfloveiskey wrote:

I think you are too focused on the outside and who cares what others think my family and friends aren't huge fans right now but I know that will change . You have tried to move on and I say if this is still on your mind reach it the worst that can happen is he doesn't respond . But while you do that keep happy with just life do things you enjoy do it and let it go . I'm at work right now but I tried to get a summary of what you are saying lol

 
I don't think I'm mentally ready to reach out yet. But I have stated the intention and let it go. When the time is right I'll know. And you make a good point about family and friends as well. You just got to believe and let go. I guess I just wanted a perspective. I was like you lol and seeing your success has inspired me.

 

Awww thank you I'm glad to help next step for me is money and finance I want to stablize that don't see much on here about that so maybe I can get a challenge going for those who want to support each other doing that . I feel so different even with success I want to focus on me and I love helping others . You will definitely know when the time is right . You can do the 25 day challenge if you want to. It helped me because I was doing one visualization a day so it kept me focused on what I wanted but I like the routine because after the visualizing I didn't think of doing anything else about  him so the rest of the time you focus on you lol. As you know I use to do sooooooo many meditations desperately wanting them to work but really the little you do and the more you focus on being happy and other things the better it gets lol . Also reminder to trust the universe you set the intention so just remind yourself the universe has it I'm just gonna focus on feeling good 😊. You got this . You don't have to reach out either but if you ever feel good about it and want to do it but if you don't it will come to you when you are just happy and open to it 😊.

Rereading this I could probably do this same thing I'm telling you with money huh lol

Last edited by Selfloveiskey (10/11/2017 1:46 pm)

mugginess wrote:

It's funny cause my big manifestation of the year was a 10k salary increase. I didn't really follow a set of visualization but just "felt" it. I really don't know how to explain what I did. But I think I was grateful for the EI payments I was receiving which in turn allowed more money into my life. It was not just my salary increase but it was things like a lot of gift money for no reason and big casino wins. I guess maybe I could apply it to relationships? TBH, in the past couple days since I've posted this I've kind of forgotten about it. Which I think is a good thing at least for me.

That's a great manifesting story. You could apply it. I can manifest money but I need to manifest keeping it. When I manifested 4K I just said I ll get my money and did same thing with $1800 . I asked for $1500 lol. But I would do what feels right. What I feel is right right now is to just focus on being happy and positive with myself and everything falls into place with money etc. and even more stuff with him. I just feel love for him and myself and I don't put pressure on it. Forgetting about it can be a good thing while you feel good and stuff things fall into place cause there is no resistance. It's amazing how sometimes doing visualizing and stuff can actually be resistance lol.