The reasons why you can't be together will cease to exist once you stop providing a foundation for them.  You think they are happening out of your control, when they are actually being created by you.  So, you have the power to stop them.  You stop by creating a foundation for the alternative and it's the only way out.

Hisoneandonly wrote:

DreamWalker wrote:

Hisoneandonly wrote:

Wow.. did you get him back? And I know but I'm scared..
 

Please tell me that's not all you took away from this.

 Of course not I know you want me to stop tracking his love so i can have my power back to myself. Then I can stop thinking about this girl. And stop focusing on the circumstances I see now. But how, how do I stop seeing them? There's so many reasons, so many things that I don't want is right in front of me, and they're the fact that can't lead me back to him.

VeronicaAdmin wrote:

The reasons why you can't be together will cease to exist once you stop providing a foundation for them.  You think they are happening out of your control, when they are actually being created by you.  So, you have the power to stop them.  You stop by creating a foundation for the alternative and it's the only way out.

Hisoneandonly wrote:

DreamWalker wrote:

Please tell me that's not all you took away from this.

 Of course not I know you want me to stop tracking his love so i can have my power back to myself. Then I can stop thinking about this girl. And stop focusing on the circumstances I see now. But how, how do I stop seeing them? There's so many reasons, so many things that I don't want is right in front of me, and they're the fact that can't lead me back to him.

 

 
This have me in tears, Thank you so much  (cry)

This post is awesome

Vera wrote:

Hisoneandonly - If I have to be honest with you, I feel tired and frustrated reading your posts because it seems that you're ignoring everyone's advice here. It's understandable why I feel like this because your posts are not really positive, even after weeks of posts from everyone here. You're not helping yourself at all. You already have 30 pages in your thread and yet you're not listening. If you go back to page 1 and read through page 30, you have everything that you need to know about LOA from all these wonderful people. Did you watch all of Veronica's videos? Have you watched them every single day? They are powerful and have the power to change your circumstances. Just read all the success stories here.

But, like any types of planning and learning, if you don't apply what you learned and you just read, read, and read, nothing will happen. I know this from starting businesses. Ideas are cheap, execution is everything. You have to apply what you know, and I bet you know A LOT!

If you don't want to change, nothing in your circumstance will change, and if you continue to go down this path, you will reach 100 pages here and you'll still feel inadequate, miserable, frustrated, sad, etc. because you are not helping yourself at all. 

Why don't you try this:

Turn off your laptop and your phone. Disconnect your TV and whatever that gives you distractions. Close your eyes for 10 minutes and empty your mind. When I say empty your mind, totally let go of everything!

Don't think of projects, assignments, schedules, things that you need to buy, people that you need to call... Don't think of anything. Control your mind so it won't wander and go places.

Just see nothing, relax. If you hear or feel something, like that gentle breeze that brushes through your face or the humming of the birds, just feel or listen to it but don't think about what it is. Just enjoy it.

Focus on your body and where you are RIGHT NOW. Are you outside of your house or inside your room? If you turn off everything around you, you realize that you are there, sitting down on your couch or chair or lying on your bed.

No one else is there. You ex is not there. Your friends are not there. You only have you, and your couch or bed and the walls around you. Try to realize this. Try to focus where you are.

Realize where you are RIGHT NOW. Are you in a meeting? Are you in a party? Are you on a long-haul flight to Australia? Are you cooking? NO, you are not. You are there, sitting and breathing in and out. Feel your body and all the sensations that comes to you. Just acknowledge them but don't give them labels. Don't say, what is that smell? Is that cinnamon? Just smell it and enjoy it. Don't say, what kind of bird is chirping outside? Who cares? Just enjoy and listen to it.

This is what you call mindfulness and being present. All you have is now. Yesterday doesn't matter. Tomorrow is not yet here. What can you do about yesterday and tomorrow? NOTHING. You can't change yesterday so let it go. As to tomorrow, you can influence it by what you do today. So do you want your tomorrow to be full of love and beauty and happiness? Then realize that you can create that by what you RIGHT NOW.

