This is the time to try new things, is there anything you have been interested in trying out, but have been putting off?

zionthecomedian wrote:

At the moment I'm trying to gain experience at a hospital but they haven't replied yet.. I tried chasing them up for an email but nothing atm.
And tbh I'm not sure.. it's just with education  and career I give up easy, my school grades weren't too good and I haven't got the right subjects or grades to switch careers.
At the moment I'm in the food industry and have been for 4 years doing sales. I tried uni 3 times but I wasn't emotionally stable enough... So now I'm lost.
I did a careers skills checks and talked to a careers advisor and we agreed I suit the medical field so I don't know now.

Try applying for different medical places then, I am currently trying to get this job that I got interviewed for to work with disabled people.

zionthecomedian wrote:

authenticself wrote:

zionthecomedian wrote:

At the moment I'm trying to gain experience at a hospital but they haven't replied yet.. I tried chasing them up for an email but nothing atm.
And tbh I'm not sure.. it's just with education and career I give up easy, my school grades weren't too good and I haven't got the right subjects or grades to switch careers.
At the moment I'm in the food industry and have been for 4 years doing sales. I tried uni 3 times but I wasn't emotionally stable enough... So now I'm lost.
I did a careers skills checks and talked to a careers advisor and we agreed I suit the medical field so I don't know now.

Try applying for different medical places then, I am currently trying to get this job that I got interviewed for to work with disabled people.

Well I've put out some applications and I managed to land a placement at the hospital to shadow work an occupational therapist. Not sure how long they are willing to let me do it atm so I took it as to finally quit my current job and to take on this placement then see where it leads me after. 
My current job has been destroying my well being, I get no breaks (even if I've worked 10-12hours straight), no holiday pay, no sick day, all cash in hand! Not even allowed to know how much I get per hour before tax, would you believe!?
So I'm just gonna let the universe take charge for a bit, I have been getting opportunities but nothing has really grabbed me at the moment and I am still doing my research. So really hoping Nov-Jan I get a new opportunity somewhere to learn something new!

How can that even be legal?  I don't think it is.  It sounds like slave labour to me.
Don't you have anything that you're passionate about? What would you do if you could do anything at all and there weren't any limitations from your own thinking or thoughts that somebody else has put into your head?  Isn't there anything like that? You really need to decide what it is you want to do and not leave it up to the universe or anybody else but you to decide.  My ex-husband is excellent at history and really wanted to be a historian, but he said he couldn't do that because he can't write. That is so untrue. That's what he thinks. He can write very well, so he missed out on doing what he really wanted to do because of limitations he put on himself in his own mind that weren't even really there otherwise. He retired early, but his only goal in life was to retire early because he didn't like the job he fell into. He was never happy. Don't let that happen to you.

Last edited by Cynthia (10/08/2017 3:05 pm)

zionthecomedian wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

zionthecomedian wrote:

Well I've put out some applications and I managed to land a placement at the hospital to shadow work an occupational therapist. Not sure how long they are willing to let me do it atm so I took it as to finally quit my current job and to take on this placement then see where it leads me after. 
My current job has been destroying my well being, I get no breaks (even if I've worked 10-12hours straight), no holiday pay, no sick day, all cash in hand! Not even allowed to know how much I get per hour before tax, would you believe!?
So I'm just gonna let the universe take charge for a bit, I have been getting opportunities but nothing has really grabbed me at the moment and I am still doing my research. So really hoping Nov-Jan I get a new opportunity somewhere to learn something new!

How can that even be legal?  I don't think it is.  It sounds like slave labour to me.
Don't you have anything that you're passionate about? What would you do if you could do anything at all and there weren't any limitations from your own thinking or thoughts that somebody else has put into your head?  Isn't there anything like that? You really need to decide what it is you want to do and not leave it up to the universe or anybody else but you to decide.  My ex-husband is excellent at history and really wanted to be a historian, but he said he couldn't do that because he can't write. That is so untrue. That's what he thinks. He can write very well, so he missed out on doing what he really wanted to do because of limitations he put on himself in his own mind that weren't even really there otherwise. He retired early, but his only goal in life was to retire early because he didn't like the job he fell into. He was never happy. Don't let that happen to you.

I don't know but during the 1-2years I've been working there I had other problems going on so I just stuck with the job. Now that those problems have been solved I've decided to quit. Mainly because a few weeks ago I passed out at home from emotional stress and I called in sick that evening for the following day and they still tried to force me to work and put the blame on me. So I decided it was high time I left and took a well desevered break for my wellbeing even if I have no back up plan in place.

