Okay introduction to my situation, I met my childs father in middle school went through a bad breakup before hand wanted my other ex back but he rejected me big time. But, Billy my childs father came into the picture after 10 yrs of no seeing him and I had a huge crush on him in middle school and apparently he felt the same way but was the popular guy but didnt wanna be made fun or have to fight anymore people because of me.  When we officially got together, he did a navajo hair binding spell on us and we were fine til he got out of jail went back on drugs he changed big time.  He had a criminal background and was still married but he was a hard person to get ahold of plus doesnt have the funds to get his divorce.  His ex left him aborted their child and had 3 others with another guy.  She wants a divorce too but I think is stupid and in the state of florida wont give her childs father support and will go after Billy even though he didnt father the 3 kids cause he had seen her for 1 yr and a half.  But anyways, long story short I got pregnant and had my daughter in sept. of 2014 and I had abuse during pregnancy he didnt get off drugs til after she was born plus went to jail on that case I put on him.  And he went back again cause he didnt take counseling like he was supposed to.  And been a up and down battle and finally in feb. a friend of mine did a reading on me and said that both of our lucks together with binding spell is making things bad I listened to her and should of listened to myself and she broke the spell but, that lead to more problems to where we broke up and hes not taken be back and said he was trying to get me back for 3 yrs and he's tried of the bs. Well he needs to learn to be a positive person because his family has put him as negative doesn't treat people right and wonders why no one that he really wants around, wants to be around him.  But, you can tell he wants to be with me and his daughter, I get he wants to spend more time with her but, I get upset because I want to be wanted as well because first off you need to make your relationship work first and then your kid comes 2nd.  My In laws who adopted me said they put their marriage first over their kids.  And, thats what your really supposed to do.  I need to know what I need to do and what needs to be sent out at him to get him to make things work.  I am willing to recast a new binding spell and make things work this time around.  I've been pushing him away because of how he's treated me.  But, I need to focus on having us as a family.  And I need step by step help on how to make things get back to normal and better.   I do live with my mom and its hard because she's realistic and negative and it brings me down for being the best verison of myself. And, another thing that has made it hard is he has a background record and it makes it hard for him to get a job.  Plus lack of id

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DMR wrote:

anzamyu wrote:

Okay introduction to my situation, I met my childs father in middle school went through a bad breakup before hand wanted my other ex back but he rejected me big time. But, Billy my childs father came into the picture after 10 yrs of no seeing him and I had a huge crush on him in middle school and apparently he felt the same way but was the popular guy but didnt wanna be made fun or have to fight anymore people because of me.  When we officially got together, he did a navajo hair binding spell on us and we were fine til he got out of jail went back on drugs he changed big time.  He had a criminal background and was still married but he was a hard person to get ahold of plus doesnt have the funds to get his divorce.  His ex left him aborted their child and had 3 others with another guy.  She wants a divorce too but I think is stupid and in the state of florida wont give her childs father support and will go after Billy even though he didnt father the 3 kids cause he had seen her for 1 yr and a half.  But anyways, long story short I got pregnant and had my daughter in sept. of 2014 and I had abuse during pregnancy he didnt get off drugs til after she was born plus went to jail on that case I put on him.  And he went back again cause he didnt take counseling like he was supposed to.  And been a up and down battle and finally in feb. a friend of mine did a reading on me and said that both of our lucks together with binding spell is making things bad I listened to her and should of listened to myself and she broke the spell but, that lead to more problems to where we broke up and hes not taken be back and said he was trying to get me back for 3 yrs and he's tried of the bs. Well he needs to learn to be a positive person because his family has put him as negative doesn't treat people right and wonders why no one that he really wants around, wants to be around him.  But, you can tell he wants to be with me and his daughter, I get he wants to spend more time with her but, I get upset because I want to be wanted as well because first off you need to make your relationship work first and then your kid comes 2nd.  My In laws who adopted me said they put their marriage first over their kids.  And, thats what your really supposed to do.  I need to know what I need to do and what needs to be sent out at him to get him to make things work.  I am willing to recast a new binding spell and make things work this time around.  I've been pushing him away because of how he's treated me.  But, I need to focus on having us as a family.  And I need step by step help on how to make things get back to normal and better.   I do live with my mom and its hard because she's realistic and negative and it brings me down for being the best verison of myself. And, another thing that has made it hard is he has a background record and it makes it hard for him to get a job.  Plus lack of id