RIGHT NOW is the best moment of your life. NOW never ends. So focus on creating the best now. You already know about RS and visualizations. There's a reason we have to feel as if everything is happening right now, because focusing on the now is the best way to prepare for the future. 

About your friends and ex... realize that they are going about their lives. Can you change how they act around you? Of course!!! Through visualization, acting as if, and feeling good RIGHT NOW, you can. BUT you can also choose to think of the worst case scenario, and guess what? You will get just that! 

Breathe in and out. Feel the air coming and going out of your nostrils. Do you feel alive? Now focus on the things around you. Your table, your chairs, your bed, feel the strands of your hair, admire your clothes. Appreciate them, look at them, admire them, feel happy about them. Find something good about them.

Are you grateful you have a nice home? Are you grateful you have all these nice gadgets? Nice clothes? A nice car? Be totally present and feel love for your things. Can you appreciate them for what they are?

What I'm trying to say is that you have two minds. You have a mind that recognizes things around you right now and you have a mind that suggest things to you that may not even true. Your monkey mind assumes so many things and conjures up images that are not even true or images you don't know as true because you're not there to really know if it's true.

There are always two sides of the coin. How sure are you that he doesn't want to be with you? Because your monkey mind tells you so. But you have control over your monkey mind. Tell your monkey mind, no, you're totally wrong. He loves me. I know 100% in my heart that he loves me because that is my belief. 

And if that's what you believe it will come true. LOA is simple: you get more of what you focus on. Even Oprah knows this, that's why she's really mindful of her thoughts every single day. So if you keep on writing that he doesn't want to be with you, then he doesn't want to be with you. If you think what you're doing is wrong, then what you are doing is wrong. If you think you're not doing anything right, then you're not doing anything right.

You have to acknowledge every advice given to you here, and if you are really willing to change and get what you want, then do yourself a favor and follow the advice. Just do it.

I was in your shoes. I felt helpless and depressed. But I know, deep inside me, how LOA works, so everyday I force myself to focus on the good. And the good becomes better, and it becomes better and better every single day. Five days later, I am happy, and have this newfound excitement to travel solo. The prospect of that brings me joy.

I can't add more to what everyone has told you here. You have everything in your thread to help you. I have to be blunt and tell you this right now: stop being stubborn and get down to work. If you're not willing to change, don't change. But know that if you don't want to change, no amount of advice here can help you. But I believe that you want to change and, in the process, change your circumstances for the better. You have two choices: apply LOA or continue to go down this path of self-sabotage. I think you know what choice to make. Good luck. 
 

Thankyou for this vera. It really hits me. I really hope that I can make it. I've made the choice, I just hope that things can get better, and he can come back soon. I know I need to be happy now. Thanks 

Vera wrote:

Hisoneandonly - If I have to be honest with you, I feel tired and frustrated reading your posts because it seems that you're ignoring everyone's advice here. It's understandable why I feel like this because your posts are not really positive, even after weeks of posts from everyone here. You're not helping yourself at all. You already have 30 pages in your thread and yet you're not listening. If you go back to page 1 and read through page 30, you have everything that you need to know about LOA from all these wonderful people. Did you watch all of Veronica's videos? Have you watched them every single day? They are powerful and have the power to change your circumstances. Just read all the success stories here.

But, like any types of planning and learning, if you don't apply what you learned and you just read, read, and read, nothing will happen. I know this from starting businesses. Ideas are cheap, execution is everything. You have to apply what you know, and I bet you know A LOT!

If you don't want to change, nothing in your circumstance will change, and if you continue to go down this path, you will reach 100 pages here and you'll still feel inadequate, miserable, frustrated, sad, etc. because you are not helping yourself at all. 

Why don't you try this:

Turn off your laptop and your phone. Disconnect your TV and whatever that gives you distractions. Close your eyes for 10 minutes and empty your mind. When I say empty your mind, totally let go of everything!

Don't think of projects, assignments, schedules, things that you need to buy, people that you need to call... Don't think of anything. Control your mind so it won't wander and go places.

