Selfloveiskey wrote:

Self talk is important that is where it starts. Question what are you doing exactly to manifest or help manifest? I'm doing Veronica s 25 day challenge gratitude journal to keep up vibes and self love.

That's awesome! I'm really happy you're doing that!

Well, I know it seems like an unnaturally small step, but I'm trying SO hard not to focus on the current reality. Sometimes I don't have to try, which is nice. I just trust. It's tricky to trust and trusting works... sometimes. I just can't help but slip into the worries of "logic" and "real life circumstances". But I've been reading and rereading LoA attracting books and those help me feel good! Also seeing "33" helps a ton!

Trying hard to stay positive. I've been getting irritable easily lately though and when I wake up, I have some anxiety and thoughts of, "Ugh. Back to this life. Maybe I'll just go back to sleep." which I try hard to avoid. I try to be happy and look for things to enjoy. Which I can do on kind of a surface level. But the missing is always there.

I guess right now, I'm just trying to find a way to stay positive that she'll return!  

I've been watching Rose for a Soul and Veronica's videos on repeat and they make me happy! But when I'm at work, for example, I have trouble staying in my mind and not focus on the outside world... and I think that's because I'm too "hands on" involved with work.. I have to be in retail haha!

But obviously there's some doubt or worry or sadness from "circumstances" otherwise I wouldn't be waking up with anxiety and wanting to dream rather than be awake lol.

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

Have a look at post 86 on the no contact thread. I think I gave an answer to this question there.

Thank you! Just read it and here's the deal though, I actually tried. I tried seeing other people, I tried moving on, I tried not giving a **** about having her in my life... I just in the most literal sense... 'can't'. It's not that I'm scared to let go or anything. I've actually tried. And I just can't. I really just want to have the faith that she'll return but it's really hard after years of ignoring and no contact, and me still being blocked. I guess logically I can't see how one day I'd suddenly become meaningful again to her. Because right now, obviously, she doesn't give a **** whether I live or even die, lol.

Cynthia wrote:

YesIWILL wrote:

I know how easy it is to lose faith that they'll come back after years of ignoring you, keeping you blocked, not caring enough to unblock you, for example... but my question is, how does one keep the faith up even after such a long time (2-3 years+) of them ignoring or not showing that interest in you anymore, moving on, etc.? Cause it's really hard to believe they'll come back after such a long time of not giving a **** about you. If that makes sense. Kinda makes one lose faith altogether. Can you guys help me find a way to keep the faith that she'll come back to me, despite what the world is showing me and how long it's been with her still ignoring me, not caring for me, etc.?

Could just use a little help on keeping my faith up



Thank you!

Time doesn't make any difference. I had a longer time than that, 4 years and 4 months, during which he completely ignored and snubbed me, telling me later that he was essentially punishing me for what other women had done to him, calling it his 'little tantrum', and when I finally suddenly one day felt nothing for him any more, and couldn't even make myself feel anything for him any more, the following month he wrote to me and told me how much he wanted to talk to me on the phone.  We did that for about 15 months or so. It's always been long distance, and things were going very well for a while, but then things started to deteriorate and I haven't heard from him for about 9 months. I reckon I will hear from him again when he's good and ready and has got over his current tantrum, if that's what it is this time, and the time is right, if I even still want to by then.

 

But what if the motivation for being distant is different? Like she HATES me, or at least feels indifferent toward me, doesn't want me in her life, really doesn't care, etc... I've tried reaching out a few times this year... no response. She really doesn't care... how could she 'magically become interested' again if she's very clearly moved on and doesn't give a ****? And let's be real. It's been over 2 years... she's probablly with anotehr guy... I'd hate to entertain that thought though. It gives me LEAGUES of anxeity.

I'm English and I broke up on bad terms with someone who moved to Arizona. I knew he didn't want to see me again. In fact he begged me to leave him alone. 15 years later we are back in touch and good friends. It happened out of the blue three years ago. Admitted we aren't romantic now but that doesn't matter, and I never thought I'd say it at the time when all I wanted was him. He's been back to England a time or two since. You really have to get to the point where it doesn't matter whether you get together with her or not. Who knows what might happen. I don't, but you have to be OK with not being with her. You just can't grow otherwise.

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