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Feeling kind of heartbroken...help!
I posted this on Lanie's forum too, sorry for the duplicating. But I'm feeling lower than I've felt in a long time, and although the reason may seem silly, it feels so awful to me.
My guy has a birthday next Sunday. But he's disappeared since his last email in early January and I have no idea why. I know he's alive and okay because I recently checked his FB (I know I shouldn't but I was actually concerned that something bad happened to him). We communicate mainly through email and he didn't reply to my last email to him in mid January, so basically I haven't heard from him since New Year's.
This may sound silly, but a friend of mine reads tarot cards and I asked her to do a read for me about this. She's very good and her reads tend to be shockingly accurate. And the cards said that he stopped emailing because he thinks about me TOO much. He's married (please don't judge--he and his wife are just co-parents, they're sort of indifferent to each other as partners otherwise) with a young daughter, and I'm married as well (platonically, basically). The cards said he's decided to stop talking to me because he thinks about me too much and feels he should do the right thing and stay with his wife for his kid's sake, that maybe it's unrealistic for him to want to be with me. I get that, I really do, because I might feel that way too if I were him, and I guess I have to respect that this is how he feels at the moment. So I've decided not to send him birthday greetings, I'll just stay away. In the meantime I'm committed to living my life for me, which I've been doing anyway and it really has helped to focus on myself.
I know what the cards say are not set in stone, and I guess it means the PW etc has been working because he's still been thinking of me, but I feel kind of devastated and heartbroken by this. It makes me feel like throwing in the towel about having any further hope, but I really don't want to give up. I still want to cling to hope that there's still a way.
Help?
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Re: Feeling kind of heartbroken...help!
I did read this on the other forum and I was tempted to reply. This is one of those areas where there's no good advise. It's a sticky situation. I give you props for being able to deal with it. When my ex-husband and I separated, we still lived together to coparent. I do understand the situation first hand.
Tarot cards are funny. I had a reading two months ago. My situation seemed hopeless according to the reading. I've been doing a few techniques and went back to have an updated tarot reading. The situation changed. I knew it did on my end because of what's happened in my life, but I wanted more confirmation on his end. My reader, without knowing anything about what happened in my home over the past few days, was able to see mine and my target's situation and how the obstacles disappeared. My point is that readings change and you can change your path. Don't take it too much to heart. I like readings to know that I'm on the right path and if there's anything upcoming to watch out or brace myself for. Use them as a tool, but I don't take them to heart because they can change.
As far as your situation, I would say don't lose heart. At a certain point, my ex-husband and I decided to go our separate ways. We still vacation and spend holidays as a family. We have family movie nights and dinners together. The only real difference is we don't have this awkwardness when it comes to dating. I don't know how you could manifest a similar reality into your circumstance, but I can say don't lose heart, especially if your biggest upset is the reading. If you're more upset because he's pulling back, remember it is working. Now it's a matter of figuring out how to help him live in happiness with a bad situation.
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Re: Feeling kind of heartbroken...help!
Thank you so much for this, 80saeaak--I was very nervous and hesitant to post about this in either forum because I know a lot of people are very uncomfortable about married people in this sort of situation. I completely understand it of course but everyone's experience is different.
Yeah, i really did freak out over the reading. I should have reminded myself that tarot readings are only based on the current situation and can tell you possible future outcomes, they don't tell you what's definitely going to happen. So thanks for reminding me of it. 
I would love to have that sort of situation for my guy that you have, where there's co-parenting and as little awkwardness as possible for everyone, however that can work best. I have no animosity towards his wife, and the most important thing is that his daughter is happy and well loved by everyone. He may not think he can have that situation and I guess that's what the reading picked up. I do remember getting sort of a weird intuition sort of thing when I was doing PW on him, where I had the distinct impression that he feels like he made his bed, now he has to lie in it. But I guess I'll keep doing the PW etc, on him, and maybe try to have him become aware that he doesn't have to remain unhappy in his marriage and that things *can* work out.
Thank you again, so much.
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