Well first if he is making an effort then and you love him etc have you thought about what at you looking for? Like what is the I love you gesture to you? What makes you know someone loves you? We all have different things that show us so ask yourself that. The other thing is he maybe telling you to wear no make up etc because he wants you to know you don't have to impress him . It depends on how he saids it but some guys do that . Mine does. Try talking to him and telling him you enjoy it and you appreciate that he thinks you are beautiful without all that.

Lifesagas wrote:

Trying to control someone else or change them isn't very loving so maybe that's why you don't feel it.

You need to talk to him and make your boundaries clear. If i'm being generous, a lot of people who are controlling in relationships are insecure; wanting you to not wear make up and wear baggy clothes is possibly because he doesn't want other men to find you attractive because he's worried you'll meet someone else and leave him.

If that's the case, you can work with that and reassure him but make it clear you wear what you want because you are your own person and make your own decisions.

If he wants you to not wear make up and wear baggy clothes because he thinks you 'belong' to him or you just shouldn't look attractive to other guys because you have a boyfriend - that's a bad sign.

YOU decide what you wear and how you look. You don't change your appearance to make someone else happy. Don't ever do that - it isn't a sign of love, at all.

I can definetly see where this looks negative and some have possessive intentions etc . My guy doesn't try to control how I look but he does tell me he loves when I'm just natural no make up none of the fancy stuff. He thinks that is when I am at my most beautiful. Now he saids that he thinks I'm beautiful either way too but that's his favorite . He doesn't try to control my hair clothes etc. I once cut my hair super short one time cause I wanted to and he wasn't huge on it but it's my hair I cut it how I want it lol. He still loved me the same and I was happy cause it didn't take that long to style lol. But I can see how this stuff can look when guys say this. Sometimes guys may be trying to be sweet and say they love you for you and that's their way of doing it but sometimes they really are trying to control what you do cause of their insecurities which is wrong so very weong

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