1 of 1- kdra26
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New here. Need all the good vibes my way.
I'm not super new with the whole LOA but I started implementing it into my life around February. My back story is a little long so I apologize.
My guy and I were together for almost 6 years. He broke up with me back in November of last year. We hung out still after cause he said he wasn't sure if he made the right decision. We spent the holidays together and all that jazz. And we were still intimate. Fast forward to February, he finally officially ends it saying he wasn't in love with me anymore. My gut still told me it wasn't it for us so I tried to let it go. We went no contact for two weeks before he started reaching out to me and messaging me every day (those two weeks I started doing LOA and practicing visualization and lanie stevens' methods) until we started hanging out again.
Since the end of february we've seen each other multiple times a week, we hang out every weekend pretty much, again, we are intimate again, things seemed to be going super well. We were acting like a couple again (without the hand holding/kissing/etc.) and his mom and sister were like are you SURE you guys are done? You seem pretty together to me. I have spent the night a few nights at his house, too.
Back in April, I asked him if he ever thought of us trying this again and he said that his feelings haven't really changed since the last we talked about it. I told him that's fine. i was still alright with the whole situation we have and what we're doing but I can't do it for much longer.
Fast forward to now. He recently moved out into his own place and has been calling me saying he's lonely and sad and it's weird being over there by himself so he asked me to spend the night at his place to just keep him company. (During this time I started doing the lanie stevens method again cause I stopped doing it for like two weeks. I think I manifested him asking me to spend the night because I kept doing the whisper technique to have him ask me to stay the night with him) I did and everything felt SO normal between us that it brought up a bunch of new yet old lingering feelings. Last night, i let him know how I felt and how I still really like him and care for him a lot and I ultimately want to try this again with him. I asked him if there was ever a chance of us getting back together and he said he was reluctant to answer the question because what he says now could change in the near future and he doesn't want his words to bite him in the ass. I told him okay, forget about the future. Right now. What do you feel right now? And he said that right now there's no chance and that I should just let it go because relationships happen naturally. And if we get back together then we do, and if we don't then we don't.
So I mean i guess that wasn't a terrible answer but I still have the gut feeling that we're still going to happen. Like i know it. I can feel it. I'm going to keep on with the LOA. I told him I'm still okay with spending time with him and doing what we're doing for now but I feel like I need to back off and maybe see new people. He told me he doesn't want to date anyone, he doesn't like anyone, he just wants to focus on himself and bettering himself professionally. So I mean, I still sort of have him since we are still so close and still intimate with each other and I guess I'm glad he's not doing this with anyone else? lol what do you guys think?
- PrettyFlamingo
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Re: New here. Need all the good vibes my way.
I certainly wouldn't be sleeping with him with no commitment. He's getting his cake and eating it, don't let him! It's not fair on you.
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- kdra26
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Re: New here. Need all the good vibes my way.
Yes, I'm aware. I mean, right now like i said I'm okay with the situation we're in. I'm fine with what we're doing. I am getting tot he point where I'm not going to be able to do it anymore without feeling a bunch of things. After our talk yesterday especially.
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Re: New here. Need all the good vibes my way.
kdra26 wrote:
Yes, I'm aware. I mean, right now like i said I'm okay with the situation we're in. I'm fine with what we're doing. I am getting tot he point where I'm not going to be able to do it anymore without feeling a bunch of things. After our talk yesterday especially.
Exactly, that's what I mean.
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- KaliShiva9
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Re: New here. Need all the good vibes my way.
Hi!!
we are on the same situation, maybe we can work this trough together.
I've learned a few things during this "being together but not commited thing". I know you have too. Loving without social standars, being there unconditionally...
As my love and I were together, I demanded him two dates per week minimum. Now that I call this back, I notice how crazy that was. Love should not be about demanding right?!. As we got back together, after a few days, he called himself my boyfriend, and as he heard himself he laughed and was playfully ashamed. Everything was working out! But as he did this, the resistance about being ina relationship changed again I got scared, why was he not asking me out? why is he not texting me? and so everything got tangled. I had no bad feeling towards this no commitment, but eventualy it got into me. I have some issues to resolve about the idea of being in a relationship. All of these are lessons, and we must be thankful for them becuase they show us what we need to resolve. Maybe this is what happened to you, so I recommend that you make some inner search to see why this situation is proyecting into your reality.
My advice to you is : You need to back up a little, you have already manifested so much by bringing him back to your life. So just give it time, update your ideas of the things you want and let them flow. Believe you are deserving of a relationship. Don't stop feeling good and keep the good work up! Please let me know how everything works out!!
- kdra26
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Re: New here. Need all the good vibes my way.
Hi!!
we are on the same situation, maybe we can work this trough together.
I've learned a few things during this "being together but not commited thing". I know you have too. Loving without social standars, being there unconditionally...
As my love and I were together, I demanded him two dates per week minimum. Now that I call this back, I notice how crazy that was. Love should not be about demanding right?!. As we got back together, after a few days, he called himself my boyfriend, and as he heard himself he laughed and was playfully ashamed. Everything was working out! But as he did this, the resistance about being ina relationship changed again I got scared, why was he not asking me out? why is he not texting me? and so everything got tangled. I had no bad feeling towards this no commitment, but eventualy it got into me. I have some issues to resolve about the idea of being in a relationship. All of these are lessons, and we must be thankful for them becuase they show us what we need to resolve. Maybe this is what happened to you, so I recommend that you make some inner search to see why this situation is proyecting into your reality.
My advice to you is : You need to back up a little, you have already manifested so much by bringing him back to your life. So just give it time, update your ideas of the things you want and let them flow. Believe you are deserving of a relationship. Don't stop feeling good and keep the good work up! Please let me know how everything works out!!
Yes, thank you! I need to start working on myself again and keeping my vibrations high. I also REALLY need to work on not checking his social media so frequently and check out the pictures he likes or the girls he follows. I just need to trust what he says that he's not interested in anyone else, not wanting to date anyone else, etc. I don't doubt that he may have some casual interests (he's naturally a flirty person) but I don't think it's anything serious.
I'm so glad I brought him back in my life and still have him in my life. I just need to work on the part where he's committed with me again. I've been talking to another guy for the last few weeks to keep my options open, I guess and he definitely has potential. I just keep comparing him to the ex and ugh. it's driving me crazy. I would be lying to myself and him if I went out with the guy and pretended i was totally into it (I mean also, who knows?)
It's crazy because when I met the ex, it wasn't necessarily love at first sight but it was just like this strong feeling in my gut like okay, this is the person you're supposed to be with. It hit me so hard. And he would always tell me (and I quote) "After our first date, it was like the universe was screaming to me that this is the one and to not mess this up because you can't lose her" And thiknign back i think it's kind of wild that we both had these like insane feelings about each other right after the first date. It was like we were drawn to each other and this was all meant to happen. Which is why I have faith that the universe will bring us back together. My relationship with him was scary in the sense that i had never had feelings like this about anyone and I had never been more sure of anything in my life. He would tell me the same.
I'm going to keep doing LOA, Lanie Stevens, Visualizations and scripting. I know this is going to happen. I can feel it. And sometimes i wish I didn't still have this gut feeling because it would help me let go and move on a lot easier but it's just there. I don't know.
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