Lolo wrote:

I encourage everyone feeling doubts to go read some success relationship stories in The Secret website. Even though many (including me) consider the secret as the most basic book about these universal principles. there're just too many success stories with the same patterns. They ask they believe, they feel happy and grateful, they let go, and they receive in the most miraculous way.

How do you know is not working? Do you know all of the thinks that are taking place behind curtains? Do you know how your person feels at this moment? Just relax, YesIwill, It's coming, and when you get your desire you'll realize how naive you were to have so many doubts. 

Much love

I think, perhaps it is very difficult if not impossible to feel happy and grateful about a difficult situation such as this one, ie not being with the person you want. But it IS possible to be happy/grateful/thankful/appreciative about other things in life, ie job, friends, animals, whatever else is working and going well. 

I agree though that nobody knows what is going on behind closed doors, at all. Things can change in an instant, in all directions. 
 

mugginess wrote:

Avaelle wrote:

I've been looking for Law of Attraction Meetups and will be checking one facility out this weekend. I think this is something you should look into.

A reason you've been here so long and are going in circles is because this material isn't working for YOU. It all sounds good and even makes you feel good briefly but how much progress are you making? Not just for you, but others. Multiple people have admitted that the things they post isn't producing results for even themselves.

How are you going to convince yourself that you can shift realities when you can't convince yourself that her family doesn't hate you?

I've come to care for you because I can feel what you're going through. It is time for you to stop feeling this pain. You deserve so much more than to get your hopes up and being deceived.

I want you smiling and feeling good. Please look into those meetup. It will be great for you to meet real people that can advise and support you, be your friend and encourage you.

I'm always here to chat with.

 

I want to add that a lot of ex back material can be a drug for heartbroken people. I remember I used to read any article I could find on ex back BEFORE we even broke up. Funny thing was that I googled "how to prevent breakup" and was lead into so much ex back material. I even subscribed to free newsletters "just in case" we broke up. I totally manifested a breakup with that mindset. But these free articles and videos get addictive, but then you need a stronger drug so you start buying ebooks only to learn it's the same material as the articles, but you still want more so if you have the money you find a psychic or ex back coach who'll give you a "custom" solution which is the same as their book. Now, I know there are ex back coaches, including Beronica, who genuinely care about their clients, but there are a few black sheep who tarnish the industry.

I went on a tangent but I just want to ask YesIWill to stop using this as a drug. I think LOA gives a lot of false hope to people who are broken hearted and are looking for a quick fix. I'm not saying you can't get them back with LOA, you can but only when you COMPLETELY let go.

By letting go, you have to almost act as if they don't exist currently. You acknowledge the role they played in your past, you express a desire to have them in your future, but you allow yourself to live for TODAY. Cause you get only one TODAY. And you only have a finite number of days to live, each day is one day closer to the last. The moment you start living for yourself you attract wonders. You start smiling for no reason. Little things just make you happy, and that happiness becomes your drug. Trust me, I know. Just this morning, I was supposed to go to a conference in the city only to find out it was tomorrow. I used the free time I had to take a walk along the beach. I had planned to do this more this summer but didn't think I'd do it this morning. But you don't know how happy and peaceful I felt. That's the feeling you should be addicted to, not some delusional hope that if you do the right technique she'll come back.

Start focussing on your medical help too. These pros know what they're doing.

I like you    totally manifested my breakup    looking back   I mentally broke up with him   read lots of negative relationship things  ie novels etc      spoke of loss and breakup   to my friend     negated my relationship      

Yes at first   you are looking for a quick fix   but then you begin to employ the mindset   and new thoughts and behaviors  and  it becomes very clear that    thoughts  and words do become things      

Focus on the beauty around you    this morning I was driving to work  all on a desolate back road   I saw a magnificent sunrise     and a beautiful deer     
a LOA friend   told me    to look at the world   as if you are a child again   but now you are a child in control of your environment    be joyful for the tinest of things that make you stop and smile    that make you feel good or even content     steer from people who  make you feel anxious  nervous   unhappy      Forgive those who have hurt us   and what makes us seethe with anger     releasing that anger   whether its the other woman   or the parent who abused you     will liberate you from the prison  that holds us      To make the relationship work  when it presents itself again   we must relearn how to think  and speak  so as not    lose again   
 

YesIWILL wrote:

Blue wrote:

20 pages in.....really?

Yes. There's only one reason you'd post saying that^. Just awknowledge and move on. No need for such a comment

Hope you're doing ok.

Listen, if her mother comes in again it might be wise not to say that you miss her daughter, but give the impression of being really together and sorted and happy with life. You can say you hope she's ok, but perhaps nothing that makes you look needy, however slightly. Keep up the good work!

Someone please just kill me. I can't try having this hope anymore when things just get ******* worse

You are still giving too much meaning to whatever you see with your eyes.

Give a rest to LOA and go to a therapist man. Take care of yourself. See a therapist and do exercise. Martial arts and jogging are great ways to release stress. 

I also think you're suffering from chronic depression, and that is something you have to take care about. So take some time from LOA, take some time from this forum, and focus on your mental and emotional health. 

No words we can say to you can help you. You'll see the truth on your own, okay? You have an inner voice that will help you when you let it.

Take care