Are things still swimming along with your woman, I hope?  I'm trying to let go of my man---like you said, dwelling causes too much pain.  And I'm done with choosing someone who repeatedly is not choosing me.

Thank you, Seal, and I'm glad things are looking up for you.  You are right!  Easier said than done.

There's such a fine line between giving up and letting go, that it sometimes causes a rift in my brain.  Even in the past 24 hours, I've vacillated between "that's it!  I'm done!  I don't want what (who) doesn't want me!"---AND---"well, if I could find a way to just back off, focus more on other things (even other men), but still send love and have good thoughts about him/us, maybe I should do that."  I had a setback a few weeks ago that put a cog in my faith, so now I'm just confused.   Some say to persist, no matter what; some say set the intention, then let go, put no more energy into it.  Harumph.