In the older days, I'd get into all the ego traps. FB stalking, start texting her trying to impress her and prove myself, or get depressed and brooding and sulky, doing the hot and cold thing to make myself more mysterious, but also to protect myself too. That's a road to nowhere. Sometimes I'd deal with my anger and jealousy by putting my attention on other girls...which would lead to more drama. Like the Gordion knot, it's too messy to untangle so you just cut it.

The more you become filled with self-love, self-worth, and belief in yourself (not belief that you'll be back together - belief in yourself) - the easier it becomes. You move on and live your life, your anger and jealousy - if you let it - can propel you to a better life and then they will be transcended. You'll feel so lucky, maybe even glad that this happened. It's hard to describe, but the more you become filled with life and self-love, the more you receive spiritual insights. You're inspired to forgive and understand. You have more compassion for her, you see where it went wrong between you and you realize that maybe you're not the right person for her and she isn't for you. You wish her happiness because you understand that you'd want the same. No longer just an object or possession to satisfy yourself, she's a flesh and blood human being again. (On this forum, we tend to see exes like objects for us to control or obtain or make them love us back instead of seeing them as flesh and blood human beings with wills, desires, and feelings of their own - and that's just not attractive, and it's not the vibration of love either). Or maybe you'll start to have insights on what could go right...so you work on that and in time maybe you meet again and it works out right...or you meet someone else and it makes sense why everything else happened the way it did...because it led down the path to having this experience that is more true to what you really wanted. That's what happens when you live in self-love/ self-worth...the spiritual insights roll in and things just start to make sense at an intuitive level. Sometimes they won't make sense until later in the journey, maybe when you're a lot older.

Colonel Roosevelt wrote:

In the older days, I'd get into all the ego traps. FB stalking, start texting her trying to impress her and prove myself, or get depressed and brooding and sulky, doing the hot and cold thing to make myself more mysterious, but also to protect myself too. That's a road to nowhere. Sometimes I'd deal with my anger and jealousy by putting my attention on other girls...which would lead to more drama. Like the Gordion knot, it's too messy to untangle so you just cut it.

The more you become filled with self-love, self-worth, and belief in yourself (not belief that you'll be back together - belief in yourself) - the easier it becomes. You move on and live your life, your anger and jealousy - if you let it - can propel you to a better life and then they will be transcended. You'll feel so lucky, maybe even glad that this happened. It's hard to describe, but the more you become filled with life and self-love, the more you receive spiritual insights. You're inspired to forgive and understand. You have more compassion for her, you see where it went wrong between you and you realize that maybe you're not the right person for her and she isn't for you. You wish her happiness because you understand that you'd want the same. No longer just an object or possession to satisfy yourself, she's a flesh and blood human being again. (On this forum, we tend to see exes like objects for us to control or obtain or make them love us back instead of seeing them as flesh and blood human beings with wills, desires, and feelings of their own - and that's just not attractive, and it's not the vibration of love either). Or maybe you'll start to have insights on what could go right...so you work on that and in time maybe you meet again and it works out right...or you meet someone else and it makes sense why everything else happened the way it did...because it led down the path to having this experience that is more true to what you really wanted. That's what happens when you live in self-love/ self-worth...the spiritual insights roll in and things just start to make sense at an intuitive level. Sometimes they won't make sense until later in the journey, maybe when you're a lot older.

A year ago when I joined this forum I would have turned my nose up at this type of thing but now I've started to do things for myself and work on myself I've found myself not needing the guy I originally joined up with the intentions of manifesting. I have't heard from him for over a year now and I'm not remotely bothered anymore. I hope he's happy and all but I don't need him anymore. I never did.