I apologize I feel and see a difference as did a few others . So personally I disagree with you. I know me and yes I was wondering what Friday meant I'm not perfect but since then I have regrouped back to focusing and letting go. I feel and see a difference so I do respectfully disagree. Not only do I feel a difference but I wouldn't be manifesting quite a few things if there wasn't any because there was resistance also in other areas. I get that you interpret from my words and I did want Friday to mean something but I know personally how I have been feeling before Friday which is amazing. So I took a step back and just regrouped and reminded myself that just to enjoy life and I am. I will point out that I have dated and I have tried and determined that I really want my guy and to see if I can get that. It's hard for me to put into words what I have been doing and feeling but I know there is a difference I feel it and see it. So yes I know and feel I am very different from a  few months ago it's just being consistent which gets easier and easier you have to remind yourself not to get wrapped up in outside things and as stated no one is perfect so we all slip up now and again and that will always happen but you get back on.

I want to add that the dating helped me realize there are other people out there and I can get someone else which is great but I did determine I still want to give my guy a go and do this cause I am manifesting things even the dates I got. I don't feel it's necessary for me to date others right now if I just want to try this I do not mean that in a needy way . I know for a fact if I can't get him then I can get someone else and it can work but for right now I don't want to distract myself with that. So dating others can be helpful to help you realize there are other people out there however it frustrates me that sometimes it's determined to be a negative thing if someone doesn't want to do that personally. I do encourage people try it and enjoy a date here and there it's fun but if you don't want to commit to someone else don't.

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I'm already there for me I'm already doing things for me I'm fine. I really understand that you are interpreting my words a certain way so I get your response. However understand I am me 24/7 I do know what I am doing and I do know it works. I know I do self love practices everyday and I feel great doing them. I know what my self talk is and it has been great sure I was curious about Friday but I have regrouped and determined the universe will continue to manifest what I want so I have set the intention. I don't think I have to date someone else just to make a point to him. He found out from others I was going on dates not me.  Dates are fun and a good reminder but do I have to commit to someone just to make a point to him? No . I don't want to randomly commit to something I really don't want currently. I'm happy with what I have been doing I feel it works and I know how I have been feeling. Currently myself talk is things work out just focus on you and if they don't you know there are others out there. But if I choose to I can pursue those if I choose not to then I don't. I'm continuing to work on myself but it is frustrating when people make assumptions when they aren't you. I do of course get that what you read you will interpret so I know whatever I say you guys will interpret and vice verses just understand that I am not in a bad place at all. We all have our moments Friday was mine. Do I feel him contacting me and coming to me is a good thing? I feel it is I feel that it tells me to keep going. But honestly I would keep going regardless because it feels so good. I do feel these things wouldn't be happening if I was doing the things I was a month or two ago. I have don't really do any techniques to be honest when I use to do the rubbing out technique 3 times a day. I don't do it at all now and get better results because well I'm not focusing on that . I don't do send love meditations etc. the only meditations I do are the self love ones and the mirror technique . That's why it's like I get frustrated because I seriously two months ago couldn't stop feeling anxious but now I feel relaxed more. Caffeine cut out probably helped lol. But I do notice he health practices I do are because I want to feel good I work out to feel good and because I love how I look I drink tea because I love the benefits for me I practice eating healthy cause I want to. I do a lot now because I want to feel good not because what will he think. but I remind myself y'all don't know how I feel beside my words you don't see me everyday or see what I am doing you only read what I write on here. But I do a lot for myself and my self talk has improved greatly like I said we all have moments it's how you get up and move past it that makes the diffeeence. How you handle it shows if you've learned anything and sometimes it might not be a super quick recovery but it only took me two days to remind myself that it's all about feeling good . You want the feeling not the money or the person so I aspire to feel good .but with that said I do prefer my person I do want to focus on that and I don't feel like I need to commit to someone else to make a point if I date someone else it's because I want to. The most important thing is I'm more open to it which I wasn't before but currently don't have a commuted interest. Anyway sorry I said so much. I'm gonna continue doing what I've been doing I feel good and I see the benefits from it's I don't contact him on my own he contacts me he wouldn't be doing all this if he didn't feel a difference either but you are right he needs to continue to see my absence.

Lifesagas wrote:

It's not about it being a negative thing not wanting to consider other people per se - it's about thinking 'what do I want from a person' full stop.

