Have you ever had any thought or small feeling about a third party? You are right self love is what you need to do. You don't really have to think of a third party entirely to get one in. He thing is if you feel that there obstacles or anything your way they can manifest into anything including third parties. With me I had thought of a third party intensely so I got that specifically but some may think I m never gonna get him back or there are so many things in my way etc anything consistently that saids j won't get him back then yes things will come up including this. Now good on you for unfollowing him. I did the same and t helped. Now continue to focus on you and do affirmations or visualize if you feel good or right doing it if not do self love until you feel good. I know it sounds repetitive but what we seek which is love from another person is something we can get within therefore no one becomes a necessity. You can do this! When my guy was with someone else I saw them in person cause of mutual friends first time it got to me but he second time I was a damn boss! I at first felt doubt and then thought no his is just an illusion and I'm gonna enjoy myself damn it. You know what happened? He started paying attention to me and his gf seemed jealous. He also was upset I left early and as you know even recently he gets upset when I leave early or am very short. You got this girl if I can do it you can definitely do it! We all have our down moments I had doubts yesterday but we are human . Treat yourself today you deserve to feel good 😊

Last edited by Selfloveiskey (9/21/2017 2:30 pm)

Gratitude21 wrote:

I'm feeling as if I was the rebound in his life and he has manifested his ex.
Don't know what I'm feeling! Too many emotions working on me simultaneously...anger, betrayal, sadness, love, eagerness...and so on.
I thought of us being together and at times not being together but never thought of him with her.

The best thing to do right now is to stop all thought distract yourself or replace those thoughts with "I love myself" I do that and it helps it replaces the negative thought cause you don't want to fight it it makes it worse. I know right now you feel low and feel like it's never gonna happen right? I felt that way a month ago and started self love and got to a so much better place. Keep doing self love .do not think of yourself as a rebound if you do then you will get just that. Remember that the universe gives us what we think and sometimes it is stuff from previous negative thought patterns but it will pass if you keep up your vibe. I advise right now replace your negative thoughts with affirmations about myself every time something pops up about him or them . Keep working the self love and just if you need to take a break from visualizing and stuff I really advise you do since you aren't feeling great . Please please start there I guarantee you it helps it's not a quick thing it takes time but trust me you can do this I did it and I was feeling depressed a month ago and these two things help and then I was able to visualize and things and stuff got better. It is a process . It's gonna be ok .

Gratitude21 wrote:

Thanks for the encouragement.

Here if you need anything I hope you are feeling better

Gratitude21 wrote:

Selfloveiskey wrote:

Gratitude21 wrote:

Thanks for the encouragement.

Here if you need anything I hope you are feeling better

I took your advise and treated myself to a good lunch. Felt good but just momentarily. I don't know what I am feeling. It seems I have accepted that he is with someone else for a moment and then next moment I want him back. I know all this is working against whatever good LoA work I have done so far. But I'm unable to focus on anything else right now. There is this other guy who my friend introduced me to and he tries to flirt with me but I normally pretend I don't understand what he means but today I even tried to flirt back. Again, it felt good only momentarily. 
Probably I'll be back to normal in a few days and start my "self-Love' affirmations and put all this in the past but for now it doesn't feel good.

I wouldn't put self love off I would start it now it helps in making you feel better. You need to change your thoughts . I advise if you have no interest in this other guy at all don't flirt. I did this too and it worked against me because I was using it to energetically make my guy jealous. Self love made me realize I don't need to do anything I am fine as I am. And I know I'm a catch. So I would start self love only now and start only with that and then when feeling high enough do other things that are geared towards your desire.