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I want to find a way..but I need you guys
Hello..I posted 3 months ago about my situation.
I am not going to talk about that, but a little update: my ex is sitting in front of me in the class, so sometimes we talk and I also hear what she is saying. We had some conversations that looked like flirting, we laughed a bit..everything seemed good and I felt like she cares about me, so I decided to give her time to realize that I am serious about her and I am really a new person that is aware of mistakes..that was in late april/early may. Time went by and today, I am just crushed, because she turned a bit so I could see her face and with her friend sitting next to her, she started talking about a guy, from the conversation it looked like she likes him and she is in a state of wanting a relationship, that is obviously something that I do not understand when se wanted be so close to me...but anyways, I had to leave (I went on the toilette) and I started to cry, I was talking to God asking him why is this happening to me, because I do not feel like I have done something so bad that I have to suffer so much. I feel down sometimes and I just want things to end. I said enough. I think I need to detach, I do not want to have the feeling of jealousy, fear and anger. It is not that I hate her, I just feel like she is cheating on me and it is not fair. So please, Help me to get rid of those feelings, I love her with all my heart but I need to breathe..
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I feel you my guy was being so sweet and then now slept with someone else and is seeing them in a matter of 3 weeks it's hard I m trying to understand why what did I do . You know it could be that they were freaked out that we changed and that they wanted to be with us so they trying to grasp on to something else? The best thing to do right now is to tell yourself it is not you and that you have bettered yourself as a person so the mistakes you made in the past do not matter don't dwell. Focus on being positive right now I am reading manifesting love by Elizabeth Daniels it makes me feel better and has worked before but then I stop doing loa . Besides it working though it makes me feel better and focus on the bigger picture which includes myself and my feelings . Block out the other stuff when the dude or her pops in your mind push it off don't entertain it . Trust me I know it's hard mine just happened Saturday where it all went down and he hates me and told me he was seeing the girl. Hates me still as of yesterday but I know all of this can't be permanent . I can change it I'm not gonna be a walking mat for him he got some splaining to do but I know I still love him. Hope this helps
yes I read your story and I know how you feel, but the thing is sometimes I feel like maybe I should get closer to her and create a better connection, but sometimes I feel like I will hurt myself again when I already decided to stop contacting her, and that is what pisses me off the most, I do not know what to do ! ..and about your guy, when he changes his moods so much, he actually cares about you I think..not gonna lie, but chill out, take time for yourself and it will get better
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Thank you that is the intention some friends think he is a manipulative evil guy and think this abusive so it will be hard getting them back on board to the idea. I just can't understand why he said all that then decided no and then slept with another girl knowing it would kill me. Having a hard time with that
Back to you . If you feel negative emotions trying to talk to her it will do more harm then good try to talk to her when you feel good and try to let go on her response remind yourself "this is just part of the journey if she is not receptive it will be ok if she is great but I will keep going " .seriouslt if she is not receptive say oh well give time and you can again but being positive and like this helps you feel good and attract her more and more Only talk if you feel positive emotions no fear nothing and just remind yourself it's part of the journey you are a good guy you have worked on yourself and she will be lucky to have you she just needs to be ready. If that makes sense connection come when you feel positive yea you can take action but maintain that attitude remember loa needs to catch up sometimes to your new vibration so don't get discouraged if you are positive and she is not receptive keep at it connection will grow pressuring yourself is the worst you can do.
well..now, do not get me wrong, I am actually that confident type of guy, I am making others laugh and I am trying to be positive, I am not afraid to reach out and talk to her, but everytime I talked to her I was happy for a moment and then I felt down because I felt like there is no progress..the best feeling was when I was not doing anything and it improved by itself..
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Ok you just answered yourself in that last part . The best feeling was when I did nothing there was progress. You are pressuring yourself by feeling bad after you talk to her you basically are asking the universe for no progress after you just did an action. And as always the universe delivers . You need to keep the positive feeling up after you talk to her tell yourself " every talk I have to her is progress it is unseen but it is progress " because that is what it is progress currently happening but you reverse it with that thought of no progress it takes time
yes, you are right..I think I just really need to detach so I will not be overanalyzing everything 
I made a progress, that is true, but it is not over yet, it is just over for my desperation, I do not know where it leads me, I just do not want to have her 24/7 in my head..to not send a bad request to the universe, I want to be happy in my own mind ! :D
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Yes that's the attitude : )
For me I am working on the positive imagine him apologizing and meaning he loves me. I have moments like hard to think he really cares with all the flipping and especially going on a date seeing someone and sleeping with them on the first date knowing it would hurt me ...can't seem to explain that or get past it.
Sorry hijacked but yes you have the right attitude now you can do this : )
it is fine..but listen up, try to detach as me, I did it today while crying on the WC..love yourself enough to not be willing to suffer from his actions, be happy just with yourself and clearly state your desire..that is the best and the most peaceful way IMO
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Yea ..,I still want him back I just feel I am trying to justify his actions I can be positive except when that comes to mind it's hard because how could he do that if he loves me.
it is hard..maybe he just needed some satisfaction, you know..but anyways, feel good with yourself..
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I was thinking a bit, and..when she was talking about that another guy, what if this is a sign, from the Universe, that I should move our relationship to another point ? what if that was a request to do something finally ? because sometimes we both play hard to get, people please, I want to know your opinions on this, what if this is a challenge to finally go after what I want ? what if is Universe trying to tell me that I should hurry ?
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But, what if it was all arranged, so that I finally get the point and do something about it ? that is what I mean..
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What if whatever this person does are just steps to get back together with you in the most miraculous way you can imagine?
Can you think of it this way? I bet that thought will bring you happiness, while the other doesn't.
And you may think, "Oh, but that is not true". And you would be right.
The only thing that's true is whatever you believe. So choose carefully what you're constantly thinking
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What if whatever this person does are just steps to get back together with you in the most miraculous way you can imagine?
Can you think of it this way? I bet that thought will bring you happiness, while the other doesn't.
And you may think, "Oh, but that is not true". And you would be right.
The only thing that's true is whatever you believe. So choose carefully what you're constantly thinking
guess you are right..but I still want to focus on myself for a while now I will try to improve myself and she will notice that :D thanks guys..it is tough to not mind her in the class but with a little support from you I am going to make it, thank you again..if there are any other people, please, join us
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