And often when it's a specific person it is coming from need. I know I could get love from someone else but I don't want them, I want it from you. Why? What is it about that person that you need to validate you in some way? If you just want love (which is said to be the highest vibration) then you're open to love.

If it's love from just one person that you want then that's need - you need something from them and only them to make you happy. So you're not REALLY happy and full of self love because there is validation or security or whatever you feel you lack. And you feel only one person can really fulfil that. That's the definition of needy. Agnes has loads of videos about that as I know you watch her stuff.

Self love isn't about books or meditations or affirmations if your actions and feelings don't back it up.

Ask yourself what do I want and DESERVE? Do I want someone who is clear that they want to be with me, that they love me (or want to get to know me better so they could develop love for me) and want to be in a relationship with me? Am I an amazing person with lots of great qualities who is a great person to be in a relationship with?

If the answer to all those questions is yes then that's what you want. And that's what you should get. You shouldn't have to analyse little signs or hang around till they decide they may want to be with you or not. You shouldn't have to initiate contact or make sure they know how you feel. Why should you be visualising and scripting when they're chilling out with their GF? Why are you making all the effort?

They should want you and nothing will stand in their way. You shouldn't have to work so hard and focus so much for so long.

If you send out that you have no doubt what you want and that you know you deserve it and won't settle for less and you don't need anything from anybody then the theory is that you'll GET IT.

The theory also says if you send out 'I want and love you even if you don't want me right now but I'll hang on and wait and send you love, it doesn't matter what you've said or done, I don't want anyone else because they can't compare to you and I'll hope and pray you'll want me the same as I want and love you' then that's what you'll get - that want.

You've been on these forums long enough to know that.

I'm gonna end this like this I appreciate your response but I don't think you are understanding that I feel fine I know what I'm doing I know it works and I m not just saying affirmations and not feeling them I m just saying affirmations and doing the mirror technique with nothing to back it up. I have great self talk all day I feel a difference in myself. I wouldn't do friends with benefits which is what I use to do with him I wouldn't even explore that option now. I know what I want and I know what I deserve but I don't think you understand what I am saying. It seems you are painting my feelings and thoughts as not genuine which I know for a fact they are. I'm gonna end this post right now because there is nothing to discusss anymore I know how I feel I know what I'm doing and this really frustrates me because you appear to think that i feel it's him or nothing at all . Not the case I said I prefer to focus more on me and I would prefer a relationship with him. I am open to dating others but why waste their time and mine if I'm not wanting to pursue that at the moment. There is nothing wrong with me doing me right now and preferring my person. If someone comes along they sweeps me off my feet great I wouldn't be oppposed. He seems to know that right now he seems to know that I'm not sitting here doing nothing and waiting. If he did he wouldn't be freaking out which is what he is doing . But I'm not settling for this. My desire is a loving relationship with him so I'm not settling for he just freaking out and stuff no he has to do more. But again my main focus I feel good I do more for me then just affirmations and mirror techniques but I don't go taking about every little self talk conversation I have in my head to you guys. I think the stuff I'm doing helps me feel good it's important. I also love how I don't go on his Facebook, I don't text him , and if I was full fledged trying to have big conversations with him he wouldn't have gone out of his way to message me and ask why I'm being hasty etc. again he is freaking out right now cause he knows I'm not there. It makes me feel empowered and I love how I feel about myself in general the part about him being bothered is icing on the cake. Currently I feel like I can manifest anything . So to end this post thank you guys for the comments and thank you lifesagas for the reminder i did take something from your posts and it is the continue focus of self love so for that I thank you. Let's end this post and move past it Friday happened i consider it a good sign and I'm gonna now go about my day and keep up what I'm doing.

Ok let's end this post no more responses . I don't go out if my way to text him and I don't say much when I do. I'm not a perfect human being. What I was doing before Friday worked for me. I'm gonna keep doing that . I know some of y'all may or may not think I hear you. But I'm feeling that frustration right now and I want to end this post because it doesn't seem to be understood. I have even gone back to read my last two comments to see if I give off the vibe of neediness and I don't. In fact I'm pretty straight forward saying I know my desire I know what I deserve and I deserve a loving relationship committed relationship and I would like it to be with him. Again if anyone sweeps me off my feet fine but I am currently going to focus on me and my desire. What I'm doing is working for me and for my desires. So please let's let this post go no responses this event happened it's over it's done and the universe will deliver my desire and this is just part of the experience

Lifesagas wrote:

It's great you feel better but we're in exactly the same position as we were a few months ago really.