Anyways I was watching some LOA videos and kinda sat around and thought about what I want to do and tbh I'm not really passionate about anything. It's very strange... even if there were no limitations there really isn't anything that jumps at me. I'm leaning more towards trying admin work or working as a sales person for Apple since someone scouted me a couple months ago to try it out, and I missed the opportunity cause at the time, like your ex-husband I had it in my mind I couldn't do it. Now I look back I felt so stupid, but thankfully I saw the guy that scouted me come back again and he said he's willing to give me the email to put me on a waiting list and to try again.

But anyhow I wrote a list of things that would make me happy from a job and how it could possibly enhance my current skills. I also wrote I want to learn and gain a qualification from it. Basically I was very specific what I wanted from the job but didn't pinpoint what job I wanted. I've read it works but anyhow I will just see.

Good for you for leaving that job. The way they have treated you there must be illegal. I've had some soul destroying jobs in my life, but that one is unbelievable. Since you don't have anything you're passionate about, I think that's a very good idea you've got about listing what you want to feel and gain from a job because you have to know what you want before you can get it.and be as clear as possible about it, as with anything.  It's a shame you don't have anything you feel passionate about, but who knows, maybe you'll find the job that creates that feeling in you?

zionthecomedian wrote:

Cynthia wrote:

zionthecomedian wrote:

I don't know but during the 1-2years I've been working there I had other problems going on so I just stuck with the job. Now that those problems have been solved I've decided to quit. Mainly because a few weeks ago I passed out at home from emotional stress and I called in sick that evening for the following day and they still tried to force me to work and put the blame on me. So I decided it was high time I left and took a well desevered break for my wellbeing even if I have no back up plan in place.

Anyways I was watching some LOA videos and kinda sat around and thought about what I want to do and tbh I'm not really passionate about anything. It's very strange... even if there were no limitations there really isn't anything that jumps at me. I'm leaning more towards trying admin work or working as a sales person for Apple since someone scouted me a couple months ago to try it out, and I missed the opportunity cause at the time, like your ex-husband I had it in my mind I couldn't do it. Now I look back I felt so stupid, but thankfully I saw the guy that scouted me come back again and he said he's willing to give me the email to put me on a waiting list and to try again.

But anyhow I wrote a list of things that would make me happy from a job and how it could possibly enhance my current skills. I also wrote I want to learn and gain a qualification from it. Basically I was very specific what I wanted from the job but didn't pinpoint what job I wanted. I've read it works but anyhow I will just see.

Good for you for leaving that job. The way they have treated you there must be illegal. I've had some soul destroying jobs in my life, but that one is unbelievable. Since you don't have anything you're passionate about, I think that's a very good idea you've got about listing what you want to feel and gain from a job because you have to know what you want before you can get it.and be as clear as possible about it, as with anything.  It's a shame you don't have anything you feel passionate about, but who knows, maybe you'll find the job that creates that feeling in you?

Thank you, it's a risk, me jumping ship like that but I don't know. I just had this urge to quit... but when I spoke about it I was very shocked at how calm I was. But thank you, I'm hoping by writing down what I want it'll help me gain a job that gives me those feelings. I think I'm more frustrated at the fact I have nothing I am passionate about to be honest and I'm just adding pressure to myself by wanting to find my passion asap so I can aim for a career I would be good at... but maybe I am looking at everything wrong. Maybe I should just be working on myself atm and see what lines up. What do you think?

 
I think by leaving that job you realised that you deserved a lot better than that and that you needed to put yourself and your health and wellbeing first and let them know you weren't going to tolerate being treated like that any more, whether you actually said that to them or not. That's a great step in the right direction, valuing yourself more highly than perhaps you've been doing. I know that you're obviously older now and different, but did you ever dream of doing anything when you grew up when you were a child? One thing you could do if you're worried about finances and feel that you have to get a job soon to be able to pay your bills is to take a job that feels like the best choice for now and look at it as a temporary thing to do whilst you're looking for your passion so you could take the pressure off yourself. It would be a lot easier to find your passion if you weren't feeling pressurised like it was a matter of urgency. You could do temping in the meantime, but I used to do a lot of temping myself years ago, and there wasn't always work available and some of the jobs were what nobody in the company wanted to do, really boring, tedious things. Working on yourself is always a positive thing, so you could do that at the same time unless you aren't in a rush to get another job. You've definitely taken a giant leap in the right direction by leaving that horrible job. Perhaps there are some classes available where you could try out other things you've never learnt before and see how you liked them. You could try stepping out of your comfort zone, even just for fun. You might find something you really love that had never crossed your mind before.

Last edited by Cynthia (10/09/2017 7:20 pm)