Ok. Let's look at it this way. You really have nothing to lose. You're starting from scratch. So why don't you do your very best to erase EVERYTHING. Pretend like this is a new guy. You know nothing about him, and you are going to use your wonderful vibration of joy and happiness to attract him into your life!! Can you just play the game for a week? 2 weeks? Maybe 3? You've already wasted several going around in miserable circles.  Can you just try this perhaps?

Hisoneandonly wrote:

I should just giveup on him right... he just posted a picture on snapchat with a girl...he's moving on... what should i do...he really just dont love me anymore..i feel so hurt right now, it's an endless battle of the brain and the head. Maybe i shouldnt work so hard, he dont even seems like he cares. This is not what i want but why. I tried so hard.. i used to attract him back even he's with other girl and even when he said he chose the other girl over me,but this time the condition is totally different. Please tell me what should i do and think now.i felt so low self esteem because that girl seems so pretty.. maybe even better than i am.

Really it's so important to not focus on his pages on social media as it can be so hurtful. Don't even go there because they are not a part of the reality you want to create. Every time you see a pic of him with some other girl it will just make you feel terrible and will send out the vibration of him being with other women, which wil carry on and on and on.... So avoid those pages totally.

Forget that they exist and create in your mind the reality that you want with this guy instead. Now Im sure that you are every bit as pretty as these other girls and there was definitely something in you that attracted him in the first place. Maybe he even told you that he loved your hair or your eyes or some other feature.  There was something about you that he liked really a lot, and so imagine that he feels that way again. Remember how he was when he was chasing you and wanting your company and your attention. Remember all those details clearly, but maybe make him even more passionate in your mind's eye so that he only has eyes for you! Think only of how you want things to be with him. Imagine him telling you that he knows in his heart that you are the only one for him! Just focus on the positive and forget the negative completely because if he had those feelings before, then they will stil be there in him somewhere. You just need to bring up those feelings in him again by visualizing him being crazy in love with you.
 

Last edited by Debbie (10/24/2015 5:26 am)

Debbie wrote:

Hisoneandonly wrote:

I should just giveup on him right... he just posted a picture on snapchat with a girl...he's moving on... what should i do...he really just dont love me anymore..i feel so hurt right now, it's an endless battle of the brain and the head. Maybe i shouldnt work so hard, he dont even seems like he cares. This is not what i want but why. I tried so hard.. i used to attract him back even he's with other girl and even when he said he chose the other girl over me,but this time the condition is totally different. Please tell me what should i do and think now.i felt so low self esteem because that girl seems so pretty.. maybe even better than i am.

Really it's so important to not focus on his pages on social media as it can be so hurtful. Don't even go there because they are not a part of the reality you want to create. Every time you see a pic of him with some other girl it will just make you feel terrible and will send out the vibration of him being with other women, which wil carry on and on and on.... So avoid those pages totally.

Forget that they exist and create in your mind the reality that you want with this guy instead. Now Im sure that you are every bit as pretty as these other girls and there was definitely something in you that attracted him in the first place. Maybe he even told you that he loved your hair or your eyes or some other feature.  There was something about you that he liked really a lot, and so imagine that he feels that way again. Remember how he was when he was chasing you and wanting your company and your attention. Remember all those details clearly, but maybe make him even more passionate in your mind's eye so that he only has eyes for you! Think only of how you want things to be with him. Imagine him telling you that he knows in his heart that you are the only one for him! Just focus on the positive and forget the negative completely because if he had those feelings before, then they will stil be there in him somewhere. You just need to bring up those feelings in him again by visualizing him being crazy in love with you.
 

Aww thankyou debbie when I was reading your comment, those image and feelings just comes up to my head and my heart  (love) but he never tells me what he love about me. (errr)
 

Hisoneandonly wrote:

Debbie wrote:

Hisoneandonly wrote:

I should just giveup on him right... he just posted a picture on snapchat with a girl...he's moving on... what should i do...he really just dont love me anymore..i feel so hurt right now, it's an endless battle of the brain and the head. Maybe i shouldnt work so hard, he dont even seems like he cares. This is not what i want but why. I tried so hard.. i used to attract him back even he's with other girl and even when he said he chose the other girl over me,but this time the condition is totally different. Please tell me what should i do and think now.i felt so low self esteem because that girl seems so pretty.. maybe even better than i am.

Really it's so important to not focus on his pages on social media as it can be so hurtful. Don't even go there because they are not a part of the reality you want to create. Every time you see a pic of him with some other girl it will just make you feel terrible and will send out the vibration of him being with other women, which wil carry on and on and on.... So avoid those pages totally.

Forget that they exist and create in your mind the reality that you want with this guy instead. Now Im sure that you are every bit as pretty as these other girls and there was definitely something in you that attracted him in the first place. Maybe he even told you that he loved your hair or your eyes or some other feature.  There was something about you that he liked really a lot, and so imagine that he feels that way again. Remember how he was when he was chasing you and wanting your company and your attention. Remember all those details clearly, but maybe make him even more passionate in your mind's eye so that he only has eyes for you! Think only of how you want things to be with him. Imagine him telling you that he knows in his heart that you are the only one for him! Just focus on the positive and forget the negative completely because if he had those feelings before, then they will stil be there in him somewhere. You just need to bring up those feelings in him again by visualizing him being crazy in love with you.
 

Aww thankyou debbie when I was reading your comment, those image and feelings just comes up to my head and my heart (love) but he never tells me what he love about me. (errr)
 

Well that isn't a problem at all because what you can do is think about all the things that you would really love him to say to you. Maybe even take a moment to write them down on a piece of paper. For example, if it were me I might imagine him saying: "you know, you're the only girl who I can really have in my heart." or "I miss you so much and I'm desperate for us to try again". Or whatever you feel is the kind of thing you really want him to say. Don't hold back or feel that it's silly. Noone will be there to see what you are imagining, so really think about how you would most like him to behave, with absolutely no limits. Imagine it the way a child does when playing make-believe.  Make it enjoyable. And then visualize it daily. Or twice daily if you can! It will only take a few minutes, but do it and enjoy it! Feel great as you see him behaving in this way in your mind and know that very soon this wil be happening in your reality too. If you keep visualizing that way, it absolutely HAS to happen sooner or later.
 

Last edited by Debbie (10/24/2015 8:54 am)

Ok.. So you started that post wonderfully well! And then you shot yourself in the foot by adding how much your ex loved his ex! You are the only person who can possibly know if the same thing will happen to you.. Because you are writing the story! So how does it end? You tell us? You've got everyone here cheering you on for a happy ending.. HOW does it end?!?!?!