It depends what you look at someone's profile for. I have done it but from a nosey point of view and wanting to see pictures rather than checking up and panicking. I don't have a problem with that. I've looked at his sister's FB for the same reason: Purely information.

I've also checked out pictures of him from before, work he's done, that kind of thing. Curiosity and interest on my part which I don't think can be defined as stalking. It doesn't bring me down in the least, in fact I find it uplifting. And it's provided some good talking points between us. But then he isn't an ex.

Don't we all get negative thoughts of some sort each day though even as simple as the weather not being what you want, missing the train, going shopping and finding they haven't got what you want? It's impossible to be 100% happy all the time but it's possible to be a glass half full person.

What exactly are you afraid of and what's with all this profile checking?

I saw in Agnes's video in last she said "I have to do meditation now". So it is normal and happens to everyone.

it will come just make yourself ok with that by ignoring and by thinking "this thoughts are worthless and affecting my efforts by which i am on a good positive state now". You have fear of third party, do not you have fear of thinking about third person may spoil your efforts you have made till now? It can slow down the process.

Your person is yours already in your heart, noone can take him out from it just believe in power of love.

Your inside energy is much powerful than the third person's physical energy or move. Don't worry about third person.

These may change your thoughts, It is Laura's video just have a look at it she said it simply about attract someone back you may seen many and its ok to watch same stuff again. I myself have understood what she mean :
https://youtu.be/wf4Fo3yE1LE

This one is her manifesting story, she is in LDR as us. It may not the same situation as us but something can be pick from it to learn :
https://youtu.be/wf4Fo3yE1LE

Sorry for my English.
And love to see how strong and positive you are in NC.

Staceylouuu91x wrote:

We have negative thoughts because we are human, even the most upbeat people have their off days. You are not expected to have it together 100% of the time. If you're having an off day, that is fine. Sometime's it is actually beneficial to have a day where you just sit with negative thoughts. 

Just try and occupy your time with other interests, hobbies or whatever else can keep your mind in a good place. 

Yeah i try to distract myself as much as possible... But at times like right before I sleep or when I just wake up... It's just so... Sad.

Before Sleeping is the worst.

I'll be ok if it's just a day or something... But they kept getting carried forward until one sudden moment it leaves. And that happens out of nowhere too.

I wish i could find something that lifts me straight out of sadness. My friend who doesn't do LoA thinks I should just msg him because for that moment I would be happy.

But as long as I still question if i should message him, i think i won't. If i'm meant to i wont be debating. Just that the last week a lot of things came up and remind of out old convo or just him...

What do you suggest about the fear?

Thank you for replying. I will get better..

rpt.sunnymist wrote:

I saw in Agnes's video in last she said "I have to do meditation now". So it is normal and happens to everyone.

it will come just make yourself ok with that by ignoring and by thinking "this thoughts are worthless and affecting my efforts by which i am on a good positive state now". You have fear of third party, do not you have fear of thinking about third person may spoil your efforts you have made till now? It can slow down the process.

Your person is yours already in your heart, noone can take him out from it just believe in power of love.

Your inside energy is much powerful than the third person's physical energy or move. Don't worry about third person.

These may change your thoughts, It is Laura's video just have a look at it she said it simply about attract someone back you may seen many and its ok to watch same stuff again. I myself have understood what she mean :
https://youtu.be/wf4Fo3yE1LE

This one is her manifesting story, she is in LDR as us. It may not the same situation as us but something can be pick from it to learn :
https://youtu.be/wf4Fo3yE1LE

Sorry for my English.
And love to see how strong and positive you are in NC.

Thank you for the kind words. Things have just been really hard the past week when he stopped viewing all my stuff.... Yet everytime i feel like crap i ask myself do I still want him and the answer is always yes.

I can do this...