PrettyFlamingo wrote:

happyinlove wrote:

YesIWILL wrote:

He seems very toxic and rude- I'm so sorry.

That's just my opinion

Agree strangely I find it funny that some people who tell me "why do you want a guy like yours" " you can do better" " get Away from this" "he sounds like a terrible guy you should attract something better " ( all paraphrasing so I guess I shouldn't put it in quotes cause it's not quotes . ) seem to defend someone who sounds awful on their end .

Yes.

Just to clarify a) he's NOT a romantic interest and b) he doesn't upset or hurt me. I know enough about myself to ignore his comments. I don't spend a great deal of time with him purely for the reasons he can be vibe- lowering but I don't really allow him to affect me so much.

I know I can't change him but I can draw boundary lines with him. He had a bust up with his next door neighbour too. It's him, nobody "pushed out".

I guess I just wanted to explore his behaviour here.

Well see, that's the thing, you can "change him", in a way. You can attract a version of him who has all the qualities that you'd admire, which differ from 'this version's him'.
I know you said he's not a romantic interest, so I just mean you can quote, "change him" in the way in which you'd like  

I'm really sorry for how he's been toward you. Just know, if it means anything at all (and I know you know it!!) that you're amazing Keep a high vibe!

This is not what the original post was about at all!

Back to the original post, I've given the friend the number of a counsellor to contact. I wonder if he will?