All you can do is fill your day with positive things and deliberately visualise a positive outcome. Don't let the balance of your life become tipped over to where techniques take over from your normal daily activities. 

Trust me, it really isn't worth it to cry over someone. I'm not being harsh, I've been there and realised what a waste of time it was, when I could have been doing something I like, been out with friends, even spending time with my cat. Much better than crying, which is unproductive. 

Or are you crying all the time because of other issues? Depression or anything else? Really think about it. 

Right. I guess when you feel upset, find something positive to distract? It's difficult to tell someone what to do sometimes! 

sillyromantic wrote:

I have a somewhat similar question in regards to thinking about someone a lot. It's been 3 months of NC now and in general I feel much happier and I stay busy and distracted with positive things and personal goals but he still keeps creeping into my thoughts every day, if a song comes on that brings back a memory, a situation or scene in a movie. I wake up in the middle of the night and he's the first thing that pops into me head so I do visualization. I don't feel like I'm upset or obsessive but wondering why I can't stop thinking about this person and what to do about it. I feel happy and peaceful when I visualize or think about him being there with me. Any advice?

Yup me too. Haha...