You guys have been through a lot. You have to start fresh from now. The past doesnt matter, feel the present and manifest your future. You said you need step by step guidance. Thats exactly how you should manifest. First of all, you are sounding like this is something which you 'have to do'. This is wrong. As far as I know, manifesting should feel natural and not a chore. So ask yourself, what will make you feel the happiest? It could be any small thing, Focus on that and keep visualising that. Dont get too frustated and give it time.Also, you have a child and you said he too wants to be with you. So why are you doubting it? Affirm yourself that it is possible and you just have to choose your outcome. Start with whatever tips I suggested in the answer above and start with something small.Visualize the situation where he is happy with you as well as your child because you mentioned you pushed him away but then you said you want him to work on the relationship. My situation is also the same. Lot of them say think of your end result. Well, I myself am not sure if I want my ex back but I do want to be friends atleast. So I am thinking from that end result for now. You can also imagine him being nice to you and treating you well. Start with what feels the most natural and relax. Dont think or discuss too much about because you tend to get influenced easily be negative vibrations which will keep manifesting your reality. I dont really know or believe in spells so I really have no advice for that..hope this helps
 

Okay I finally get a chance to get back to you.  And, I've had nay sayers say you can't get your ex back and I think well what is LOA supposed to be for?  And does the universe know what pizza you want today?  No not really.  And, I really want us back together and him doing what his parents said needs to be done.  Controlling his anger by seeking out counseling.  And, sticking with it.  Treating everyone in the family better instead of yelling at them and causing his own problems to get worse.  All of his family and now me are cutting him off.  We are done with drama but.I really wish and hope things get better and we can be one again and in harmony.  And, for things to go better for him as well.  He knows I've always wanted better for him and to be on the right path but, I feel like I failed.  And, I need to know if writing things down will help or doing something else.  Cause from time to time my mind get scattered and I need to find other ways to organize my thoughts down and in a positive way.  I got a couple friends telling me move on you deserve better.  But, Freya our daughter needs both mother and father. And, for things to get better and for her to grow up in a happier home like we planned.  And, I am always the type that thinks I can control things but, told I cant.  But, anyways Thank you so much.  If you got any particular sub messages you wanna send me to try out please do.  Thank you so much again

Staceylouuu91x wrote:

I've not been in this situation so I won't pretend I know how you're feeling but I can't imagine it's any fun so I'm really sorry things are this way for you. The great thing is it can all be changed but from the looks of things you're obviously not feeling too good, obvious statement is obvious but stay with me on this. As it stands now you're not in the place vibrationally to change anything, which is okay you're human and this is a tough time and you're not expected to have it all together.

Take some time to focus on yourself and your child. Do something to make you smile, maybe go on a nice walk if the weather permits it, eat some cake, whatever will cheer you up is the point here. Once you're good in yourself, you'll absolutely be able to focus on the situation and change it for the better. 
Focus on his good qualities, I'm sure there's some there despite all the drama. Be thankful those exist. There's also Lanie Steven's Pussy Whip book which I'd recommend reading but only once you're in a good place vibrationally. That method words, 

I know all about living with a toxic parent,  in my case it's my dad. I just take what he says with a pinch of salt these days. If he's in a bad mood I just go into another room and do whatever I have to do. 

I hope this is somewhat helpful to you. 

I only can get books like this when i start working again.  But I know he still loves me and has gone through a lot and doesn't feel the love back.  But, he has treated me unfairly the whole time and not been very honest.  And, I know he says to me today our daughter is his family and im not.  That does kinda sting in a way.  But, anyways if you got anymore free techinques I can do please let me know

Staceylouuu91x wrote:

Here's a good one. :D 
 

Thank you so much I will do this one 2 to 3 times a day.  Can you help me with what would be a good thing to say to him to get him to win over.  Plus he's a virgo and stubborn