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Don't know if this counts as a succes story, since it wasn't what I planned for.
The last 8 months I've been trying to get my ex back. She's with another dude and they've bought a house.
My life have been this insane rollercoaster since she left me in september, and I haven't felt good, like in good when you mean it for real and not just Something you just tell your self.
I feel like I've been trying everything. Read just about every article about attracting your speciel person. All sorts of techniques. Meditating. Affirmations. Subliminals. Scripting. You name it.
And Nothing seems to have worked. But I kept my head high and kept believing that she will come back to me.
Now, I Haven't heard a peep from her since december, her family have shut me out and She seems happier than ever.
Yes, I told you this wasn't a true succes story. But stay with me.
As I said, I felt my life was totally falling apart.
But then Something happen about a month ago.
I was going to some good friends of mine. Their kid turned 12 and I was invited.
Funny thing is, through out the spring, I've been asking the universe to bring me back my ex or something better.
And here, at that birthday party there was this girl I haven't seen Before.
It was a family member of my friends, who the day before just Got this feeling that she should visit her family. She lives about 500 km. away.
I never knew her, she never knew me. But the spark was instant and we have seen eachother twice now, and again this saturday and sunday.
And I can tell you this. I'm absolutely crazy about her. Can't stop thinking about her.
So I guess the universe listened. It didn't bring me back my ex, but it brought me Something else.
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Oh boy, this is really insane. Universe does good, it delivers good thing at unexpected time, I am really happy for you. If you feel the spark, then go for it.
You never know that this spark might turn into fire in which you both can burn in together, keep eachother warm forever. All the best mate, my best wishes are with you.
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This is great news. I will be interested to see how it turns out.Β
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I just hope my insecurity won't come crawling by again π
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PrettyFlamingo wrote:
This is great news. I will be interested to see how it turns out.Β
Update.
So, sΓ₯ you know I met this incredible girl and we instantly clicked.
We went on a couple of dates, held hands, kissed and actually desided to be bf and gf.
Then she har to go back to the faroe Islands until august and suddenly my fear came crawling back.
So I desided to ret Lanies BWD technique in her, just to spise things up.
After that she became Very distant and texted less.
I told her why I was being insecure because of how my last relationship ended, and that the communication between my ex and I became more and more distant. (Probably a bit mistanke to Tell about my insecurity)
A couple of days later she sent me a text telling me that she was thinking about me too, but har to put "us" aside until she comes back to Denmark. There was alot Going on with her parents not supporting her moving to Denmark to study.
But she really wanted to See me alot when she's back and settled in. If I still want her.
Now the situation is that, she never texts anymore, she never likes or comments my Facebook or Instagram, and She removed the only picture on her IG that has a connection to me.
Wouldn't you guys say she's lost all interrest in me?
How han I get back to the state where her and I we're crazy about each other and texted all the time?
It all went from all to nothing from her, in a matter of a week.
Before that she har been thinking about me 24/7 for the past 1,5 month.
Now I don't know what to do.
I miss her terribly and She seems to not think About me at all.
Should I just wait it out until august, or plain out ask her how she feels?
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I think you have jumped in far too seriously far too soon. You've mentioned insecurity because of how the last relationship ended and you decided to be exclusive after two dates. It's far too soon to make that kind of judgment about someone, you just don't know them. And talking about insecurity to someone you have just met is not a good idea.
There's a post on here I put up about a similar incident that happened to me when I was 18. I allowed it to wreck my life for a year. Please don't allow that to happen to you.
Take things slowly and simply and get to know someone properly before you make declarations of exclusivity.
I feel for you though as I've been there. That's why I'm far more cautious.
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Yeah, we both rushed Into it way too fast. But it all just felt so right.
Now I'm concerned that I've ruined it all. That there's no Going back.