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Selfloveiskey · 9/21/2017 3:22 pm

authenticself wrote:
Selfloveiskey wrote:
Sometimes giving space can help in communication. When emotions are high and things it can be too soon. So I would give space and then contact him if you don't hear anything. Maybe then when it is calmer it is good to talk it out. While you have this time relax yourself and you can visualize what you want the end result to be . But for communication I would be patient give space and then try talking. I agree about RS I don't normally like it cause I don't want to make anyone do anything and that and love spells make me feel like it's not genuine. So you can use it some people like it and they do I just don't prefer it but as stated last resort for RS.
I feel like there is a lot of congestion that needs to be cleared up first. I need some kind of healing because fear is blocking me from loved ones.

Sometimes it takes looking inward to clear things up. I know the feeling of wanting to clear the air but sometimes contacting right away while it's fresh can make it worse. I have made that mistake waaaaay too many times. My guy would literally tell me he was upset and sometimes wanted space but everything felt so congested I was too impatient to give him the space he was asking and boom it got worse. Even had that this past summer and at that point he never wanted to see me again and wanted to erase every memory. Now he misses me. Space can really help and then things can get much better. Sometimes we think talking about it now now now is more helpful but it can make it more messy because your mind and feelings are so messed up. I advise space and then communicate definetly won't hurt. But it's ultimately up to you.

authenticself · 9/21/2017 3:33 pm

Cynthia wrote:
authenticself wrote:
Cynthia wrote:

Don't you already feel rejected? How much worse could it be if you told him you loved him and showed him you loved and appreciated him? Then at least you would have a better idea of where this relationship stood. This is perhaps a bit different, but when I was 17 I had the best boyfriend I ever had in my life. I loved him, and he's the one I should have married. I sometimes treated him badly for no reason at all, none that I knew at the time anyway, and it had nothing to do with him. He was wonderful. If I would have apologised to him I know he would have forgiven me and we could have mended our relationship, but I was afraid he would reject me, so I didn't say anything, and I've spent my whole life regretting it.
I don't feel rejected, I feel like I keep running away from the reality that he loves me and had I just followed my heart we would not be in this mess. Cuz I know he still loves me....and another thing I struggled with too was never apologizing. He always apologized, but not me. Then I started to but my actions never followed. If I were to do something differently and followed through with my heart I know we would be happy. I know what to do, but this fear just seems to speak louder all the time.
Obviously, fear is holding you back. I am a lot oldet than 17 now, and what I said before has been one of the biggest regrets of my life. You can let fear win and continue to be unhappy or you can do something different.

I know, after that happened I asked for some sort of book to call to me because I was at the library. Two books pulled me in, one called The Insecurity of Wisdom and the other called The Ego Trick. Both oddly pertaining to two things I see as a problem, ego and fear. So I knew it was an answer and got the books. Another weird thing, I decided to wear yellow today and the books are yellow.

authenticself · 9/21/2017 3:45 pm

Selfloveiskey wrote:
authenticself wrote:
Selfloveiskey wrote:
Sometimes giving space can help in communication. When emotions are high and things it can be too soon. So I would give space and then contact him if you don't hear anything. Maybe then when it is calmer it is good to talk it out. While you have this time relax yourself and you can visualize what you want the end result to be . But for communication I would be patient give space and then try talking. I agree about RS I don't normally like it cause I don't want to make anyone do anything and that and love spells make me feel like it's not genuine. So you can use it some people like it and they do I just don't prefer it but as stated last resort for RS.
I feel like there is a lot of congestion that needs to be cleared up first. I need some kind of healing because fear is blocking me from loved ones.
Sometimes it takes looking inward to clear things up. I know the feeling of wanting to clear the air but sometimes contacting right away while it's fresh can make it worse. I have made that mistake waaaaay too many times. My guy would literally tell me he was upset and sometimes wanted space but everything felt so congested I was too impatient to give him the space he was asking and boom it got worse. Even had that this past summer and at that point he never wanted to see me again and wanted to erase every memory. Now he misses me. Space can really help and then things can get much better. Sometimes we think talking about it now now now is more helpful but it can make it more messy because your mind and feelings are so messed up. I advise space and then communicate definetly won't hurt. But it's ultimately up to you.

Of course I agree with the space, he always spoke to me when I left him alone, the congestion is more energy concentrated. Wanted to heal this congestion energetically and find a way to have my love reach him while we are not in contact.

