Speaking as the ex wife of an alcoholic this wont be an isolated incident - he obviously has a drink problem and personal issues and it will only get worse not better - why put yourself through this? I'd personally let go and move on .. you're worth more, love yourself and allow yourself the opportunity to have a healthy relationship with someone who deserves your love.

I was very unhappy in my 10 year marriage and the worst part was feeling trapped, loving a man who totally disrespected me, giving him chance after chance to sort himself out, in the end I was a shell of my former self - too scared to hold on, too scared to let go and despite my loyalty and the effort I made to try and make our relationship work he totally betrayed me. ive seen it again and again with friends whos partners have drink problemsand other addictios - they're the only ones who count, its just not worth the heart ache.

I have now been left with a lot of personal baggage (anxiety, trust issues etc) which have impacted on my current relationship with the love of my life, thankfully he's patient and understanding and i know we will get through this. I'm thankful for my son that came out of the marriage but other than that I feel like ive lost 10 years of my life.

I wish you well, whichever decision you make x​

Last edited by Blossom1 (6/22/2017 8:18 pm)

A lady from work was in your position when she was 18. She married the guy who spent the next 30 years drinking. She put up with it and worked to keep both of them. He packed in work to stay home and drink. He's just died from liver failure and she's wasted her life.

If I were in your position I'd think there are plenty more fish in the sea without these issues. Don't make his issue yours.