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I've just finished my first round at the 25 day challenge. I manifested contact from my girl, and things have been moving very slowly. There have been ups and downs, and I have been trying to be upbeat about everything. Everything was good up until last night. I was talking to her, and she told me that we know she's just starting a new relationship, and she only wanted to be friends with me. I never thought that word could sting so much. I told her I couldn't be her friend and that I wanted something more. Not sure if it was the right thing to do, but I do not want to be friendzoned. I had a tough time going to sleep, and have lost my appetite today. I am starting round two of the 25 day challenge. I am not discouraged, but feeling down today. It's like I take one step forward and two steps back.
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I really think that you can turn your situation around. I hope that the challenge introduced you to a new side of life that you may not have noticed for. It's been months since I've finished the book and I still try new restaurants, new deserts, new hobbies etc.
It seems like you're looking at things in a rather negative way but you don't have to at all.Β I think if you switch things up a bit you'll feel better and be more hopeful. So, yippie(!!!!!) for manifesting contact from your girl!!Β I'm sure it feels amazing to be speaking with her again.Β Ok, things are moving slowly but that gives you more time to enjoy every single moment and appreciate them more ;-)Β Β I don't know what lead you all into speaking about relationships already but I don't think it was necessary. :-O We don't need labels yet, things are falling into place.
There is nothing wrong with being friends. Friends start to date, a series of dates turn into commitment, commitments turn into marriage. I know you may want to go from zero to dating but it's nothing wrong with going from phase to phase.Β Regardless of what she said, things can change. Don't feel defeated, move forward confident and be the best friend that you can be for now.
If it makes you feel good to re-do the challege - go for it but I don't think it's necessary if you captured what the book represents.Β I hope I've helped.
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Yes, I am being negative. This after telling people to keep positive. Thank you for the motivation.Β
Avaelle wrote:
I really think that you can turn your situation around. I hope that the challenge introduced you to a new side of life that you may not have noticed for. It's been months since I've finished the book and I still try new restaurants, new deserts, new hobbies etc.
It seems like you're looking at things in a rather negative way but you don't have to at all.Β I think if you switch things up a bit you'll feel better and be more hopeful. So, yippie(!!!!!) for manifesting contact from your girl!!Β I'm sure it feels amazing to be speaking with her again.Β Ok, things are moving slowly but that gives you more time to enjoy every single moment and appreciate them more ;-)Β Β I don't know what lead you all into speaking about relationships already but I don't think it was necessary. :-O We don't need labels yet, things are falling into place.
There is nothing wrong with being friends. Friends start to date, a series of dates turn into commitment, commitments turn into marriage. I know you may want to go from zero to dating but it's nothing wrong with going from phase to phase.Β Regardless of what she said, things can change. Don't feel defeated, move forward confident and be the best friend that you can be for now.
If it makes you feel good to re-do the challege - go for it but I don't think it's necessary if you captured what the book represents.Β I hope I've helped.
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So last contact was Sunday night/monday morning via instagram. I don't know if I screwed up by telling her I wanted something more than friendship. She hasn't responded since. I'm not anxious for a reply. Just a bit curious as to what could possibly be running through her head.
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I personally get uncomfortable and annoyed whenever I only want a friendship but the guy keeps bringing up a relationship or pursuing it.Β My guess is that she is tired of talking about it.Β However, you can bounce back from this by being a friend only and leaving the relationship talk to the side.
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I personally get uncomfortable and annoyed whenever I only want a friendship but the guy keeps bringing up a relationship or pursuing it.Β My guess is that she is tired of talking about it.Β However, you can bounce back from this by being a friend only and leaving the relationship talk to the side.
I took it there, because she brought up our past relationship and asked if I had ever planned on proposing to her and buying an engagement ring. She said she thought it was going to happen sometime when we last saw each other. I told her that it was definitely in my plans, but I didn't know her ring size and that I was working on the details before breaking up. After her saying we could be friends only, I told her that I wanted more than friendship. I'm currently confused as to what to say, or should I just let it be and continue visualizing. I just purchased the PW book by Lanie Stevens and did my first PW visualization last night. The awesome thing is that I felt my third eye pulsing.
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Ok..It almost sounds like she doesn't know what she wants. PW is great. I highly recommend it.Β It's a great way to send her love.
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Ok..It almost sounds like she doesn't know what she wants. PW is great. I highly recommend it.Β It's a great way to send her love.
Wow. Ive been told this by someone I confide in. That's why I'm confused. I've only had my third eye pulse with PW and backward counting using Silva method.
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Yes,Β I didn't know that bit about the engagement ring question. It's like she's flipping back and forth. She may be bitter that you didn't ask her when you were together. But, PW is a good way to connect with her. Keep me posted on how it goes.
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Yes,Β I didn't know that bit about the engagement ring question. It's like she's flipping back and forth. She may be bitter that you didn't ask her when you were together. But, PW is a good way to connect with her. Keep me posted on how it goes.
Thanks Avaelle! WIll do.
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