You're posting about self love etc now which is great and different from before but still it's just all aimed around him. You say you just want to feel good but also say you just want him. He's the one to complete you and he's the focus. Manifesting him is the goal and your supreme focus. People other than me have commented on you posting a huge amount and over-analysing so it's not just me 'misinterpreting'.

You're still posting loads and  wanting people to back you up on interpreting his behaviour. You're still saying you feel great and we don't know how you feel if we don't agree- but we do see your posts and they're the same as a few months ago in regards to trying to figure out him.

You have been doing this for over a year on here and trying to get a relationship with him for 3 years?  This same thing happened before on here and you had more input than 50 posters put together and you then'left' after being rude to people and deleted your posts and them came back under a different name.

And we all accepted that and welcomed you back and tried to help and were pleased that you seemed better in some ways. But now you're posting the same as before 'what does this mean?', not willing to let go and move on etc and as before, you get annoyed when people tell you what they see and think from your posts and say we don't know you or what is happening.

I'm not being negative, I just genuinely don't understand what you want people to say? That it's all good and it'll happen? It hasn't for years and I don't think it will given your focus on him and inability to really let go and move on and you've had numerous posters tell you that over numerous threads in the past. I'm not going to say 'ooh good sign' when it's nothing new and I know the history that YOU have posted.

But then you get annoyed, tell people they don't know you. That went on for so long you left then came back then ask for opinions again - and bump your threads when you feel like you haven't had enough opinions but you don't really want opinions you don't  want so say you won't come back to the thread....

All because I don't want to commit to another relationship with other people? look I can manifest a relationship with him. I know you apparently don't think I can and he won't come back. But I do . I just really don't know why you feel I "have to move on and date other people" what I'm doing is working for me. Instead of just ending this post and not saying anything you have to reiterate that you feel it will never happen and I must move on etc. my posts have not been the same yes this one was because I asked for opinions dear god how could I do such a horrible thing. How could I not be perfect? But other then that the most posts I do is responding to others posts and give them my opinions and advice. Agnes has a video about how sometimes people tell you to move on and find someone better but she doesn't agree either. My beliefs match here just like my belief about manifesting s specific person. I know it's based on your vibration being happy etc love spells and stuff like that I strongly feel is wrong. I don't agree with you at all. I know what I want to manifest and I know I can do it. If I was being so needy he wouldn't be reaching out without me doing anything. I don't agree with what you said about me at all. I feel I ve gotten a lot better and I feel I can manifest my relationship I want with him. it really frustrates me how you can't accept that yes I went on dates with other people and I had fun but I don't want to commit to any of them. It's my choosing it's not like I haven't gone on any dates it's not like I'm calling him it's not like I'm not going it and having fun it's not like I'm not taking care of myself. It's not like I'm not working on myself. You may feel like you are banging your head against a brick wall talking to me right now but that's how I feel with you. I don't agree I know what I'm doing is working for me and I feel fine. Dear god sorry for the hiccup of asking I mean I'm a human being and if I was doing so horribly I wouldn't get private messages from others asking me for advice. I'm not perfect I haven't nearly posted as much about figuring out what something he does means as I use to. I feel most of the stuff I I post is advice and help and mostly positive. Now to keep the positive vibes up I would hope we can stop communicating on this message . I don't agree with you and you don't agree with me. We believe differently so you believe what you will like and I believe what I will.

I would also like to add yes self love isn't affirmations and books it's also what you do for yourself etc. I know the type of relationship I deserve. I would never ever do a friends with benefits relationship with him or anyone else. I did before because I was desperate and wanting to be close to him. If he was single tomorrow I wouldn't do that again. I know the type of relationship I deserve and I will not settle for less. Now I know the person I prefer it with is him. I will not settle for anything less from him. If I was gonna settle for anything less If I didn't value myself as much I would be texting him right now. I would be doing the rubbing out technique right now the send love the text one all of those again. But you know I got better things to do with my time and I want to feel good so I don't do those. So yes self love is more then affirmations and books and heck it's more then this example I gave it's also how I let others treat me, friends etc and even people on here.

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