Talking to my friend about this forum yesterday. Neither of us are trying to get exes back but are looking to attract other things.

She's lurked on here and has this to say.

Law of attraction should be about reaching your best self which is always a process as nobody will ever be perfect. But the more you change and learn about yourself the more right things will stick themselves to you and then you can get the right relationship whether with the ex or someone different because with enlightenment you might not want the ex anymore.

The more you are honest with yourself about where you are - vibrationally I guess - the more you will grow. Then you make other beneficial changes like taking better care of yourself because you you're worth it and then things can only get better.

This all before you even dream of phoning an ex, messaging them, grovelling or doing tricks and techniques.

She reckons things like doubt are normal because of lack of understanding but with looking after yourself this might dissipate as you change and upgrade yourself and your attitude.

And being honest about yourself, your ex and the relationship. For example was it one sided? Were they really as good as you remember or are you looking through rose tinted glasses at the relationship? I've been guilty of that myself.

People doing things out of desperation like badgering their exes out of panic and not having the strength or self belief to back off. Just those actions show someone is in the wrong headspace.

I wondered what posters thought about her observations. I might get her to join the forum. Observations are hers not mine but I'd be interested in comments.