No you can't get her back. You can start a new relationship together.

I'd love this terminology to be dropped. It's like we are talking about our lost property!!!

YesIWILL wrote:

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

No you can't get her back. You can start a new relationship together.

I'd love this terminology to be dropped. It's like we are talking about our lost property!!!

There's absolutely nothing wrong with saying that. Even Veronica says that. As does Rose for a Soul and many other LoA "ex back" people. You know we're not talking about property.

I didn't say there was anything wrong with it, I personally don't like it, though. It implies being proprietorial.  No idea who Rose for a Soul is though, that's something to look at!

My thinking is that "get her back" "get him back" means the same as before, when what you want is a transformed, new relationship. It's only semantics in the end. 

I agree with PF and Stacey.   The wording does semi matter

To be fair, of course Veronica and other loa people will say "get ex back".  Because they know that's a good marketing tool to use, "start a new relationship". Doesn't have the same marketing genius behind it as "get your ex back" does

This doesn't mean Veronica and other loa experts don't care, but this is their job, they're gonna use the wording that attracts the most customers to them


I think Sanshi said this before, but what sounds better? "Find yourself first and attract a new relationship with your ex".  Or "get your ex back"


In order to get what we want, we have to first get ourselves back and start believing


We also need to realize, that even though Veronica and them are amazing,care,etc.  this is also their job. So they'll use wording that markets it best, to attract money into their pockets

RR33, you've mentioned on reddit that you're a fan of Neville Goddard...but if you look into his stuff more closely, you'll see that the whole "get my ex back" attitude isn't doing you any good.

We don't attract what we want, we attract what we are. That's why we have to see in ourselves that we are already that which we want to be.

That's what Neville talked about - and if you keep the mindset that you are already who you want to be and feel that - then you'll see that the whole "get my ex back" attitude was a prison...because there is nothing to get back...there is only the state of mind to realize in yourself.

When you see that you are already who you want to be - then your state of mind will shift as if you already have all the love you need.


 

Colonel Roosevelt wrote:

RR33, you've mentioned on reddit that you're a fan of Neville Goddard...but if you look into his stuff more closely, you'll see that the whole "get my ex back" attitude isn't doing you any good.

We don't attract what we want, we attract what we are. That's why we have to see in ourselves that we are already that which we want to be.

That's what Neville talked about - and if you keep the mindset that you are already who you want to be and feel that - then you'll see that the whole "get my ex back" attitude was a prison...because there is nothing to get back...there is only the state of mind to realize in yourself.

When you see that you are already who you want to be - then your state of mind will shift as if you already have all the love you need.


 

CR summed it up so perfectly. Can I ask you right now please list honestly how do you feel right now and how do you see yourself? Please be very honest. Now make a list of all the qualities you want to see of yourself. Where are the gaps? How do you close them? Notice in the exercise I don't mention the girl. It's not about her, it's all about you.

I was like you. I was willing to give everything in the Universe for my ex. To the point where I forgot about me. But the thing is that my ex fell in love with ME, and not the person I had become. You need to get yourself back and once you do, you may not even necessarily want her back. Trust me, I thought I'd never get to that stage but now I'm at a point where I don't even care if he came back or not. And guess what? We actually are able to talk as friends! Trust me, I thought we'd never get there, but the moment you just stop caring, which means stop watching YouTube videos or going on forums, you will feel better.

Get your ex back is a vicious cycle. Think of it, when your subconscious mind is in that mentality all it does is attract more scenarios of wanting your ex back. However, if you affirm how awesome you are, etc, you start becoming that awesome person.