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- Selfloveiskey
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Re: Whose doing the 25 day challenge
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I'm on day 17. I feel really good. Ex has been texting but I'm trying to keep it all surface,,,,.veronica said it isn't about ignoring them you can still be polite.
Signs I have seen......double numbers all the time....feathers in my path.....and exes coming around or me hearing about them on the news.....
Still I feel like my ex isn't close to wanting reconciliation so I wonder what is going to happen. I know I shouldn't think that way bc I'm showing lack when I do that..bit the more into this I get the more I'm thinking about how exactly this reconciliation is going to happen.....time will tell I guess....
It seems you are heading in the right direction. It's ok to wonder but don't put pressure on it. Just know it's another step to your end result. However by knowing he isn't close you are saying hey I want him to not be close to reconciliation therefore you are hindering yourself. Just enjoy the contact and say we are headed in that direction do not focus on the he is not ready just know that you are moving in that direction and will get there. The more you focus on he is not ready the more you get that. Just focus on being happy and enjoy the contact and focus on you. They love that lol really they do lol they come flying back. But also you are happy and relaxed so it's like you could care less lol. Hope that makes sense
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Makes total sense...thank you. Another thing I'm concerned about is that we have some contact now...like an ongoing text conversation...however I feel he doesn't get chatty unless I reach out first..so am I breaking the no contact rule? Not sure....we had a month of no communication..now we text occasionally...not sure what to do at this point except be positive and happy....
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Makes total sense...thank you. Another thing I'm concerned about is that we have some contact now...like an ongoing text conversation...however I feel he doesn't get chatty unless I reach out first..so am I breaking the no contact rule? Not sure....we had a month of no communication..now we text occasionally...not sure what to do at this point except be positive and happy....
- Selfloveiskey
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Makes total sense...thank you. Another thing I'm concerned about is that we have some contact now...like an ongoing text conversation...however I feel he doesn't get chatty unless I reach out first..so am I breaking the no contact rule? Not sure....we had a month of no communication..now we text occasionally...not sure what to do at this point except be positive and happy....
Why are you concerned? You have contact be grateful for it some people on here are blocked. I had contact with my guy for awhile before it go so much better so I was in a good spot you are too. I would go no contact on your end what I mean is don't reach out. They need to have time to miss you and also you need time to build yourself up. I mean it is good to talk and things but he can't miss you if you are there. Give yourself the 25 day challenge or a month of no contact to just get yourself in a good place. Of course if it feels good to talk to him talk but I wouldn't reach out if you are doing all of that he knows he doesn't have to do anything to get contact. If that makes sense
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Yes total sense. I did the month of no contact..then broke contact but left it very surface. He was very responsive. Pleasant. Still..i know that if I'm the one always reaching out first then I'm not really following the nc rule...im not texting out of desperation or a place of despair though. I'm not going to reach out anymore and we shall see what happens. We are just in a good place and I want to keep that momentum going...tbis is where my confusion is.
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Yes total sense. I did the month of no contact..then broke contact but left it very surface. He was very responsive. Pleasant. Still..i know that if I'm the one always reaching out first then I'm not really following the nc rule...im not texting out of desperation or a place of despair though. I'm not going to reach out anymore and we shall see what happens. We are just in a good place and I want to keep that momentum going...tbis is where my confusion is.
Keep a great attitude love yourself and the universe delivers trust it. You can and will keep the momentum 😊
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Thread Starter- whitebutterflies11
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Yes total sense. I did the month of no contact..then broke contact but left it very surface. He was very responsive. Pleasant. Still..i know that if I'm the one always reaching out first then I'm not really following the nc rule...im not texting out of desperation or a place of despair though. I'm not going to reach out anymore and we shall see what happens. We are just in a good place and I want to keep that momentum going...tbis is where my confusion is.
Keep a great attitude love yourself and the universe delivers trust it. You can and will keep the momentum 😊
I totally agree. I broke NC too, and I will not anymore. He WILL text me on his own when the time is right. I have been feeling good all day 
let's keep it up!! I restarted the 25 day challenge today too!
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We got this!!! Thanks for your support ......im feeling really positive...made great money at work today and had a good dinner with My son..who was estranged before I started LOA i may add!! Only a matter of time before i see ex again....already am visualizing the outfit.
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You got this! 😊
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Thread Starter- whitebutterflies11
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We got this!!! Thanks for your support ......im feeling really positive...made great money at work today and had a good dinner with My son..who was estranged before I started LOA i may add!! Only a matter of time before i see ex again....already am visualizing the outfit.
I feel like supporting each other is so beneficial to all of us. Not to mention, it's definitely got to be raising our vibration! I am so grateful for this forum. To be able to have such amazing, supportive, and positive people to turn to! Congrats on being able to be with your son
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