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Hello,
I'm just wondering if there are success story where we reach out first, instead of waiting for their contact?
I've been in complete NC for about 4 months now (and long distance but that wasnt the problem before so i know it will be ok again). I do believe he will eventually reach out and we'll be okay but sometimes I see things that remind me of him and I want to reach out. That urge has been strong the past week...
Thank you ...
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Well if you believe he will reach out why do you want to reach out? The thing is yes there have been some success stories from reaching out first buuut most of the time you are reaching out from a place of lack. Let me ask you would you really want to reach out so much if you truly believe that he will reach out first? It sounds to me like you are coming from a place of missing which is not how you want to feel if you reach out. Sometimes people confuse that with inspired action. So make sure if you do reach out you feel good and are ok with the outcome either way otherwise you are coming from a place of lack.
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I contacted someone first (I didn't "reach out"), because there was no way he would contact me first. I wanted something from him, so I was the one to make the first contact and that led on to other things. But mine was not an ex-back scenario.Β
In the circumstances mentioned, which is about exes (I guess) it's different, and I think people want to make the first move with re-establishing contact because they're impatient.Β
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Agreed but impatience to me is a negative emotion . You don't have to force things if you trust. If you do reach out really understand what you are feeling. Also just let go of the outcome .
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I was literally so close to sending an email to my ex and glad I didn't. He contact me on his own a couple of days later after 4 months of NC!
if you believe that he will reach out eventually then why make the first move?
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sillyromantic wrote:
I was literally so close to sending an email to my ex and glad I didn't. He contact me on his own a couple of days later after 4 months of NC!
if you believe that he will reach out eventually then why make the first move?
Cos i sorta screw up nc last week (yup it's possible) and then i lost all hope for a bit. I asked the universe for some specifc things if i ahould reach out and I saw it. And i was like nah one more time to be sure and i got it again.
I believe he will be back and will reach out but a part of me also think i should reach out first.
Yours reached out because he heard about the accident right?
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PrettyFlamingo wrote:
I contacted someone first (I didn't "reach out"), because there was no way he would contact me first. I wanted something from him, so I was the one to make the first contact and that led on to other things. But mine was not an ex-back scenario.Β
In the circumstances mentioned, which is about exes (I guess) it's different, and I think people want to make the first move with re-establishing contact because they're impatient.Β
Yeah probably.