Kavik wrote:

I think is your sobconcious, deep inside, you feel that, if he come back you're going to be misserable, so maybe, that's the reason why he is not comming back, Or maybe he will come back to you but not now, maybe in the future, and if you accept it again, that deppends on you. 

Because for me, we are the universe, we decide what is the best for us, if we´re righ or not, that doesnt matter, the only thing that matters is how we feel about our desires.
 

No, no, no I DON'T want him, goodness me no! How did I give that impression? If he tried to come back he'd get his marching orders.

This is an old story I used to illustrate a point.

I do think you made some really good points.      Sometimes, at first when we think we really want someone, we don’t actually want them, it’s just our ego speaking.   Or like you said.  Not wanting to feel alone


I think it is important to see if we TRULY want the person or if it’s just an ego/not wanting to be alone thing


I think that’s why it’s very important to be in alignment or as cherished would say “in the vortex”. Since you can see things more clearly then     When you’re feeling down,sad,etc you don’t usually have a clear view


For me personally,  if I want(truly want) someone back in my life, they ALWAYS come back

It can be tricky, because there’s been times when I was miserable where I would want someone back in my life(friend wise or more). But as soon as I was in alignment, I realized I truly didn’t care if they came back or I realized I didn’t want them back in my life


For me personally, it’s very important for me to feel good when I make desires.  Especially when it has to do with people

Staceylouuu91x wrote:

When I've been in situations like this I wanted the person back because I felt bad and stupid I was the one who was on the receiving end of the breakup and not the person doing it. There was also part of me that had got too comfortable with the person being in my life and the idea of being single after so long and starting over with another person honestly terrified me. 

I was in the same place in my last breakup and I wanted that person back so bad but for the wrong reasons of course. I worked hard and manifested him back but only as a friend and for a short time but as soon as I saw him again I realized that I didn't really need him back and what I was missing was what he symbolized for me and I was finally able to be at peace with moving on.