I've noticed that when you start to focus on a goal, you see a few results within 3-7 days.  Then you will see the BIG result within 30-60 days depending on level of effort and discipline.  Now talking with your lover could be considered a big or small manifestation depending on your situation.  But, the important thing is it will happen. 

Do you guys suggest initiating contact? Or no? 

@Cherished - Makes so much sense. I notice this, too! 

romanben wrote:

Wow then I feel like a Failure. I've been broken up for like 5 going on six months and have had no success. My ex hasnt tried to talk to me and if I do I get ignored. We've broken up twice. Since you all got it fairly quickly in a month it... I feel like I am completely doing this wrong. Is this much time a sign that I need to move on then?

I know how it feels. Trust me, I am not 100% there but my mind has shifted since coming to this forum. Believe me, I feel weird giving you advice since I have had a massive struggle myself and feel like a hypocrite telling you it'll be fine when I struggled immensley but I have been told constantly that things can change from these amazing people here. Trust yourself and trust these people. They are here to help. Have faith. I have been told time is nothing but an illusion, you can change this. My story sounds so similar to you you are not alone my friend. Just have faith.

Cherished wrote:

CarpeDiem,  so great to see your positive momentum increasing! And you are right, it takes faith and a commitment to changing your thoughts. That's all 😊 I had a period of no contact that lasted a few months initially. It's all about your thoughts. Feeling like a failure is quite low vibrationally, so in order to manifest desires, we must always be reaching for a vibration of appreciation, ease, love etc.

I just searched and found this thread as I have the no contact blues today. It's been a few months after a nasty nasty argument where he said awful things (that yeah I was totally imagining him saying I created it like a pro) then he blocked me.

I get SUCH urges to call or text to see if I'm still blocked, but it's so painful and comes from a place of panic that it's probably not a good idea. I have moments where it feels impossible he will come see me or call me, that's why success stories of similar situations are so helpful.

I've had people say, go see him! Go talk to him! Do something! But I hope my RS will be enough! I'd love him to contact me and chase me this time around.

I've even been like I know I'll write him a letter!!! But that's from a place of fearing he won't come to me, that the universe isn't doing enough for me behind the scenes.

So I might have to tie my hands behind my back for the time being lol...

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