Just see nothing, relax. If you hear or feel something, like that gentle breeze that brushes through your face or the humming of the birds, just feel or listen to it but don't think about what it is. Just enjoy it.

Focus on your body and where you are RIGHT NOW. Are you outside of your house or inside your room? If you turn off everything around you, you realize that you are there, sitting down on your couch or chair or lying on your bed.

No one else is there. You ex is not there. Your friends are not there. You only have you, and your couch or bed and the walls around you. Try to realize this. Try to focus where you are.

Realize where you are RIGHT NOW. Are you in a meeting? Are you in a party? Are you on a long-haul flight to Australia? Are you cooking? NO, you are not. You are there, sitting and breathing in and out. Feel your body and all the sensations that comes to you. Just acknowledge them but don't give them labels. Don't say, what is that smell? Is that cinnamon? Just smell it and enjoy it. Don't say, what kind of bird is chirping outside? Who cares? Just enjoy and listen to it.

This is what you call mindfulness and being present. All you have is now. Yesterday doesn't matter. Tomorrow is not yet here. What can you do about yesterday and tomorrow? NOTHING. You can't change yesterday so let it go. As to tomorrow, you can influence it by what you do today. So do you want your tomorrow to be full of love and beauty and happiness? Then realize that you can create that by what you RIGHT NOW.

RIGHT NOW is the best moment of your life. NOW never ends. So focus on creating the best now. You already know about RS and visualizations. There's a reason we have to feel as if everything is happening right now, because focusing on the now is the best way to prepare for the future. 

About your friends and ex... realize that they are going about their lives. Can you change how they act around you? Of course!!! Through visualization, acting as if, and feeling good RIGHT NOW, you can. BUT you can also choose to think of the worst case scenario, and guess what? You will get just that! 

Breathe in and out. Feel the air coming and going out of your nostrils. Do you feel alive? Now focus on the things around you. Your table, your chairs, your bed, feel the strands of your hair, admire your clothes. Appreciate them, look at them, admire them, feel happy about them. Find something good about them.

Are you grateful you have a nice home? Are you grateful you have all these nice gadgets? Nice clothes? A nice car? Be totally present and feel love for your things. Can you appreciate them for what they are?

What I'm trying to say is that you have two minds. You have a mind that recognizes things around you right now and you have a mind that suggest things to you that may not even true. Your monkey mind assumes so many things and conjures up images that are not even true or images you don't know as true because you're not there to really know if it's true.

There are always two sides of the coin. How sure are you that he doesn't want to be with you? Because your monkey mind tells you so. But you have control over your monkey mind. Tell your monkey mind, no, you're totally wrong. He loves me. I know 100% in my heart that he loves me because that is my belief. 

And if that's what you believe it will come true. LOA is simple: you get more of what you focus on. Even Oprah knows this, that's why she's really mindful of her thoughts every single day. So if you keep on writing that he doesn't want to be with you, then he doesn't want to be with you. If you think what you're doing is wrong, then what you are doing is wrong. If you think you're not doing anything right, then you're not doing anything right.

You have to acknowledge every advice given to you here, and if you are really willing to change and get what you want, then do yourself a favor and follow the advice. Just do it.

I was in your shoes. I felt helpless and depressed. But I know, deep inside me, how LOA works, so everyday I force myself to focus on the good. And the good becomes better, and it becomes better and better every single day. Five days later, I am happy, and have this newfound excitement to travel solo. The prospect of that brings me joy.

I can't add more to what everyone has told you here. You have everything in your thread to help you. I have to be blunt and tell you this right now: stop being stubborn and get down to work. If you're not willing to change, don't change. But know that if you don't want to change, no amount of advice here can help you. But I believe that you want to change and, in the process, change your circumstances for the better. You have two choices: apply LOA or continue to go down this path of self-sabotage. I think you know what choice to make. Good luck. 
 

Watch Veronica's video, How to get your ex back in 25 days or less. It has everything there. Please be resourceful. Again, you have everything in this thread. We don't have to tell you what to do. Are you even reading the other threads here? There are very useful information here!