PrettyFlamingo wrote:

If I was in a relationship with the love of my life I would still talk to other guys. Because I have a lot of friends and they are people, male and female. I went to a party last night and met an amazing guy. He's also married with four children! It's not about fancying people. We clicked about work and football. He told me all about his kids and work and connecting with him will be beneficial for what I'm doing. And do you know what? I'd have done the same even if I was happily married. We don't remotely fancy each other and his wife has nothing to fear from me. People have to have the freedom to be themselves.

I meant romantically. I know she has every right to talk to anyone, male or female. I think you misunderstand. I know she has male friends, and Idc if she talks with them, if we were together or not. If we were together, I wouldn't mind. I might be a little worried (When I say a little, I mean a little. Literally just a little.) and if I were to confirm it with her, I'd trust her on the initial go. I do have some trust issues from my past, hence the reason to ask, but at the same time, I'd definitely trust her if she were to tell me they're just friends

Last edited by YesIWILL (3/05/2017 4:10 am)

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

You mean flirting.

My mind isn't all here I don't think I'm explaining myself correctly. I'm sorry! But if we were together and she were flirting with other men? Of course I wouldn't be okay with that. If we were not together? Then she has every right to

Last edited by YesIWILL (3/05/2017 1:08 pm)

YesIWILL wrote:

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

You mean flirting.

My mind isn't all here I don't think I'm explaining myself correctly. I'm sorry! But if we were together and she were flirting with other men? Of course I wouldn't be okay with that. If we were not together? Then she has every right to

No I think you have misunderstood me or I haven't explained myself properly. I'm using my phone so I can't see the thread properly so will reread it.

PrettyFlamingo wrote:

To clarify what I meant:
 
I asked if your anxiety would make you worry, even if you were in a relationship with someone, that they would talk to other guys and go off with someone else, and had mentioned that I met a really interesting guy at a party yesterday and had a great conversation, but he is married and I’m not interested in that way, but that we were going to continue to connect professionally and that his wife had nothing to fear from me.
 
It depends what you mean by “talking to” other guys.
 
So I asked if you meant by “talking to” you really meant flirting.  And you thought I was asking if you were OK with a girlfriend of yours flirting with other guys when I didn’t mean that at all – that isn’t acceptable in my book either!
 
We are always going to talk to people of the opposite sex (or same sex if we are gay) in the ordinary course of life and through work, courses, study, events etc – that is life, that is perfectly normal and may even find them attractive momentarily, but it doesn’t mean that anything will happen or anyone will act on it.  You can’t let that worry you – it seems you are looking for things to worry about.  My best friend suffers with acute anxiety and she is very, very difficult to be around, draining and exhausting.  I walk on eggshells with her, but she won’t seek help for it.  At least you are doing that. She has a massive crush on a man who gets the train with her. It’s been going on since summer 2014 and she now thinks if he is late for the train it is because he is doing it to avoid her – no, it is probably because he’s overslept!  Her entire day is governed by Bob. It’s a good day if she sees Bob, it’s an excellent day if she and Bob chat, it’s a terrible day if she doesn’t see Bob, but if she sees Bob and he doesn’t speak, well, then the day is pure hell on earth.  

Oh! No I would be COMPLETELY okay and not anxious if she's speaking to other guys, non-flirting. I do love her, and if we were together, I'd trust her when she were to tell me that she loves me and only me. 

I just have to get my belief that I can get her back, back.

Are there any celebs that you have a crush on?