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Attracting a person & relationship
There is something I am wondering about.. There is a difference between attracting someone back into your life & attracting a relationship with them, isn’t there? If you are lacking in self love & feeling unworthy, you could still attract someone into your life, but you most likely would not have a good relationship with them, or the particular relationship you want with them. But if you do in fact manage to build up your self love, feelings of worthiness, etc., then when you attract them back into your life, you’d also be in a good position to also attract the good relationship you want with them.
Am I understanding this correctly? It’s two different things...
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Re: Attracting a person & relationship
That's what I understood too, but after a long while. However for me, i am trying to attract him back into my life first before i try to attract a relationship since we've gone absolute no contact for 4 months now and he lives in another continent....
I don't like the fact that I can't let go. I didn't expect him to go so long without talking to me but when we were still talking (after he told me to move on) I always feared one day we'd stop. I got my fear haha...
All my friends tell me it's ridiculous and 4 months is long especially for my case where we talked for 10 months. We only met a couple of days but those days were magical and I know something is there... But my negativity killed everything.
So i tell myself if i can ruin it, i can fix it. But i'm constantly a mess. It doesnt take much to bring me down. Before sleeping is the worst time..
I'm just babbling. Sorry.
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Re: Attracting a person & relationship
I personally believe hurt ppl can love hurt ppl
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Re: Attracting a person & relationship
princessgirl87 wrote:
I personally believe hurt ppl can love hurt ppl
And that's a recipe for disaster and not healthy. I'd rather be alone than that.
Be a flamingo in a flock of pigeons.
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Re: Attracting a person & relationship
That's what I understood too, but after a long while. However for me, i am trying to attract him back into my life first before i try to attract a relationship since we've gone absolute no contact for 4 months now and he lives in another continent....
I don't like the fact that I can't let go. I didn't expect him to go so long without talking to me but when we were still talking (after he told me to move on) I always feared one day we'd stop. I got my fear haha...
All my friends tell me it's ridiculous and 4 months is long especially for my case where we talked for 10 months. We only met a couple of days but those days were magical and I know something is there... But my negativity killed everything.
So i tell myself if i can ruin it, i can fix it. But i'm constantly a mess. It doesnt take much to bring me down. Before sleeping is the worst time..
I'm just babbling. Sorry.
I attracted my person back into my life after 4 months of NC but I didn't manifest the relationship with him that I was trying to. Funny thing is after I finally got him back in my life I realized that I deserve better than what he can offer me and was able to move on much quicker.
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Re: Attracting a person & relationship
That's what I understood too, but after a long while. However for me, i am trying to attract him back into my life first before i try to attract a relationship since we've gone absolute no contact for 4 months now and he lives in another continent....
I don't like the fact that I can't let go. I didn't expect him to go so long without talking to me but when we were still talking (after he told me to move on) I always feared one day we'd stop. I got my fear haha...
All my friends tell me it's ridiculous and 4 months is long especially for my case where we talked for 10 months. We only met a couple of days but those days were magical and I know something is there... But my negativity killed everything.
So i tell myself if i can ruin it, i can fix it. But i'm constantly a mess. It doesnt take much to bring me down. Before sleeping is the worst time..
I'm just babbling. Sorry.I attracted my person back into my life after 4 months of NC but I didn't manifest the relationship with him that I was trying to. Funny thing is after I finally got him back in my life I realized that I deserve better than what he can offer me and was able to move on much quicker.
You dint attract the r/s maybe because you didn't want to? That's totally different isnt it.
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Re: Attracting a person & relationship
That's what I understood too, but after a long while. However for me, i am trying to attract him back into my life first before i try to attract a relationship since we've gone absolute no contact for 4 months now and he lives in another continent....
I don't like the fact that I can't let go. I didn't expect him to go so long without talking to me but when we were still talking (after he told me to move on) I always feared one day we'd stop. I got my fear haha...
All my friends tell me it's ridiculous and 4 months is long especially for my case where we talked for 10 months. We only met a couple of days but those days were magical and I know something is there... But my negativity killed everything.
So i tell myself if i can ruin it, i can fix it. But i'm constantly a mess. It doesnt take much to bring me down. Before sleeping is the worst time..
I'm just babbling. Sorry.I attracted my person back into my life after 4 months of NC but I didn't manifest the relationship with him that I was trying to. Funny thing is after I finally got him back in my life I realized that I deserve better than what he can offer me and was able to move on much quicker.
You dint attract the r/s maybe because you didn't want to? That's totally different isnt it.
I did want to... For months I was visualizing us together like we used to, doing RS, you name it... But then when I saw him again and he's been texting me after I realized why it didn't work before.. He's bipolar and goes on hyper mania so now he's acting like his life is perfect and all roses.. plus he's still with the rebound so I figured time for me to move on and find someone who would value me and stick around.
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