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Helping a depressed friend (Need advice)
Hi guys! Its been a minute since I last posted here (last time was about my ex)
Anyway, I met this friend back in late May and she has always had a doom and gloom worldview (she's admitted having an existential crisis several times).
Recently, her soon to be ex wife told her that she was divorcing her and told my friend she had until October to find a new place because the ex wife is going to lease the apartment.
My friend has no job at this time and I've been doing my best to help her without getting frustrated or drained.
Additionally, it seems the gloominess follows her as she struggles to date around or mingle with others.
I've started using the whispering technique on her and so far, one of the four phrases she has said in regards of a GoFundMe page she made for her current situation.
What is the best course of action to take using LOA to influence change in her disposition?
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Re: Helping a depressed friend (Need advice)
You have to allow her to feel sad and grieve. Too many people think LOA is all about being happy but your friend experienced a big disruption in her life. You can visualize her happy and that's good. Take a few minutes to meditate and see her happy. Or use whisper. Whatever you like it doesn't matter. But don't be consumed by it and go on with your day. Abraham days that by using the Emotional Guidance Scale, you are allowing yourself to feel negative emotions, but feeling them allows us to let them go too. So if she wants to cry and grieve, let her. Don't suppress them. Be her shoulder to cry on. You need to evaluate her mental state though. if she's not ready to date, don't force her. If she thinks she is but she isn't, maybe offer to take her out to other activities to make her happy. If it's getting to draining on you, then maybe advise her to seek help elsewhere and then take care of yourself. Politely tell her that you wish to help her but you have x, y, z things to worry about in your own life. In that case doing a technique like a whispering technique would be helpful for a few mins a day but from a place of sincerely wishing her well. But please, don't forget about you. Often we get consumed with helping others that we forget about ourselves.
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Re: Helping a depressed friend (Need advice)
mugginess wrote:
You have to allow her to feel sad and grieve. Too many people think LOA is all about being happy but your friend experienced a big disruption in her life. You can visualize her happy and that's good. Take a few minutes to meditate and see her happy. Or use whisper. Whatever you like it doesn't matter. But don't be consumed by it and go on with your day. Abraham days that by using the Emotional Guidance Scale, you are allowing yourself to feel negative emotions, but feeling them allows us to let them go too. So if she wants to cry and grieve, let her. Don't suppress them. Be her shoulder to cry on. You need to evaluate her mental state though. if she's not ready to date, don't force her. If she thinks she is but she isn't, maybe offer to take her out to other activities to make her happy. If it's getting to draining on you, then maybe advise her to seek help elsewhere and then take care of yourself. Politely tell her that you wish to help her but you have x, y, z things to worry about in your own life. In that case doing a technique like a whispering technique would be helpful for a few mins a day but from a place of sincerely wishing her well. But please, don't forget about you. Often we get consumed with helping others that we forget about ourselves.
Hi! Thanks for your response!
Yes, its fine for her to grieve as I have been there before with my ex partner breaking up and depression in general. And she has wanted to date on her own accord.
I will continue using Whispering and also add some "pink light/ball visualizations" as well. And no worries! I won't forget about myself! ^^
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Re: Helping a depressed friend (Need advice)
Given the situations in her current life, it doesn't look like that she is in any space of loving herself. From what I understand about LoA is that you have to literally force self love on yourself till the time it doesn't become like a natural thing to do.
Please ask her to read a book by Kamal Ravikant ' live yourself as if your life depends on it'
Self love and self worth is the first step in LoA. And maximum times that's where we lack, thanks to few negative people in our lives.
And my personal suggestion, ask her to watch the movie 'The Secret' also.
She ad her situation will get better.
Loads of best wishes to you and to her.
Living in gratitude, loving yourself, asking and let go! Trust the process!
Veronica Isles LOA coach veronicaislescoaching.com