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I honestly don't know what to do...
So me and my ex have been on and off for 3 years now. We met up in february for the first time in about 10 months. Then after a week he messaged me saying we can't do this again and that he doesn't want to get involved. One of my passions is travelling, last month I went travelling around Europe. We were still friends on Facebook. He liked my profile picture and then a couple of days later deleted me as a friend. When I got back, I sent him a message saying I'd like to meet up with him, he agreed and to my surprise asked to see me that night. I am a very positive person, I follow law of attraction daily. I have had many successes with it, winning money, jobs etc. I have been doing the love spell, pussy whip too. After meeting up and he dropped me back home, he initiated the kiss goodbye and told me to message him. We spoke over text a few times but it was always me who initiated it. I saw him again last week, we were both quite drunk and he said that he goes a while without thinking about me but then thinks about me again and wants to see me but when he does i put him down. He also said I am too full on and need to chill out. I don't put him down in a horrible way, its more witty banter but i think he is quite overly sensitive. After that night he didn't message me first again.. I sent him a message basically saying whats going on to no reply and then the next night I was getting quite angry so I said, are you really that much of a coward you can't just say. Then he replied saying " The answer is do one". I can't believe it, I feel heartbroken. Surley somebody who loves you/ has feelings for you wouldn't say that? What do i do? Someone please help.
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Re: I honestly don't know what to do...
Stop putting him down and calling him names. Even if you feel it's mind, you've said that he is quite sensitive. So, he can't do it.
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I agree sweetie I had a girlfriend who thought she was funny with scarcastic humor she completely pushed me away because what she thought was funny I completely felt was mean She has lost 3 husbands also because of this I made that mistake with my ex as well My family will say outrageous things and they are all inside jokes that we think are funny as all get out but he was very hurt and internalized that hurt until it became anger So my lesson learned is what we think is witty and bright might be horrible and ugly to someone else Also sweetie don't be frantic when you see him hold back that aggressive full on " I need to make this work NOW " is scaring him away You can do it just like taming a puppy let him come to you and be gentle
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Thankyou both of you. Its his birthday today too which is upsetting me more. I just cant believe he said do one.
It hurts so much, ive sent him nasty messages because im hurt and hes blocked me now. I just dont know what to do
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I know it must really hurt but if I may, it sounds like you sent some pretty unkind messages to him as well even though you love him. So try not to get so hung up on the fact that he said to do one. You said you can't believe he said that, but maybe he's thinking something similar after your nasty messages, "I can't believe she said those things." You've both said unkind things. He's entitled to be hurt just as you are. And it's okay, you're both human.
So try to start now from a place of love (easier said than done, I knoe) and try to forgive him. Just as you would want him to forgive you. I know he blocked you but that's okay,thats temporary. Just try to shift your feelings so your vibration starts to shift. Does that make sense!?
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positivefairy16 wrote:
Thankyou both of you. Its his birthday today too which is upsetting me more. I just cant believe he said do one.
It hurts so much, ive sent him nasty messages because im hurt and hes blocked me now. I just dont know what to do
There are two things you have to do. First one is relax, second is feel slightly better every day, bit by bit. That's it. If you can just do that and nothing else, you are on the right track.
"Self-abandonment. That is the secret. We have to abandon ourselves to the state, in our love for the state, and in so doing live the life of the state and no more our present state. And to make the state alive, one must become it."
Neville Goddard ~ The Law and the Promise
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Thankyou so much jellyb and Sanshi.
Yes youre totally right. I think after we met up i try and get back together straight away and if it doesnt happen i start to panic.
So now i should stay not contact and keep doing pussy whip and love spell? Do you think he will forgive me?
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Thankyou so much jellyb and Sanshi.
Yes youre totally right. I think after we met up i try and get back together straight away and if it doesnt happen i start to panic.
So now i should stay not contact and keep doing pussy whip and love spell? Do you think he will forgive me?
I understand what you did grief comes in stages and the anger stage screws us up more than any other. I believe in time he will forgive you In the meantime yes do whatever exercises make YOU feel better and powerful also go into a deep meditative state and when you are there send him a very loving happy birthday message when you start to feel angry STOP and forgive the person or yourself for those things that have made you angry Avoid at all costs speculating on what he might be doing only think of the two of you together with no harsh words ever When you do your spells or exercises do them only from a happy joyful place no anxiety no worries I know its enormously difficult right now but I know you can do it sweetie
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Thankyou so much jellyb and Sanshi.
Yes youre totally right. I think after we met up i try and get back together straight away and if it doesnt happen i start to panic.
So now i should stay not contact and keep doing pussy whip and love spell? Do you think he will forgive me?
If you do PW you can visualize both of you apologizing and deciding to start over from a better place. That's what I think I'd do if it were me. You can do the Love Spell too, but I'd start with PW, personally.
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Thanks jellyb and barbidoll
I just feel that every time i manifest contact it goes back to this.
I want him to chase me and i feel that ive done all the chasing
Ive just messed up so badly.
We have been through so much and had massive arguments and hes always forgiven me. I just hate that were going into no contact mode again !! 
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