We love each other still. It's in a thousand little physical signs.

I underappreciated her in the relationship and was always thinking about a different ex. We never defined our relationship status.

There was an incident where my emotional support was not there for her in a big way. Now there is another guy involved.

I read her my apology early in the week. I have been talking to her and writing her all week long. This is still very fresh.

She is having trouble accepting my change of frame. She even got angry when I wrote that I was happy that I am now on the total opposite end of the spectrum from where I was before, according to what she wrote. She clarified that it wasn't meant to encourage me, but rather to let me know that my change of frame is overwhelming for her at this time. Said she now feels smothered.

I wanted to apologize and let her know how I feel about her (since I never did during our time together), that I recognize her, and that this pattern in relationships has been an unfortunate part of my history. And do it before any possible emotional windows close.

I don't think 'no contact' will work well, but I'm sure that she needs some degree of emotional space away from the lovey-dovey, at least for a bit.

I'm not sure how much to back off and how to behave. If I back off completely, I've abandoned my principles and allowed her crashing waves to unseat me. If I push too hard, I'll risk angering her further.

Last edited by JW (5/12/2017 8:01 pm)