1 - MissMiles906
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He is engaged
For three out of the five years....this lying butch had been cheating on me and he is happily marrying her.
Claiming her child...as everyone thinks I'm a sad pathetic anxiety ridden spazz. Now I feel like BOOM.I knew I wasn't crazy. But now I'm dying today.
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Re: He is engaged
I've been where you are before. Do not be so hard on yourself. At least now you know how powerful you are because you were picking up on his negative and cheating vibes the entire time. You were never crazy, sad or pathetic. But, he did need you to feel that way so that he could get away with his juggling act and have you accepting the pieces of him that you were getting.
Please know that he isn't riding happily off into the sunset with her. Men like that are never happy and that is why they are pulling from so many women. That woman was probably making demands and he is engaged to shut her up.
The Universe is your playground.
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Knowing this should make me feel better... right?
But the thoughts come flooding in my head over the nights alone, fights about nothing, times where I was judged so harshly, being shames for being pregnant with HIS baby, the family jokes about being paranoid and insecure and worse the fact he shared us both intimately. I should me mad enough but I'm hurt.
Now h tells me nit to call unless it's about our kid...I don't call because he doesn't call about our kid. I am now the enemy as if I ruined his life when I finally learn it was him all along.
No one has apologized, no one has asked if I was ok, he hadn't even acknowledged all the pain could've been avoided.
How can i still love or miss a person who would do this? I want LOA to remove it from my soul. I was finally feeling like I could breathe and now this.
I'm hurting so much right now.
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Thread Starter- Avaelle
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He doesn't sound like a man I'd want to marry. It doesn't sound like she has a prize at all. How about apologizing to yourself? It's worth more than anything you could receive from him.
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Re: He is engaged
Hello Missmiles906 you need to wait & relax till right time come.
EFT method to surrender to God :
Hooponopono (it may emotional but will make you ok)
Listen & watch these both.
Hope it may help you.
Sending you lights.
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Just try to get up and work in yourself, is the best you can do, focus on yourself...
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Re: He is engaged
MissMiles906 wrote:
Knowing this should make me feel better... right?
But the thoughts come flooding in my head over the nights alone, fights about nothing, times where I was judged so harshly, being shames for being pregnant with HIS baby, the family jokes about being paranoid and insecure and worse the fact he shared us both intimately. I should me mad enough but I'm hurt.
Now h tells me nit to call unless it's about our kid...I don't call because he doesn't call about our kid. I am now the enemy as if I ruined his life when I finally learn it was him all along.
No one has apologized, no one has asked if I was ok, he hadn't even acknowledged all the pain could've been avoided.
How can i still love or miss a person who would do this? I want LOA to remove it from my soul. I was finally feeling like I could breathe and now this.
I'm hurting so much right now.
I know you are in a lot of pain, but letting it go is the only way you can set yourself free. Back when I was 20 years old, I was dumped by my first boyfriend. He pretty much was my first for everything. I ain't gonna lie, I could not see the light in the tunnel. But finally something inside told me that I should not want a man who does not want me. It wasn't easy at first. However I made up my mind and I have not looked back. I'm in my mid 30's now and I can say with all honesty that I am happy I went through that experience. It taught me so much about life and love. Since then, I have learned it is best to let people when they want to leave cause someone better will always come along. And this has remained true in life. And I had no idea what The Law Of Attraction was back then.
You can get through this. You just have to make up your mind about it. Everything else will follow naturally.
- MissMiles906
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Re: He is engaged
Knowing this should make me feel better... right?
But the thoughts come flooding in my head over the nights alone, fights about nothing, times where I was judged so harshly, being shames for being pregnant with HIS baby, the family jokes about being paranoid and insecure and worse the fact he shared us both intimately. I should me mad enough but I'm hurt.
Now h tells me nit to call unless it's about our kid...I don't call because he doesn't call about our kid. I am now the enemy as if I ruined his life when I finally learn it was him all along.
No one has apologized, no one has asked if I was ok, he hadn't even acknowledged all the pain could've been avoided.
How can i still love or miss a person who would do this? I want LOA to remove it from my soul. I was finally feeling like I could breathe and now this.
I'm hurting so much right now.I know you are in a lot of pain, but letting it go is the only way you can set yourself free. Back when I was 20 years old, I was dumped by my first boyfriend. He pretty much was my first for everything. I ain't gonna lie, I could not see the light in the tunnel. But finally something inside told me that I should not want a man who does not want me. It wasn't easy at first. However I made up my mind and I have not looked back. I'm in my mid 30's now and I can say with all honesty that I am happy I went through that experience. It taught me so much about life and love. Since then, I have learned it is best to let people when they want to leave cause someone better will always come along. And this has remained true in life. And I had no idea what The Law Of Attraction was back then.