Selfloveiskey · 9/21/2017 3:48 pm

authenticself wrote:
Selfloveiskey wrote:
authenticself wrote:

I feel like there is a lot of congestion that needs to be cleared up first. I need some kind of healing because fear is blocking me from loved ones.
Sometimes it takes looking inward to clear things up. I know the feeling of wanting to clear the air but sometimes contacting right away while it's fresh can make it worse. I have made that mistake waaaaay too many times. My guy would literally tell me he was upset and sometimes wanted space but everything felt so congested I was too impatient to give him the space he was asking and boom it got worse. Even had that this past summer and at that point he never wanted to see me again and wanted to erase every memory. Now he misses me. Space can really help and then things can get much better. Sometimes we think talking about it now now now is more helpful but it can make it more messy because your mind and feelings are so messed up. I advise space and then communicate definetly won't hurt. But it's ultimately up to you.
Of course I agree with the space, he always spoke to me when I left him alone, the congestion is more energy concentrated. Wanted to heal this congestion energetically and find a way to have my love reach him while we are not in contact.

Easy Agnes vivarelli has some projection meditations or send love to your person ones. People have had success. Just know it works . But that can help with energy to your person. Of course work on self love for your energy and then do that that way you send love and go about your day until contact.

80saeaak · 9/21/2017 4:07 pm

Ohhh way more to the story. Sorry. I misunderstood. No, don't contact.

authenticself · 9/21/2017 4:09 pm

80saeaak wrote:
Ohhh way more to the story. Sorry. I misunderstood. No, don't contact.

I know he doesn't hate me, he is just upset. I guess the reason I am so upset is because I know the problem is I won't change my focus. I am the one who keeps repeating the mistake.

authenticself · 9/21/2017 4:10 pm

Selfloveiskey wrote:
authenticself wrote:
Selfloveiskey wrote:

Sometimes it takes looking inward to clear things up. I know the feeling of wanting to clear the air but sometimes contacting right away while it's fresh can make it worse. I have made that mistake waaaaay too many times. My guy would literally tell me he was upset and sometimes wanted space but everything felt so congested I was too impatient to give him the space he was asking and boom it got worse. Even had that this past summer and at that point he never wanted to see me again and wanted to erase every memory. Now he misses me. Space can really help and then things can get much better. Sometimes we think talking about it now now now is more helpful but it can make it more messy because your mind and feelings are so messed up. I advise space and then communicate definetly won't hurt. But it's ultimately up to you.
Of course I agree with the space, he always spoke to me when I left him alone, the congestion is more energy concentrated. Wanted to heal this congestion energetically and find a way to have my love reach him while we are not in contact.
Easy Agnes vivarelli has some projection meditations or send love to your person ones. People have had success. Just know it works . But that can help with energy to your person. Of course work on self love for your energy and then do that that way you send love and go about your day until contact.

She has both, thank goodness. Does her self love meditation help clear any negative energy within me?

Cynthia · 9/21/2017 4:18 pm

authenticself wrote:
Cynthia wrote:
authenticself wrote:

I don't feel rejected, I feel like I keep running away from the reality that he loves me and had I just followed my heart we would not be in this mess. Cuz I know he still loves me....and another thing I struggled with too was never apologizing. He always apologized, but not me. Then I started to but my actions never followed. If I were to do something differently and followed through with my heart I know we would be happy. I know what to do, but this fear just seems to speak louder all the time.
Obviously, fear is holding you back. I am a lot oldet than 17 now, and what I said before has been one of the biggest regrets of my life. You can let fear win and continue to be unhappy or you can do something different.

I know, after that happened I asked for some sort of book to call to me because I was at the library. Two books pulled me in, one called The Insecurity of Wisdom and the other called The Ego Trick. Both oddly pertaining to two things I see as a problem, ego and fear. So I knew it was an answer and got the books. Another weird thing, I decided to wear yellow today and the books are yellow.

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway helped me enormously. I think it's by Susan somebody. I don't remember her name right now.

Selfloveiskey · 9/21/2017 4:19 pm

authenticself wrote:
Selfloveiskey wrote:
authenticself wrote:

Of course I agree with the space, he always spoke to me when I left him alone, the congestion is more energy concentrated. Wanted to heal this congestion energetically and find a way to have my love reach him while we are not in contact.
Easy Agnes vivarelli has some projection meditations or send love to your person ones. People have had success. Just know it works . But that can help with energy to your person. Of course work on self love for your energy and then do that that way you send love and go about your day until contact.
She has both, thank goodness. Does her self love meditation help clear any negative energy within me?

Self love does help with that yes it is clearing your vibration. Hoponono prayer is also good to help forgive yourself and clear negativity too.

authenticself · 9/21/2017 4:19 pm

Not gonna lie, the resistance went away after what happened though. And all that was left to be felt was the love I have for him in my heart, it is a light weight feeling, filled with so much unconditional love for him.