You can get through this. You just have to make up your mind about it. Everything else will follow naturally.
I hadn't replied to your response because I was having mixed feelings about it. But I'm actually glad I read your reply. I AM getting through it. Apparently he cheated for three years and I found the love in it too. Realizing he found who made him happy softens the blow. I promise you I didn't think that at first. In my heart I'm grateful to the universe /God that it is happening. I would not have gained much being with him. He doesn't want our daughter and we don't bring out the best in each other. He and I are far from a perfect fit and his family is not one id like my kid to learn from.
Now I'm trying so hard to determine moving outta state, I want to follow my dreams I put on hold six years ago. I can't put my finger on it but I see Texas every where I go and that's where I wanna be. Same with the type of man I want to love me and help raise my daughter. I haven't met him. Matter fact I've met noone. But I assume I need to get to Texas first.
I wanna trust karma is real and believe it will kick his ass.. their ass...but then again I prefer them to enjoy THEIR life at my expense and hope...not look forward to the reward of knowing he and I will NEVWR be a vibrational match. I'll never stoop low again!
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Re: He is engaged
Knowing this should make me feel better... right?
But the thoughts come flooding in my head over the nights alone, fights about nothing, times where I was judged so harshly, being shames for being pregnant with HIS baby, the family jokes about being paranoid and insecure and worse the fact he shared us both intimately. I should me mad enough but I'm hurt.
Now h tells me nit to call unless it's about our kid...I don't call because he doesn't call about our kid. I am now the enemy as if I ruined his life when I finally learn it was him all along.
No one has apologized, no one has asked if I was ok, he hadn't even acknowledged all the pain could've been avoided.
How can i still love or miss a person who would do this? I want LOA to remove it from my soul. I was finally feeling like I could breathe and now this.
I'm hurting so much right now.I know you are in a lot of pain, but letting it go is the only way you can set yourself free. Back when I was 20 years old, I was dumped by my first boyfriend. He pretty much was my first for everything. I ain't gonna lie, I could not see the light in the tunnel. But finally something inside told me that I should not want a man who does not want me. It wasn't easy at first. However I made up my mind and I have not looked back. I'm in my mid 30's now and I can say with all honesty that I am happy I went through that experience. It taught me so much about life and love. Since then, I have learned it is best to let people when they want to leave cause someone better will always come along. And this has remained true in life. And I had no idea what The Law Of Attraction was back then.
You can get through this. You just have to make up your mind about it. Everything else will follow naturally.I hadn't replied to your response because I was having mixed feelings about it. But I'm actually glad I read your reply. I AM getting through it. Apparently he cheated for three years and I found the love in it too. Realizing he found who made him happy softens the blow. I promise you I didn't think that at first. In my heart I'm grateful to the universe /God that it is happening. I would not have gained much being with him. He doesn't want our daughter and we don't bring out the best in each other. He and I are far from a perfect fit and his family is not one id like my kid to learn from.
Now I'm trying so hard to determine moving outta state, I want to follow my dreams I put on hold six years ago. I can't put my finger on it but I see Texas every where I go and that's where I wanna be. Same with the type of man I want to love me and help raise my daughter. I haven't met him. Matter fact I've met noone. But I assume I need to get to Texas first.
I wanna trust karma is real and believe it will kick his ass.. their ass...but then again I prefer them to enjoy THEIR life at my expense and hope...not look forward to the reward of knowing he and I will NEVER be a vibrational match. I'll never stoop low again!
It's very generous of you to say knowing he found who made him happy softened the blow. In this circumstance, I wouldn't hate the person - though I would feel very angry about the cheating for so long - but would thank my lucky stars this cheater was not part of my life anymore. Though with a child, it is far from simple, I would imagine.
I just treat people like this as zero in my life.
You deserve far better. X
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- MissMiles906
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Re: He is engaged
I totally appreciate this. I'm no saint but I DONT and DIDNT deserve three years of lies and torture and our kid deserves a man who wants to be her dad. So I'm ok. If I keep telling myself he KNEW I deserved more and left. His family KNEW I deserved better so the lied. They made fun of me and talked bad about me because they KNEW I was amazing and needed to feed their negativity.. I know I can get iver it easier everyday and forgive them.
I heard a quote that the best revenge is a well lived life and I'm making it my GOAL. i can only imagine the men that come into our life now. The opportunities that will be of value...the happiness I'll have will be genuine and not forced or faked or of worry of what even hell is coming next. He leaving is a blessing. And that girls new issue. I am going to do d a life better and my vibrational matches will be magnificent!
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